The RN Life Coach

23/11/2022

Well, I’m at the dentist!!

This is one of the things that scares me like crazy!!

But taking care of myself has given me the ability to go after things that once scared the bezeesus out of me.

So here I am!

My nervous system is on fire…

But I’m gonna do the damn thing anyway.

Please send love. ❤️

18/10/2022

Fear is a challenging emotion.

Most of the time, we won’t admit that’s what we’re feeling…only until we do…and then we decide that the thing we’re scared of is dumb and we must be crazy.

That’s just a sneaky way of ignoring your feelings.

Fear is there for a reason.

Your body wants you to look at it so you can figure it out. (That’s why you feel the way you do.)

Your brain wants you to ignore it so you can stay at baseline. (That’s why you are constantly thinking about it. 😆)

One of the ways our brain stops us is to say that “it’s better to be afraid, then to feel safe”. We tend to believe that scared people are prepared people.

But that’s not true. Scared people stay still because they don’t know what to do.

Motivated people are prepared because they aren’t afraid.

It is safe to believe that you are safe.

I know it feels scary but that’s the whole point.

❤️

17/10/2022

Do you ever think about little you?

What would you say to her if you could?

05/10/2022

I don’t want my son to remember me as the “exhausted Mom” who “put everyone’s needs before her own”.

I used to tell people that’s what I wanted.

That one day my child would understand the sacrifices I had made for him.

But today I hear how those words sound to the person you sacrificed for.

It might teach him that exhaustion and stress is how you know you’re a good parent.

It might teach him that pushing yourself is the way to succeed.

And those are no longer the lessons I want to teach.

Today I want to teach him that rest is important.

That taking care of yourself is important.

And the only way I’m going to be able to do that is if I do it myself.

I must lead by example. He won’t learn it any other way.

❤️

04/10/2022

02/10/2022

This is the picture I took of the grocery list before I left for the store.

I had to laugh at myself when I found it because not only did I have no idea what to buy but it was such a great representation of my speed today.

I felt good and was folllwing my schedule and also I may have been rushing without even noticing it. I tend to push myself to go fast at baseline.

A few years ago, I may have judged myself. I might’ve been angry for not taking the time to check the photo before I left the house.

But I don’t do that anymore.

Now I just notice and check in with how I’m feeling.

How could you replace anger at yourself with curiosity?

23/09/2022

Husband: I think I’m gonna wear my slippers.

Me: Aww, you look like such a Dad. 🥰

Husband: Well, you look like a s*x goddess so that works out.

🤣🤣🤣

It’s not about how you look. It’s about what your spouse SEES when he looks at you.

Mine sees a s*x goddess while others might see a sleep deprived night shift nurse.

Both get to be true because both are subjective.

We see what we BELIEVE, not what’s actually in front of us.

So decide what you want to believe about yourself and watch what happens. ❤️❤️❤️

(How I currently look ⬇️⬇️⬇️)

23/09/2022

Sometimes life looks like taking your blood pressure at the dinner table. 🤷‍♀️

I used to beat myself up for having hypertension but today I allowed it fully.

I noticed my symptoms, monitored my pressure regularly and prioritized rest.

This is new behavior because I am no longer telling myself that I’m ”bad” just because I have high blood pressure.

When I believed that, I ignored it, didn’t take my meds and pushed through exhaustion.

I don’t do that anymore.

Today was a win.

03/09/2022

Texts with my husband 🤣🤣🤣

It cracks me up and warms my heart that no matter what I say or do, my husband assumes the best. Because it’s me. And he loves that. 🥰

Surrounding yourself with people who support you MORE than you do is the key to this whole thing.

We need to BELIEVE we can do something before we even attempt to do it.

If we have people telling us we can’t, then chances are we won’t even try. Or if we do, we’ll quit because “there’s no way I could ever do that”.

Surround yourself with people who counteract that little voice in your head that says “I’ll never be able to do that” with “You know you can do it. We just have to figure out how”.

29/07/2022

I’m not feeling well.

And for the first time in my life, I’m not mad at myself for getting sick.

Normally, I worry like crazy about going back to work, cancelling plans, disappointing people and I gotta say, right now…I couldn’t care less about those things.

I am taking the advice that I tell my clients, my patients, my friends…well, pretty much anyone who’ll listen…

When we are sick, we rest. Period.

It does no one any good to show up like this. And the only way to heal is to rest.

So rest, I shall. GUILT FREE!!! Ahhh, how freeing!!

PS I’d love little gifs or messages to keep me company.

❤️❤️❤️

28/07/2022

25/06/2022

10/06/2022

09/06/2022

Anger is just a coping mechanism (a tool) we use when we’re afraid or sad.

It’s not a character flaw.

Women tend to get angry with me when I say that I have been through infidelity and healed.

They tell me things like…

* Your husband doesn’t respect you anymore

* He’s probably still cheating

* You are dangerous to women

* You’re telling people it’s okay to cheat

This is just their way of coping.

It feels scary to hear that someone did something you wouldn’t do.

It makes you question if there’s something wrong with you. So, to cope, you start thinking about what could be wrong with me. 😆

This is totally normal.

It’s also a huge tool to use.

Notice when you get angry and look at where it could have come from. It didn’t come from the circumstances. It came from what you thought about the circumstances.

I promise. ❤️

09/06/2022

Recently, I've been asking myself..."How could this be fun?"

It's a simple tool I use to motivate myself.

You see, I want to be a good nurse who loves on her patients and also working 12 hours overnight is exhausting work. So I asked myself yesterday, how could going to work be fun? And I found myself stopping at Target for dry erase markers and drumsticks. I figured ice cream makes everybody's day more fun, right?

Well, I entered a whole other level last weekend when I decided we had been postponing purging our closet. We had 5 loads of laundry in the basement waiting to be finished and were still drowning in clothes upstairs. Something had to be done. But I've purged before and it is not easy. You are attached to things. Saying good bye to pants you once fit in, is emotional. But I said to myself..."How could this be fun?"

And then I let my mind wander. What could I do? Could I have a Purge Party? There's a movie called The Purge. What if we watch it while we purge our clothes and make it a theme night?

I mentioned it to Ben and he was in right away. Tyler took some convincing but ended up just filling a bag and skipping the movie. In the end, we filled three heavy duty garbage bags, donated all of the clothes to charity, had a blast AND our room feels much more comfortable. Win-win!

How could you make your life more fun?

What if you scheduled 30 minutes to read today? Or 10 minutes to journal your thoughts? Lay in the sun? What if you decided to get Starbucks on the way to work or brought a cookie for the mid-shift munchies?

The point is the possibilities are endless. The only thing stopping you is your thoughts. Let me know if you want to change that.

Love you 💖

06/06/2022

I had to adjust this to remove the guilt and shame but the point is still there.

We all do this from time to time.

Just notice, without judgement, when your brain says “Ew I can’t believe she (wore/said/did/spent) that”

And then call me and we’ll start disempowering those thoughts. ❤️😁❤️

31/05/2022