05/12/2013
Beautiful words!!!
Dear Mom,
I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face, sad and furious. We don’t know each other, but I just heard about what is happening to you. I heard that you were told that because your baby is breech, a normal birth is no longer an option for you – not because it’s not possible, but because no one in your area will support anything other than surgery.
I know that you agreed to the surgery, but asked for three evidence-based practices along with that surgery that would make things healthier and safer for your baby and you. And that having those things - especially being "allowed" to hold your baby after he is born - would give you a small but priceless sense of control over what is happening now. A little piece of humanity.
I know that you were simply told “no” on those three things. No reason – just “no.” Your wishes didn’t factor in. Your individual circumstances didn’t factor in. Neither did the medical evidence or known best practices.
I feel for you – pushed around, defeated, without a voice. I know this feeling. I have been there. So have many thousands of others of women around this country.
I know that it’s easy to give in, and it’s hard to fight, when you feel like you are all alone.
You are not alone. You are not alone. I am here, screaming and shouting for you, and so are so many others. We are here for you. We are women and we are mothers and we are saying, what happens to the least of us happens to all of us. We won’t take it any more.
Don’t wait for someone to hand your power back to you. Take it. Take it a thousand times over. It was always yours to begin with.
Be strong. You are never alone. Take back your power and hold on to it. Stand on your rights and stand on your strength. Stand on all of our strength. You may feel like a leaf on the ocean right now, but please know that we are all behind you, and we are the ocean.
Love to you,
Another Mother
Human Rights in Childbirth