Geoff Steurer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (2025)

13/08/2025

There are three types of couples (no, this isn't a setup for a joke 😜).

The first type of couple is the pursuer/withdrawer dynamic. One is trying to get close while the other is trying to move away. Even though this keeps them stuck, they're both trying to stabilize the relationship in the way that makes the most sense to them.

The second type of marriage involves two pursuers. This is a high energy marriage where you have two people who have more direct conflict with each other. There is passion all around, even though it looks pretty dramatic at times.

The third type is when you have two withdrawers. This relationship is defined by avoidance and low engagement.

What's the toughest couple to help in my role as a marriage therapist?

You guessed it...the withdraw/withdraw pattern.

You can shape the energy of the first two marriages I described. However, trying to breathe life into a withdrawn and shut down marriage is super difficult.

What does this mean for you if you're married? It means that if you're feeling withdrawn, indifferent, or shut down, it's important to recognize this as a warning sign of a dying relationship.

We all have times of feeling this way, but when it becomes the default, it will keep you from fighting for your connection.

Indifference isn't just being chill. It's the opposite of actively building a strong connection.

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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🎙️ Listen to the Latest ‘From Crisis to Connection’ Podcast Episode: https://unashamedunafraid.com/blog/2020/8/6/episode-37-disclosure-dos-amp-donts-with-geoff-steurer

11/08/2025

It's amazing how many creative ways you can solve issues when you're being treated with respect and consideration.

Safety, respect, and kindness are mandatory if you're going to work through difficult issues.

The way you work through the issues is always way more important than the issues.

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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🎙️ Listen to the Latest ‘From Crisis to Connection’ Podcast Episode: https://unashamedunafraid.com/blog/2020/8/6/episode-37-disclosure-dos-amp-donts-with-geoff-steurer

07/08/2025

What do you do when your child is already struggling with po*******hy or other s*xual behaviors that feel out of control?

In this episode, I join host Tara McCausland to talk about one of the most challenging topics facing parents today and how to approach it with connection, compassion, and clarity.

We cover:
🧠 Why a relationship-first approach makes all the difference
🗣 How to create a home where your child feels safe talking about their struggles
❤️ The power of connection before correction
👀 Why parents need to own their own discomfort with s*x, devices, and shame
🛠 When professional help may be necessary, and how to know

Whether your child is already caught in the trap or you’re trying to prevent it, this conversation will give you tools to stay connected, model self-compassion, and lead from a place of honesty and care.

Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-now-helping-kids-already-struggling-with/id1685787119?i=1000720710751

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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29/07/2025

A very happy birthday to my favorite person in the world!⁣
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I recently ran across a phrase from that perfectly describes Jody…⁣
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“Full contact love”
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Anyone who knows her has experienced her incredible ability to get in close, ask good questions, discern real needs, and fearlessly lean in. ⁣
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Plus, she’s a lot of fun and has the best laugh ever!⁣
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Happy Birthday Jody! ⁣
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25/07/2025

Disclosure can either deepen the damage or begin the healing.

I joined the UnashamedUnafraid podcast to talk about one of the most critical steps in recovery: how to tell the truth about your betrayal or addiction in a way that actually helps your partner heal.

We talked about:
• The wrong ways to disclose (like the “drive-by” confession or drip disclosure)
• Why honesty all at once is essential for healing
• How working with a therapist can minimize trauma
• What betrayed partners really need to begin trusting again

As I said in the episode:
“Every day that you don’t tell your spouse about your addiction is one more day that she will feel you manipulated her.”

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the path of truth-telling, accountability, and repair.

🎧 Listen here: https://unashamedunafraid.com/blog/2020/8/6/episode-37-disclosure-dos-amp-donts-with-geoff-steurer

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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24/07/2025

Feelings come and go, especially when you’re hurting, overwhelmed, or in the thick of rebuilding trust.

But love that lasts? Compassion that heals?

They’re built on choices.

💬 Choosing to stay curious when it would be easier to shut down.
💬 Choosing to repair instead of retreat.
💬 Choosing to see the humanity in yourself and in the other person.

Real love isn’t always a feeling, it’s the commitment to keep showing up.

Especially when it’s hard.

💬 What does love as a choice look like for you right now?

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

Let’s Stay Connected:
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🎙️ Listen to the Latest ‘From Crisis to Connection’ Podcast Episode: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149048427

21/07/2025

Kids are perceptive.
They may not have the words, but they feel the tension.
They notice the silence, the shift in energy, the tears behind closed doors.
And when no one talks about what’s going on, they start filling in the blanks themselves.
Often with self-blame, fear, or confusion.
You don’t have to give them every detail—but you do owe them truth wrapped in safety.
Because pretending everything’s fine doesn’t protect them.

Presence does.
Honesty does.
Connection does.

💬 Have you ever noticed how your child absorbs more than they let on?

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍 Website: https://www.geoffsteurer.com
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🎙️ Listen to the Latest ‘From Crisis to Connection’ Podcast Episode: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149048427

03/07/2025

🎙 I was honored to be a guest on the ‘Choose to Be’ podcast with Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey, where we explored a topic that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: s*xual consent in marriage.

In committed relationships, especially after betrayal, it’s easy to assume that consent is implied or automatic. But when secrecy, disconnection, or trauma are present, the dynamics around s*xual consent change in powerful and often painful ways.

In this conversation, we dive into:
🧠 What consent really means in a marriage
💔 How betrayal impacts emotional and physical safety
🛠 How couples can begin to rebuild trust and intimacy with care, clarity, and mutual respect

Whether you’re healing from betrayal or working to reconnect with your partner, this episode offers honest insights and real tools to help navigate one of the most important, and often overlooked, parts of relational repair.

🎧 Listen today. You won’t want to miss this one. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s*xual-consent-in-marriage-with-geoff-steurer-ms-lmft/id1544818159?i=1000594918794

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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02/07/2025

Sobriety is a critical step, but it’s not the finish line.
You can stop the behavior and still carry the mindset, the secrecy, the emotional unavailability that broke trust in the first place.

If she’s still on edge…
If her body still tenses when you walk in the room…
If she keeps asking the same questions…
It’s not because she’s stuck.
It’s because something still doesn’t feel safe.

Real safety isn’t declared—it’s felt.
And if she’s not feeling it yet, it doesn’t mean she’s unreasonable.
It means there’s more work to do. Together.

💬 What has safety looked like—or felt like—for you in recovery?

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

Let’s Stay Connected:
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🎙️ Listen to the Latest ‘From Crisis to Connection’ Podcast Episode: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149048427

27/06/2025

I had the honor of joining Dr. Debi Silber on the From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast to talk about one of the hardest—and most transformative—topics in relationships: rebuilding trust after betrayal.

We covered:
✅ What most therapists get wrong about betrayal recovery
✅ Why full disclosure is a trauma-informed process (not just confession)
✅ How the betrayer can become a source of healing
✅ What real empathy, accountability, and safety look like
✅ Why courage, not comfort, is the key to healing

Whether you’ve been betrayed or are working to repair trust, this conversation will give you a roadmap for what’s possible when two people are willing to do the work.

🎧 Listen now (link in bio) https://thepbtinstitute.com/425-rebuilding-trust-after-betrayal-what-it-really-takes-with-geoff-steurer/

🔁 Please share with anyone who needs hope after betrayal.

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

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23/06/2025

You might be doing the right things—therapy, accountability, emotional work—but if you expect instant results, you’ll miss the point.

Healing takes time.
Trust takes time.
Integration takes time.

Rushing can look like:
⚠️ Demanding forgiveness
⚠️ Pushing for connection too soon
⚠️ Needing constant reassurance that it’s “working”

But real growth is quiet. Slow. Sometimes invisible.
It’s happening even when you can’t measure it.
Don’t let urgency undo everything your heart is working so hard to build.

💬 Where are you being invited to slow down and stay steady?

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍 Website: https://www.geoffsteurer.com
📩 Subscribe to My Email List: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-social-media
🎙️ Listen to the Latest ‘From Crisis to Connection’ Podcast Episode: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149048427

21/06/2025

📣 New Episode Drop
Most betrayal recovery resources focus on the early stages: sobriety, stabilization, and crisis management.

But what happens after the dust settles?

In this episode (taken from my recent presentation at the Betrayal Healing Conference), I talk about what later-stage recovery actually looks like, and why so many couples get stuck here.

🎙️ You’ll learn:
✔️ Why surviving the crisis doesn’t mean you’re done healing
✔️ The biggest trap couples fall into after things “calm down”
✔️ How to rebuild true partnership through curiosity, emotional honesty, and shared vision
✔️ Why old coping tools won’t help you grow

If you’ve done the work but still feel disconnected, this conversation is for you.

🎧 Listen now: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149048427

Free Video Training for Betrayed Partners: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/romance-after-betrayal

🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together

Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍 Website: https://www.geoffsteurer.com
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