Debra Wallace M.S. LMFT, Positive Reframe

27/09/2025

👶💜 Has Parenthood Changed You? 💜👶

Parenthood has stretched me to extremes, from moments of harmony and joy to days of exhaustion and overwhelm. But more than anything, it has changed me from reacting with fear to responding with love.

It has been the hardest, most humbling, and most healing journey of my life, shaping me into a person with empathy, resilience, and a deeper appreciation for every single moment.

✨ Parenthood is a mirror; it reflects back our strengths, struggles, and growth. And while the journey isn’t always easy, it’s undeniably transformative.

⌨️ Read more: https://positivereframe.org/2021/08/23/has-parenthood-changed-you/

💭 Has parenthood changed you? I’d love to hear your story in the comments.

27/09/2025

“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” ― Desmond Tutu

As I have been prioritizing healing from breast cancer, I have been unable to do my Pause and Process videos as much as I would like to. The weight of the world is SO heavy. I want to process the recent murders, violence, su***de, autism, mental health, the Epstein files, and sexual abuse. I have experience with too many of these issues. Here is Pause and Process I did earlier this year that covers many of these topics and is sadly still relevant...

In this Pause & Process Politics episode, we explore the impact of proposed mental health funding cuts—specifically to the su***de hotline and LGBTQ+ services—and why these decisions matter. We define trauma as anything too much, too fast, too soon for the nervous system to handle, and discuss the lifelong effects of early caregiving environments on brain development.

This space offers tools like the Voo Breath to regulate the nervous system and encourages a shift from labeling disorders to fostering mental wellness. Empathy, care, and feeling safe are not luxuries—they are necessities for healing and resilience.

References in Talk

https://positivereframe.org/2018/09/20/reframe-on-mental-illness/

https://positivereframe.org/2024/10/21/how-to-cultivate-world-peace-and-improve-well-being/

https://www.childtrauma.org/brain-dev-neuroscience

https://beaconhouse.org.uk/resources/

https://www.youtube.com//featured

Voo breath with Peter Levine https://youtu.be/n1bPdbBF1Ck?si=8oVxjI5EtTX_fsil

💙 Debra Wallace, MS, LMFT is a passionate therapist, educator, and social entrepreneur with over two decades of experience helping individuals, couples, and families heal, grow, and thrive. Through her practice, Positive Reframe, Debra blends neuroscience, somatic therapies, and creative expression to empower clients to transform trauma into resilience. With a heart for justice and a deep belief in our innate capacity to heal, she brings warmth, wisdom, and playful insight to her work—guiding others toward connection, clarity, and courageous living.

Disclaimer:

Positive Reframe shares resources for educational purposes only and encourages informed decision-making related to issues associated with emotional, relational, physical, and spiritual wellness. Positive Reframe content reflects the personal opinion of Debra Wallace and is not intended to substitute professional advice, diagnosis, and treatment. This online medium does not lend itself to the level of detail and rapport-building required for thorough assessment and ther**eutic intervention. To make well-informed decisions that best meet your family’s unique needs, I recommend consulting primary healthcare providers and seeking referrals from a trusted source for professional counseling. Debra is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the states of Illinois & Wisconsin, USA.

https://youtube.com/live/VHNydGV3xMk

In this Pause & Process Politics episode, we explore the impact of proposed mental health funding cuts—specifically to the su***de hotline and LGBTQ+ service...

26/09/2025

26/09/2025

Texas isn’t divided the way you think…

The real divide in Texas isn’t left versus right. It’s between those who want to fix what’s broken and those who benefit from keeping it that way.

Some people see problems and focus on finding solutions. Others experience the same problems differently, sometimes benefiting from the way systems currently operate.

Focusing on the right or left can distract from the bigger picture: understanding where change is needed, how it can happen, and who it affects.

26/09/2025

I used to be my own harshest critic, quietly listing everything I hadn’t done well, every tiny stumble, every imperfect day. As a teacher and a mum, I guide children to be kind to themselves, and yet I realised I wasn’t always taking my own advice. So I began to try a different voice: the one I use with the kids I care about, the one that notices effort, comforts failure, and celebrates small wins.

Now when I make a mistake or feel overwhelmed, I pause and ask, “What would I say to someone I love?” The reply is gentler. It notices resilience instead of fault, it holds hope instead of judgement, and it offers a cup of kindness, even if only in words. That voice doesn’t erase the hard bits, but it makes them easier to carry.

Try it today. Speak to yourself with the same warmth you’d offer a friend. You might be surprised how quickly your whole day and your heart, shifts. 🩷

Thanks Brené Brown for the beautiful inspiration x

26/09/2025

26/09/2025

Dive into the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) with its pioneers, Dr. Stephen Porges and Karen Onderko, in this podcast with Justin Sunseri, LMFT.

25/09/2025

24/09/2025

23/09/2025

https://goodmenproject.com/families/the-healthy-sex-talk-teaching-kids-consent-ages-1-21/

A list of parenting action items, created in the hope that we can raise a generation of children who have less r**e and sexual assault in their lives...from toddlers to teens.

23/09/2025

https://e2epublishing.info/products/my-body-safety-rules-free-poster

An informative and educational poster for children of all ages. It contains a set of body safety rules to help children learn and remember to keep themselves safe. Each rule is designed to promote physical and emotional safety, and to help kids protect their bodies.