Paula Siegel MFT

02/25/2019

https://johnpavlovitz.com/2019/02/21/everyone-around-you-is-grieving-go-easy/

The day my father died, I was at the grocery store buying bananas. I remember thinking to myself, “This is insane. Your dad just died. Why the hell are you buying bananas?” But we needed bananas. We’d be waking up for breakfast tomorrow morning, and there wouldn’t be any bananas—so there I...

02/25/2019

It’s been a while since I posted anything on this site.
Recommending two books:
Into the Magic Shop by Dr. James Doty
And S*x & Girls by Peggy Orenstein.
Important books for our times!

11/15/2017

I’ve started reading a compelling new book by Esther Perel entitled:
The State of Affairs Rethinking Infidelity

Reading her words have invited me to pause and examine my own thoughts and feelings, both personal and professional about this very complex human behavior and the multitude of responses that follows in its wake.

The human heart, and human behaviors that are driven by it, is indeed worthy of this in-depth inquiry and exploration. I’ve only just begun and I’m already captivated by Esther’s willingness to delve into this deeply controversial subject.

Worth reading for the couples therapist professional or anyone with a human heart✨

11/15/2017

It’s been quite a while since I posted anything here. A lot has happened between then and now.
Some of you may know that I’ve been facilitating a monthly group for adult children facing the challenges of aging parents. We typically meet on the third Sunday of every month in my Sonoma Office. Participants share personal experiences, share information and resources, and share a light meal to close the time together. This is not a drop in group. In fact some of the group members have been meeting since the groups inception several years ago. There is no fee for the group but donations are welcome. And it is not a potluck, though members can bring food to share if they are so compelled.

If you or someone you know is feeling stressed and challenged with issues related to aging parents and or adult siblings, and would like more information about this group, please contact me at:

Paulasiegelmft@comcast.net or

415.459.3290

I welcome your calls or emails!

06/30/2016

Great Article: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/03/adhd.aspx

Undiagnosed ADHD affects millions of adults and their relationships, but is highly treatable.

06/30/2016

Did you know this about Skype? I didn't.....check this out!
https://www.thera-link.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/10ReasonsNotToUseSkype.pdf

06/16/2016

I've been working with many couples lately. Some who've been married 30 plus years, some who are only two or three years into it and some who are contemplating marriage. Quite the mix and so so gratifying. What an honor it is to be welcomed into this sacred space between two people. I am hearing many of these people speak about their intimacy and death of the s*xual spark that was so alive and vibrant in the beginning. "How to get it back" they wonder. And I listen compassionately as I gently help them inquire into this question.

Here is a poem I found in the beginning of the book by Esther Perel titled, Mating in Captivity.

This poem is titled:

Wild Things in Captivity by D. H. Lawrence

Wild things in captivity
while they keep their own wild purity
won't breed, they mope, they die.

All men are in captivity,
Active with captive activity,
and the best won't breed, though they don't know why.

The great cage of our domesticity
kills s*x in a man, the simplicity
of desire is distorted and twisted awry.

And so, with bitter perversity,
gritting against the great adversity,
the young ones copulate, hate it, and want to cry.

S*x is a state of grace,
In a cage it can't take place.
Break the cage then start in and try.

D. H. Lawrence

(I believe that "man" is supposed to include all of humanity in this poem).

01/19/2016

As his soul makes its journey into the beyond, we remember this man who taught us how to sit in the fire and keep our hearts open. Dearest Stephen, may this transition be a gentle one....

The America spiritual writer and teacher Stephen Levine has died at age 78.

01/08/2016

Thank you for posting this Dr. Robin!

Ask a question, label emotions, make decisions and give hugs

01/08/2016

More Wisdom:
"We are all here on this planet, as it were, as tourists. None of us can live here forever. So while we are here we should try to have a good heart and to make something positive and useful of our lives. The most important thing is to be a good human being."

H. H. the Dalai Lama, from A Flash of Lightning in the Dark of Night.

01/08/2016

Wise words by Phillip Moffitt.....