21/11/2025
As children, many of us learned which emotions were “acceptable” and which ones led to disconnection or rejection.
So we learned to shut them down in order to stay attached to the people we loved.
Healing isn’t about getting rid of those emotions. It’s about creating safety to feel them, understand them, and move through them in ways we never could before.
This is the work of emotional regulation. When we regulate our emotions we do not control them, we connect with them. This allows us to connect with others in deep and meaningful ways. We cannot securely attaching to others if we do not securely attach to ourself. And we cannot securely attach to ourself if we do now allow ourself to feel all our feelings. We heal when we come home to ourself.
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