ThrivLife, offers empathetic counseling focused on helping you navigate life's challenges.
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There is power in laughter! I invite you: make a choice today to laugh even if/when you DON'T feel like laughing. 🙂 🙃 Especially alongside your spouse or family. Here's why:
It's exactly when you (or they) have had a tough day, or you're exhausted, or just "down" that you NEED a good laugh. A little bit of humor will help wash away the stress. 🚿🧼
Laughing will also keep your marriage and family together in moments when you’re coming unglued. Think of laughter as the adhesive that helps you stick together. 🩹😜
Don't you love this pic of these WIRED Workshop grads from summer 2022? Give them some love in the comments!
Our thoughts determine how we feel and behave. It can be hard to sort out all this on your own, 😵💫 but it changes EVERYTHING when you have someone walking alongside you, cheering you on and providing expert counseling.
I love working with clients through the complex layers of cognitive behavioral therapy in a way that DOESN'T overwhelm, exhaust or discourage. ✳️ Our minds really are maps for life and it makes all the difference when you have a guide to help navigate. 🗺️
Be mindful of your thoughts
📍 Your thoughts become your feelings
📍 Your feelings become your actions
📍 Your actions become your habits
📍 Your habits become your identity
📍 Your identity becomes your destiny
Give us a call to set up an appointment if you're interested in how counseling can help you!
"I have done years of counseling and this has been the best experience by far. Cassy is very knowledgable, personable, and patient. She creates a safe atmosphere in every session and I have been able to experience breakthrough and healing just from finally being able to share."
– Nicole J.
Thank you Nicole for this wonderful review! I love my clients, and helping them reach healing, freedom and wholeness.
15 minutes! ⬅️ All it takes to shift the daily dynamic with your teen. We've now hosted our second WIRED workshop this fall, and families have been learning the value of "Our Time." It's a GAME CHANGER, friends!
Our Time is daily, one-on-one connection with your teen. Take 15 minutes and it’s only ALL about your teen! Just sit and listen with them—no correction or guidance during this time. 😉 Your praise and attention is the most important focus for 15 solid minutes.
This focused time creates happy bonding feelings, nurtures emotional health, helps alleviate sibling rivalry, and protects kids from alcohol and drug use. Our Time works best with a prearranged time that's consistent. Let your teen choose the activity and you go along for the ride.
You'll find it more rewarding and fun than you imagined!
If your life is anything like mine, you're already anticipating the increased stress as we get closer to the holidays! 🛑 So before we get there, check out these methods to keep in your back pocket for when things get a little... tense.
1️⃣ Breath focus. In this simple, powerful technique, you take long, slow, deep breaths (also known as abdominal or belly breathing). As you breathe, you gently disengage your mind from distracting thoughts and sensations.
2️⃣ Body scan. This technique blends breath focus with progressive muscle relaxation. After a few minutes of deep breathing, you focus on one part of the body at a time and mentally releasing any physical tension you feel there.
3️⃣ Guided imagery. For this technique, you conjure up soothing scenes, places, or experiences in your mind to help you relax and focus. You can find free apps and online recordings of calming scenes—just make sure to choose imagery you find soothing and that has personal significance.
4️⃣ Mindfulness meditation. This practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing, and bringing your mind's attention to the present moment without drifting into concerns about the past or the future. May be especially helping for people who deal with anxiety, depression, and pain.
Adapted from Relaxation Techniques to Reduce Stress by Harvard Health
A family paint mess — who else wants to try this?! 🙋🏻♀️ Seems like a great family tradition to me. And family traditions help kids have fun and feel a sense of identity, belonging, and connectedness.
Our happiness is directly related to adopting pro-social values, giving service to others, and bonding with fun family traditions and happy family rituals.
Family traditions are ways of celebrating events or experiences that help kids experience joy, feel strengthened in who they are, and how much they belong—just as they are.
Want a few ideas to consider for adding new traditions to your family dynamic this season?
🫂 Family game night
🫂 Father-son outing
🫂 Daddy-daughter date
🫂 Monthly lunch date with Mom
🫂 Saturday special breakfast
🫂 Hold a family “Values” night and serve treats
What are some traditions you have in your home? Or ideas you may want to implement soon?
P A U S E . And breathe. Check on yourself. How are you feeling in your body? What kind of thoughts are you having? Just notice. Now relax your shoulders. Cross your fingers and stretch your arms above your head. Take a deep breath.
And back to the grind. 👋🏼
😘 Sometimes it's the simple things that help us reach from one moment to the next, and I love helping my clients find rhythms that work for them. Thanks for pausing with me today!
At ThrivLife Counseling, we offer individual therapy AND group sessions, both available in-person or online. 👥 💻 Our empathetic counseling is focused on helping you navigate life's challenges—because sometimes, ya just need a little help!
Instead of "talking at you," we come alongside you on your path to therapeutic growth. We're here, offering strength and powerful tools of change, healing and connection.
Like what?? 🔧 Therapeutic coping skills to help you navigate everyday stressors.
⚙️ Specific tools to address anxiety, depression, relationship stress and trauma.
⚙️ Approaches to confront toxic belief systems that hold you back from finding fulfillment and joy in your journey.
⚙️ Effective and transformative, solution focused therapy, to improve and empower your life.
⚙️ A partnership team approach between client and therapist to accomplish your goals and help you thriv–!
If you're interested in how ThrivLife can help you, DM us or give us a call. We're ready for ya, friend. (757) 453-7800
Whatever you're facing in your family's life is not "too far gone." That child of yours is still there.
I love working with families and individuals who are stuck, struggling, and even ready to give up. There is HOPE! There is a thriving life available for you, and I want to help you find it, maintain it and starting living it.
Give me a call if you want to chat. (757) 453-7800
Families working . . . TOGETHER. Our second ever WIRED Workshop is happening now through mid-October, with families who are committed each week to growing stronger and closer. And it's SO FUN!
This really is the work of eternity, I believe. Investing in your own family is one of the single greatest things you can do with your time and resources.
Catching the "ah-ha" moments that these parents and teens are having each week is an absolute thrill.
Where are my WIRED families at? Let's cheer each other on! Past or present, comment with some love down below! ⬇️
And we all tap "add to cart." 😆
Now that school here to stay ➡️ And we MIGHT be encountering negative behavior from our young people (???) ⬅️ Get these pointers for parents and teachers!
We have to start with understanding what's BEHIND bad behavior in children and teens?
A class clown 🤡 may be:
➕ Motivated by avoiding class work as a diversion
➕ In need of attention and admiration
➕ Or maybe he's lacking confidence and therefore mocking his classmates
What about lying?? 🤥
➕ Exaggeration of truth is often used to mask insecurities, while other lies may be more deceptive in nature, like the lie of omission.
➕ Teens know parents may not give permission when all the facts are known, keeping the juicy details out of the convo.
As a parent or teacher, how do you DEAL WITH these and other bad behaviors?
➕ Help your child label their emotions to discover the feelings that are underneath.
➕ Take time to discover the “need” for the child’s “bad” behavior.
➕ Make time for regular “dates” with your child to improve communication and discuss the hot topics.
➕ And lastly, praise and notice the good behaviors. Use the 5/1 ratio for building positive connections (e.g. 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative exchange).
Is this helpful? Would you like to see more practical tips like these? I am cheering you on, and by your side!
Our internal voice is SO important to our wellbeing! Try shifting these common negative thought patterns into positive and life-giving statements.
We're here to help you thriv. 🌿 Tag or share with a friend!
Eeeek! I cannot wait for WIRED Workshop to start next week! 🙌🏼 Who has Qs? Drop 'em here in the comments, or DM us to find out anything you're wondering about!
Research shows that when children have parents who regularly use EMOTION COACHING with them 🚩🚩🚩 they have better physical health, get better grades in school, have fewer behavior problems, get along better with friends, and are more emotionally resilient and mentally healthy than children whose parents don’t use the skill.
Use these tips to help your child understand and label their emotions in order to express them in prosocial ways. 👍🏾
1. This graphic can help your children identify and label their emotions. You can have them repeat the words to describe how they are feeling, and give examples.
2. Help your children decide on prosocial ways to express their emotions; and set behavior limits so they know what is, and is not, acceptable.
3. Be aware and pay mindful attention to your child’s feelings and emotions.
4. Take a deep breath and calm yourself when a child exhibits negative emotions, and recognize it as a teaching opportunity.
5. When children react in antisocial ways, privately review this graphic with them. Have them describe a prosocial way to express their emotions instead. Have them practice it and compliment them on their progress.
6. Listen kindly and intently; seek to understand by paraphrasing what he/she appears to be feeling, and validate your child’s right to feel that way (even if you disagree).
We are all on this path together, friends, and I am here to support you!
Here’s how to confront negative behavior in a way that ⬇️ REDUCES ⬇️ conflict, instead of increases it! 👉🏼 7 clear steps for this common parenting challenge:
1. Find a good time to talk privately and calmly.
2. Describe the behavior you observed.
3. Ask what happened.
4. Ask what your teen or child could have done differently.
5. Ask what they can do to correct behavior and make amends. Give consequence if needed.
6. Ask them to practice the correct behavior.
7. Express love.
We help families learn these methods and (many more!) in our upcoming WIRED Workshop for parents and teens (age 11-18). Starting September 8!
🔥 Get info at WIREDFAMILIES.ORG or DM us with any questions.
Parents: there really IS a way for you or your kids to climb out of whatever valley you are stuck in. 🖐🏽 Promise.
When you understand some of the science and psychology of how your kids' brains actually work, you acquire a whole new way of thinking, responding, and preparing for those "tough moments."
I absolutely loved facilitating the WIRED Workshop this spring, I'm excited for the next one starting ✨September 8 (now for ages 11-18!)✨ AND we are already planning on what's next to resource families, parents and individuals this winter.
IF YOU COULD PICK one counseling-related topic, demographic or issue, what would it be? 🔁 What's on your mind or surfacing in your social circles this season? Let me know in the comments so I can add it to our brainstorm list! ⤵️
Parenting is hard. We all know that. But if you want to raise a well-adjusted, confident, and happy ADULT 🔊 it's an investment worth making.
Check out our WIRED Workshop starting September 8! WIREDFAMILIES.ORG for info.
Tips for your parenting toolbox 👇 Because let's be honest...
One of the hardest things for parents is staying calm when their teen or child misbehaves. It IS possible when you develop the right attitudes and skills. Like this:
Attitude #1: “I want to be a personal trainer for my child, not a punisher.” Attitude #2: “Anger makes my brain less effective, distracts my kid from what I want him to learn, and harms relationships.”
Attitude #3: “I can choose to not be angry.”
Skill #1: “As soon as your teen/child misbehaves, take a deep, calming breath before saying (or texting) anything.”
Skill #2: "When a teen/child misbehaves, think of it as a teaching moment, and ask yourself, “What skill is my child missing in this situation?”
Skill #3: Use this pattern to help you give calm consequences:
1) “I understand you feel . . . “ (Express empathy.)
2) “Just now you . . . “ (Say what they did wrong.)
3) “What you need to do is . . . “ (Tell the skill they should have used instead.”
4) “For choosing to ..., you've earned a negative consequence of...“
5) “If you want to practice the skill of... right now, we'll reduce the negative consequence to... “
Sound like any of these might help you? I hope so AND, I believe in you and your parenting abilities. DM us with any questions!
Is your kid/teen/young adult moving to a new grade level, school, job or college really soon? (Or perhaps you JUST dropped them off in their new dorm like I did??? 😳🤩😭🥳🥺)
I'm here to arm you with some helpful tips for guiding them well in these first few weeks of the new school year.
Whether your school-aged child is getting a new classroom/teacher, your pr***en is becoming a teenager, or your teen is becoming a young adult, I want to help you . . .
SLEEP is important for all ages. I know this info is specifically describing impact on teens, but you CAN translate them to whatever age your kids are.
Here's what lack of sleep during this transitional season might look like for different ages/stages:
😵💫 Increase in tantrums and/or physical outbursts
😵💫 Relational fractures with friends/friend groups
😵💫 Weight management problems
😵💫 Frequency of illness
😵💫 Depression and suicidal thoughts
There may be other causes for these same issues, and many may need to involve deeper consideration and care. But for now, simply consider: do you think your kid is getting enough SLEEP? 💤
And how can you help them in a supportive (not accusatory or pressure-inducing) way? 😉
WIRED Workshop is an 8-week behavioral skills training course. 🟠 It's a group coaching experience for parents and teens (11 to 18 years of age), and it's a GAME-CHANGER for all types of families!
WIRED’s group coaching method creates an even playing field for family training by taking the pressure off individuals as they connect and learn with other parents and their teens.
More info and register at WIREDFAMILIES.ORG!
Girls came to visit me at work. Lucky ☘️ me!! 🥰
Do you deal with any of these? 👆🏼 You don't have to cope alone. Counseling gives you the chance to talk about stuff that's hard in life or interfering with your daily activities.
I'm available to help you! Give me a call: 757-453-7800.
How to Handle PEER PRESSURE by PRE-PROBLEM SOLVING.
1. Think ahead of possible problem-causing situations you might be asked to participate in.
2. Test it out in your mind - give each situation the pro-social “P-OK-E & C” test: 👉🏽.👀
P = Is any PART of it illegal, immoral, unkind, unsafe, or unethical?
OK = Is it OK with my parents, the public, and the police if dot it?
E = Of everyone did it to me, would I like it?
3. Think about negative CONSEQUENCES that could happen if you did it.
4. Practice saying “No” using the 5 C’s (see post from last week) and find something fun to do instead.
I believe in you!
Exercise reduces stress by triggering “pleasure chemicals” in our brain such as serotonin and dopamine that make us feel calm and happy.
This reduces anxiety, which affects mood, vitality, alertness, and feelings of well-being. Studies show that only 15 minutes of vigorous, heart-pumping exercise helped kids focus and be less “antsy” for two to four hours afterwards.
Let me hear all my parents say, "Yes, please!" 😆
There really ARE practical, easy things we can each do to improve our mental health. You don't have to stay feeling "some kinda way."
3 things for you to do this month: ⬇️⬇️⬇️
1️⃣ Take care of yourself
Life has lots of ups and downs. Some are solvable but others, not so much. When your mental health acts up, seek the right treatment and make yourself better because, after all, life has much more to offer than just pain and suffering.
2️⃣ Take care of your loved ones
Check up on your friends and family. A lot of times, all people need is a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. Support and encourage them if they're being treated for any mental problems.
3️⃣ Talk about mental health
One of the best things to do this month is talk about it with your people. The more you talk about it, the more normalized it becomes. This is one of the purposes of this nationally-recognized month because the stigma attached to mental health has caused a lot of problems in our culture.
If nothing else, it's a great conversation starter. I'm cheering you on! Let's improve our mental health this month, and support the people around us to do the same.
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