04/09/2026
How to avoid chasing after the wrong thing for years👇🏼
1. Get clear on what you want to feel when you get that thing and start priming your reticular activating system with repetitions on how you already have that feeling in your life.
So for example if you want a house because you believe it will bring you the feeling of safety, start practicing the noticing of all the ways you’re currently safe. This is a win win because not only does it anchor you into what you already have, it also primes your brain to recognize and create more for it in the future.
This approach also saves you a bunch of time because it gets you more clear on what it is you’re actually seeking. If you want a bullseye you need to make sure you’re pointing your arrow in the right direction.
2. Research shows our brains think that material items or status will bring us more happiness than it actually does when we get them. It also shows that healthy relationships are one of the top sources of sustained happiness in our lives.
So my tip coming from someone who’s accomplished all of her dreams so far? Invest in people. Spend true quality time with people who offer reciprocal care, love, and connection. It takes time, trial and error, and personal development to build these types of relationships, but at the end of the day will be what make you the happiest.
3. Regulate your nervous system with a customized morning and nightly routine so that you can build more capacity to receive all the good things. So often our dysregulated nervous systems are what is holding us back from feeling happiness, even when we get the things we want.
How often do you truly pat yourself on the back and allow yourself to celebrate when you accomplish a goal before moving onto the next thing on your to-do list?
That rushing off to the next thing and not being able to fully receive the goodness of life often happens because we’re dysregulated / in a survival state and is robs us of our ability to be present.
If you want to learn how to do this (and the routine me and clients from all around the world do to regulate and be our happiest), comment the word “ROUTINE” below and i’ll send you ov
