Dr. Suzan Song

I'm a Harvard- and Stanford-trained psychiatrist, author & adviser in humanitarian settings

05/08/2026

Telling yourself you are worthy every morning is not the same as feeling worthy. 
We often use positive affirmations as a form of aspiration, but without an emotional anchor, they have nowhere to land. Your brain doesn’t store declarations; it stores experiences - the felt sense of being seen, valued, or safe. 
If you’ve ever said an affirmation only to have a louder, more detailed counterargument immediately arrive, know that this isn’t a failure of discipline. It’s just how the brain works.

Instead, find a specific memory where you genuinely felt that worthiness. Sit inside that memory until you actually feel it again. The goal isn’t to recite a belief until it takes hold; it’s to give the belief somewhere real to root.

05/07/2026

You are a high-achieving woman, yet quietly falling apart in ways you can’t quite name.�
I see this oscillation constantly: the cycle between over-functioning and numbing. It isn’t a character flaw; it’s what happens when you’ve been living inside a script you never consciously agreed to.

We absorb these roles early-the ‘good mother,’ the ‘serious professional,’ the limits on how much you’re allowed to need and how little you’re permitted to show. These scripts feel like common sense because they are so culturally embedded that questioning them feels like questioning yourself. So, you keep performing. Increasingly at cost.

The most meaningful shift isn’t about doing less or doing more. It’s about getting genuinely curious about where your script came from and whether you ever actually chose it.

If this resonates with your journey, share it with a woman who needs to know she isn’t alone in this.

05/07/2026

We often wait for a crisis before we finally pay attention. 
On the outside, you look fine. You’re meeting every demand, hitting every mark. So you don’t ask. But quietly, underneath the surface, something is giving. 
Small check-ins matter precisely because they don’t feel urgent. They aren’t a crisis response; they are a relationship with yourself that you choose to maintain while it’s still easy to do so. Course-correcting in small increments is so much gentler than the alternative. 
Because the truth is: what we don’t tend to, eventually breaks. 
If this resonates with the season you’re in, share it with someone who needs a reminder to check in with themselves today. 
Next Wednesday, I’m hosting a live event exploring the themes of loss and grief. If you’d like to join the conversation, comment “CHECK IN” below and I’ll send you the link to RSVP.

05/02/2026

We often celebrate visible growth, promotions, expanding responsibilities, the outward markers of success. For a long time, this momentum feels like stability. But what happens when the weight of everything we’ve built quietly outpaces what’s holding it up?

I’ve seen it countless times: the roots, the relationships, the deep sense of meaning, the connection to why any of it mattered in the first place, they didn’t grow at the same rate as the career or reputation. The tipping point rarely announces itself; it just arrives as a vague sense that something vital has gone missing. It’s a quiet unraveling, a subtle instability.

Those who sustain themselves over the long term in demanding work are almost always the ones who invested deeply in what’s beneath the surface long before they needed it to hold.

I will be exploring more themes like this during my upcoming live event. Comment “Stability” and I’ll send you the link to RSVP.

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