09/12/2025
ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴏᴄᴛᴏʀ ɪꜱ ɪɴ: ᴡʜʏ ᴛʜᴇʀᴀᴘʏ ᴀᴛ ᴍʏ ʙᴏᴏᴛʜ ʟᴏᴏᴋꜱ ᴀ ʟɪᴛᴛʟᴇ ᴅɪꜰꜰᴇʀᴇɴᴛ
“𝘗𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘤 𝘏𝘦𝘭𝘱, 5¢. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘋𝘰𝘤𝘵𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘐𝘯.”
If you remember Lucy behind her booth in Peanuts, you’ll recall how she offered blunt advice to Charlie Brown for a nickel.
Playful, yes—but it captured something real: people crave a place to ask hard questions and be met with understanding.
I don’t offer Lucy’s brand of five-cent wisdom. What I offer is 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆—a space to untangle shame, explore intimacy, heal trauma, and step into a more authentic life.
And when the doctor in the booth is a Black, gay man, the work carries a depth and perspective you won’t find everywhere else.
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𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗜 𝗔𝗺
I know what it means to carry multiple identities at once—some celebrated, some judged, some silenced.
Being Black, gay, and male in this world comes with its own kind of complexity: resilience forged through adversity, joy braided with grief, and strength tested against stereotypes and expectations.
All of that shapes how I show up with clients. My therapy style is 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹, 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲, 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘁, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻.
My therapy is trauma-informed, queer-affirming, sex-positive, spiritually inclusive, and identity-expansive.
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𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗜 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲
• 𝗨𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 shame and self-doubt that’s been holding people hostage
• 𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 men of color through the complicated terrain of masculinity, intimacy, and vulnerability
• 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 LGBTQ+ folks in reclaiming joy, navigating love, and exploring sexuality without apology
• 𝗪𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 with clients through the shadowed paths of trauma and grief toward healing and wholeness
• 𝗧𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 self-acceptance and embodied confidence—not as a far-off dream, but as a daily lived practice
• 𝗛𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 anyone who longs to live more authentically step into that truth, one choice at a time
Therapy with me isn’t about “fixing” you. It’s about 𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗼𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆—learning to see yourself more clearly, embrace all of who you are, and create a life that feels aligned with your truth.
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𝗔𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻
Your story deserves more than five-cent advice. It deserves to be heard, honored, and transformed.
If you’ve been wondering whether it’s time to invest in your own healing, consider this your invitation.
Therapy can be the place where you stop hiding and start living into your most authentic self. Whether you’re navigating identity, wrestling with shame, processing trauma, or simply wanting to feel more at home in your own skin—𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨.
The doctor is in. Healing is possible. And you don’t have to do it alone.
📌 If you’ve been contemplating starting—or returning to—therapy, let this be the sign you needed to take the next step and find a licensed clinician who is right for you. And if you know someone who could benefit from the kind of work I’ve described, please feel free to share the links to my Psychology Today or Alma profile (found on the About page) to schedule a consultation.
Warmly,
Dr. Ben 🪷
