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04/07/2020

Here is how 11 year old Jenson and 14 year old Camdyn from Idaho are connecting!! What are you doing to connect?

https://youtu.be/5Ve2R1JDtvI

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04/07/2020

Practice physical distancing but do social connection

04/07/2020

15 minutes I will be live- maybe if I figure out Facebook 🤨

03/26/2020

For some reason Facebook Life isn't working for me now.... Sorry :( we'll try again . Maybe it's got the virus!

03/26/2020

As you know I've been talking about helping children deal with COVID-19. Here are some of the concepts I've been talking about on CDC web page:

1) Take time to talk with your child or teen about the COVID-19 outbreak. Answer questions and share facts about COVID-19 in a way that your child or teen can understand.

2) Reassure your child or teen that they are safe. Let them know it is ok if they feel upset. Share with them how you deal with your own stress so that they can learn how to cope from you.

3) Limit your family’s exposure to news coverage of the event, including social media. Children may misinterpret what they hear and can be frightened about something they do not understand.

4) Try to keep up with regular routines. If schools are closed, create a schedule for learning activities and relaxing or fun activities.

5) Be a role model. Take breaks, get plenty of sleep, exercise, and eat well. Connect with your friends and family members.

Here is the link to the article with this info: https://bit.ly/2ycuQjX

Coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) is a virus (more specifically, a coronavirus) identified as the cause of an outbreak of respiratory illness first detected in Wuhan, China.

03/25/2020

One technique to help your child during quarantine is to create an environment for that child to feel safe. These behaviors will help 1) Keep a regular routine 2) Keep family rules and assigned chores 3) Not to place too much "extra" work / stress on the kids because they're home. And finally 4) Limit your child's exposure to virus news and discussions.

03/24/2020

I have three children (and a dozen grandchildren) in three different states. I'm helping my grandchildren understand what kind of reactions to expect while dealing with critical events (like the virus and earthquakes). I'm a psychologist and will be using a "debriefing critical incident" model.

03/24/2020

12/03/2019

I was walking through the BYU Wilkinson Student Center in Provo yesterday to a meeting. I ran across this desk. The sign reads: "Please write a Christmas Cart to an LGBTQ BYU Student." I'm curious - what would you write?

09/15/2019

I needed a lot "Garden Therapy" this summer. Remember, the fewer the weeds the more stress I've dealt with. Thank heaven for resources! - the doc

09/15/2019

I haven't posted foever.... My friend Faith sent this to me... I wanted to share it. The Doc

When my feelings come to visit, I always invite them in.
Some visits are short but other visits seem like they will never end.
When Sadness comes to visit, he usually stays the longest.
He likes to follow me everywhere and remind he is there.
He follows me to school.
He follows me to the park.
He follows me to my friend’s house.
He follows me to my piano recital.
He follows me to my birthday party.
Then, he comes home with me.
I used to try to hide from Sadness, but he always found me.
I would hide under my bed.
I would hide in the hall closet.
I would hide under the playground slide.
I would hide behind a tree.
Sometimes, I would even hide in plain sight.
No matter where I went or how I hid, there he was.
It felt hopeless.
It is hard when Sadness visits me.
He points out all of the sad things around me.
He points out the words I missed on my spelling test.
He points out the group of kids at the park that did not ask me to play.
He points out that my best friend won the game we were playing.
Sometimes I get mad and tell Sadness to go away.
That’s when Anger comes to visit.
Her visits are pretty short.
When she leaves, Sadness puts his arm around me.
Sometimes Sadness is comforting.
Mostly, I want Sadness to go home.
When Sadness comes to visit, he usually brings friends.
Pity, Shame, and Regret come to visit with Sadness a lot.
Pity likes to remind me of how terrible my situation is.
Shame tells me all the bad things I’ve done.
Regret shows me what I should have done differently.
Sadness will stay as long as I let him. He likes visiting me.
Sadness only leaves is when Gratitude comes to visit.
Unlike Sadness, Gratitude doesn’t usually stop by. I have to invite her over.
She only comes when I start thinking of things I am grateful for.
Gratitude has friends too. She usually brings Happiness, Joy, and Contentment with her.
Gratitude doesn’t follow me like Sadness does. I bring her with me.
I bring her to school when I’m grateful for my teacher.
I bring her to the park when I’m grateful for the trees and grass.
I bring her to my friend’s house when I’m grateful for fun games to play.
I bring her to my piano recital when I’m grateful to my teacher and want to show what I have learned.
I bring her home with me when I’m grateful for my family.
When Gratitude is with me, Sadness cannot visit. He waits until Gratitude leaves, then slips in and sits beside me.
It’s okay for Sadness to visit.
I know he will go home when I invite Gratitude over, so I let him be with me for a little while.
Sadness is not bad. Sadness helps me know what is really bothering me. When I listen to him, I learn a lot about myself.
I learn things like how much I missed my dog after he died and how I didn’t like not being invited to Tommy’s birthday party even though I pretended I didn’t care.
I can talk to my parents about the things I’m learning and it helps me feel better.
I don’t hide from Sadness anymore. He has things to teach me.
His visits are shorter than they used to be, and he even waves to Gratitude now when he’s leaving.

06/14/2019

If you haven't read this one... please do! Spending time alone is essential in developing self-reliance. Here it is:
https://www.docyoucan.com/how-to-develop-self-love-spend-time-alone/

How To Develop Self-Love: Spend Time Alone by Dr Rick | Apr 8, 2019 You are responsible for your ability to love, but not for the outcome of another’s life. You can do everything right as a parent or spouse, but there is no guarantee your child or spouse will change. A reminder why its important t...

06/12/2019

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05/31/2019

Want to prevent your kids from viewing p**nography? Start here.

BEFORE THE AGE OF 10 MAKE SURE:
Step 1) Your child has a NAME for unacceptable sexually explicit material. (Po*******hy doesn't work anymore.)
Step 2) Your child clearly understands EXACTLY WHAT TYPE of audio, printed and visual materials are represented by the name for unacceptable sexual material identified in Step 1.
Step 3) Your child knows and has practiced a set of AVOIDANCE SKILLS to do when they encounter the unacceptable sexual material.

Your child will encounter unacceptable sexually explicit material. They will either have the ability to NAME IT; RECOGNIZE WHY IT’S UNACCEPTABLE; and SKILLS TO AVOID IT- or they will not.

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05/23/2019

Most days either in person or in a written report I make decisions about people that can have tremendous impact on their lives. A person might be going to prison for a very long time; another person might be taken from the home; etc because of my opinion. I get asked frequently how do I do it? Simple - I'm true to myself, my training, and my impressions. I call it integrity. Even when I know there are going to be consequences: like subpoenas, very angry people, threats, etc. In 64 years, of living, I've learned one thing that matters most - I'm going stay true to myself.

Take today for example, after a few phone calls and a couple of conversations it was clear in my opinion, that this person was not safe. I was going to make the necessary calls to report it to the right authorities. And invite the autorities to do their job. The response of one person very close to me after hearing of my intentions said:

"If you do that you're going to have a lot of enemies."

What impact did that statement have on me? None. Zero. Nada. I can't believe someone would even think "having enemies" was a reason not to do the "right thing.".

I'd rather be an enemy to everyone on planet earth than be an enemy to myself! I'm the one I have to live with. Of course I made the phone call.

I hope my grandchildren read this.

05/19/2019

Sometimes life is good and we have no problems. During these times we can let ourselves believe we have no need for growth or for God. In my experience, the richest blessings in my life have come through pain and hard things. In fact, if life doesn't bring me "pain and hard things", I find myself searching them out.

This month I received my Medicare Card and my Ogden Half Marathon Medal.... The last two miles of the 13.1 miles provided my dose of "pain and hard things." Time: 2 hours 26 minutes.

05/18/2019

According to Dr. Patricia M. Greenfield, a researcher in the area of sexual media at UCLA, ....

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