Michael Pezzullo, LMFT

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Michael Pezzullo, LMFT

Psychotherapist in West Hollywood. Online throughout CA & FL. Coaching for Gay Men worldwide.

11/23/2025

Too many gay men make this dating mistake 🌈

Before you ever sit across from him at dinner, he’s already met you… online.

In gay dating culture—where apps, profiles, and quick impressions rule—the guy you’re seeing will absolutely look you up. So make sure your digital presence actually reflects who you are.

When your online vibe matches the real you, he walks in feeling clear, grounded, and excited. But if there’s a disconnect? It can feel confusing or even like a red flag—even when he genuinely likes you.

Do yourself a favor: keep the digital you aligned with the offline you. It’s one of the easiest ways to build trust before the date even starts.

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11/22/2025

Gay Men & Objectification:
Most people think thirst traps mean you’re superficial or desperate. But as a gay men’s therapist, I see something deeper: self-objectification is often a defense.
It can give you power, protect you from judgment, or distract others from your insecurities.
The key isn’t to stop—it’s to do it consciously.

Ask yourself:
What am I inviting?
What am I hiding?
And is this the kind of attention I actually want?

11/21/2025

2 Things Every Gay Man Should Do on a First Date 📅

First dates can feel confusing, high-stakes, or awkward — especially for gay men navigating today’s dating culture. As a gay men’s therapist, here are the 2 simple habits that instantly make your first impression feel genuine, confident, and memorable:

👏 Demonstrate active listening
👏 Offer appropriate vulnerability

If you’re getting back into dating or looking to level up your skills, this framework will help you create real connection from the very first date.

11/18/2025

Why Gay Men Love Drama? 🤔

Ever wonder why so many gay men love a little drama?

When you grow up with inner chaos, you often end up recreating it around you.

Gay men get labeled as “dramatic” — but as a gay men’s therapist, I think it’s deeper than that. Many aren’t seeking attention… they’re externalizing anxiety.

When your world feels chaotic inside, creating chaos outside can feel regulating — because finally, your surroundings match your emotions.

The problem? It just keeps the cycle going.

Do you notice this in yourself or people you date? 👀
Let me know in the comments.

11/17/2025

A lot of gay men find themselves drawn to partners who lean more masc. But understanding how masculinity shows up in gay relationships can save you so much confusion. Here’s what you should know:

• They Communicate Directly
Don’t over-analyze. If he’s upset, he’ll tell you.

• They’re Not Always Chasing Vulnerability
Masculine men often express strength through action, not emotional disclosure.

• They Want Praise
Masculine energy thrives on feeling valued — especially for providing, protecting, or leading.

What do you guys think? Let me know, in the comments :)

11/16/2025

Forget the idea that being single is just a “waiting room” until you find love. For some gay men, single life isn’t something to cope with — it’s something they thrive in.

Here are 2 signs you might be better suited to being single:

1️⃣ You prioritize autonomy.
You love connection — but your independence comes first. You thrive when you can live life on your own terms.

2️⃣ You’re deeply self-sufficient.
You meet your own emotional and practical needs. You don’t rely on a partner to soothe you or “complete” you.

And remember: single ≠ alone. You can still have a rich emotional, social, and sexual life without a relationship.

What do you think? Drop your thoughts in the comments 👇

11/15/2025

So many gay men say they want a relationship — but not everyone’s actually ready for one.

As a gay men’s therapist and relationship coach, here are 2 simple signs you’re truly ready to love and be loved 👇

1️⃣ You know who you are (not just who you want to be) 2️⃣ You’re willing to compromise, not control

Being ready doesn’t mean being perfect — it means being emotionally available. What do you guys think? Let me know, in the comments :)

11/13/2025

Ever notice how the less available a guy is… the more attractive he becomes? Let’s talk about why so many gay men fall for emotionally unavailable men 👇

What makes emotionally unavailable men so appealing?

As a gay men’s therapist, I see two big reasons:

1️⃣ We mistake disinterest for confidence.
When a guy’s emotionally distant, we don’t see his messy or vulnerable side — we just see cool, calm, and collected. That can look like confidence.

2️⃣ They let us keep our distance.
An emotionally unavailable man won’t get too close… which means we don’t have to either. It keeps us safe from confronting our own vulnerability.

What do you think — ever been drawn to someone like this? 👀

11/12/2025

Why do some gay men feel a surge of s*xual energy when they’re angry?

This could be Eroticized Rage — a powerful psychological phenomenon where desire and anger become intertwined.

From a trauma-informed perspective, I explore how suppressed rage can transform into erotic charge and influence our patterns of intimacy and attraction.

Have you ever noticed this in yourself or others? Share your thoughts below 👇

11/10/2025

Good News: Gay Marriage is here to stay 👏.

But there’s another story to tell: our community is constantly being gaslit with endless fear mongering.

Don’t fall for it. Are there legitimate things to be concerned about? Of course. But the media profits off of your fear—not your faith. The result: gay men live in constant anxiety.

My advice? Don’t fall for every panic-inducing headline.

11/09/2025

Ever feel like he’s just present enough to keep you hooked — but never really shows up?
That’s breadcrumbing. And it’s way too common in gay dating. Let’s break it down 👇

Signs He’s Breadcrumbing:
• Random texts or DMs — only when you start to move on
• Flirty comments, but no real plans
• Likes your posts or stories, but avoids real connection

How It Feels:
For many gay men, it’s a cycle of hope → disappointment → repeat.
That inconsistent attention? Addictive — like a slot machine.

What You Can Do:
• Recognize the pattern — inconsistency is information
• Don’t try to “fix” how he communicates
• How he communicates tells you everything you need to know

My advice to gay men in the dating scene?
Don’t settle for crumbs. 🍞
But ultimately — it’s your choice.

What do you think?
Have you ever been breadcrumbed in gay dating?

11/08/2025

Dry dating — dating without alcohol — is becoming a big shift in the gay community. Drinking less has become particularly trendy among young gay men (Gen Z).

But what are the pros and cons of “dry dating?” Let’s break it down:

✔️ The pros: deeper connection, better boundaries, and time saved.
❌ The cons: a little more vulnerability and some initial awkwardness.

When you take alcohol out of the equation, you actually get to see if there’s real chemistry — not just buzzed attraction. And you find out sooner rather than later. For many gay men, dry dating is helping them find truer intimacy — and real compatibility beyond the bar scene.

Would you try it? Let me know, in the comments :)

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