Michael Pezzullo, LMFT

Michael Pezzullo, LMFT Psychotherapist in West Hollywood. Online throughout CA & FL. Coaching for Gay Men worldwide.

01/11/2026

Why Do Gay Men Ignore Red Flags?

Many gay men grew up longing for a safe, visible, committed relationship.
So when connection finally appears, we don’t just like it — we cling to it.
We want to believe in it.
We want the fantasy to finally be real.

But that hope can make red flags easier to ignore.
If you’ve ever stayed longer than you should have because you didn’t want to lose the dream… you’re not alone.

Have you ignored red flags? Let me know, in the comments ;)

01/09/2026

Allie Beth Stuckey claims that gay marriage “harms” children.

Yet gay couples overwhelmingly adopt orphaned children, while straight couples leave them in foster care.

Also, her husband looks…kinda gay 💅🏻.

01/08/2026

We’ve seen heartbreaking losses in the gay community — many involving men who seemed happy, successful, and fulfilled.

Public smiles don’t always reflect private battles.

Being open about mental health matters.
But openness is not the same as treatment.

Some struggles require real support, care, and consistent help — not just conversation.

Let’s talk about what healing actually looks like. And if you need help—reach out. Don’t delay 🙏🏻.

01/07/2026

Looks carry real currency in gay male culture.
But no one really talks about the cost of pretty privilege.

As a gay men’s therapist, here are 2 downsides I see all the time:

✨ 1. Hyper-visible… but emotionally invisible
When people fixate on your looks, they often miss your inner world.
There’s an unspoken belief: If you’re attractive, your life must be easy.
Which makes pain easier to ignore, minimize, or dismiss.

⏳ 2. The fear of losing your currency
Pretty privilege isn’t permanent. Bodies change. Attention fades.
And if your identity is built on appearance, a quiet panic can follow.

Ask yourself: 👇
Who am I when this fades?
What’s left when the power is gone?

01/06/2026

Let’s meet the therapists advocating for gay conversion therapy…on minors.

She seems…fun 🤣.

01/05/2026

I’m seeing more people claim they’re “not gay anymore.” As a gay therapist, here’s my take 👇

Listen—live your life.
It’s not my job to tell anyone what their sexuality is.
As long as you’re not trying to convert me, we’re good.

What’s actually going on?
It depends on the person.
Sometimes it’s bad experiences with gay men.
Sometimes it’s internalized homophobia.
Sometimes…who knows.

My real problem is this:
When they demonize all gay people
and make sweeping, harmful generalizations.
That’s not personal growth—that’s projection.

What do you guys think?

01/04/2026

We all know looks carry real currency in gay male culture. But what rarely gets talked about are the types of pretty privilege.

As a gay men’s therapist, here’s how I it:

1️⃣ Lifetime Pretty G**s
Men who’ve always received attention, validation, and access because of how they look.

2️⃣ Glow-Up G**s
Men who discover this privilege later in adulthood.

For the second group especially, the effect can be intoxicating. When privilege is new, it’s easy to over-identify with it…and start chasing it relentlessly.

Pretty privilege can feel empowering—
but it can also quietly shape self-worth, attachment, and how we relate to others.

💬 Which one do you relate to?

01/02/2026

I’m all for free speech —
but not when it comes to therapy.

Here’s the truth:
Therapists do have limits on what we can say.

Our work is supposed to be backed by evidence, not ideology.

And there is zero evidence that therapy can change someone’s s—xual orientation.

Also, let’s be clear:
No one is forcing any therapist to say something you don’t believe.
You are free to not work with LGBTQ clients.

Honestly?
If you believe in conversion therapy, you shouldn’t be working with them anyway.

What do you guys think? 🤔⬇️

01/01/2026

These homophobes are dumb. And a little gay. 🤣🌈

“Marriage” wasn’t invented by the Bible. Or by any religion. No one is forcing you to go to a gay wedding. Or to a strip club.

New Year, Same Me :)What’s your New Year’s resolution? 👇
12/31/2025

New Year, Same Me :)

What’s your New Year’s resolution? 👇

12/30/2025

Listen, you’re entitled to have your painfully ignorant beliefs…that’s fine. But don’t lie.

This pastor is pushing a narrative that being gay, or “leading a homosexual lifestyle,” will kill you…literally.

She cites HIV as evidence of that.

The problem is…she’s wrong. Data shows that, with medication, folks with HIV have similar life expectancies to those who don’t have HIV.

Took a 5 second google search to confirm that. If you want to convince people to be bigots, try a little harder.

Speaking of HIV, if you need resources for Prep, HIV treatment, and more, and you’re in Florida, I’m check out . They serve both English and Spanish speakers :)

12/30/2025

We shouldn’t tolerate homophobia. Full stop.

But sometimes the policing goes too far—and we end up provoking the very bigotry we’re trying to prevent. At least in my opinion.

This clip from the podcast is a perfect example of what I’m talking about.

is not homophobic. Is he perfect? No. But he’s not a bigot.

My take (as a gay therapist): we have to give our allies more room to be imperfect.

Curious what you all think :)

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