Michael Pezzullo, LMFT

Michael Pezzullo, LMFT Gay Therapist Los Angeles | Helping gay men overcome anxiety, p**n habits, and relationship patterns
📍 West Hollywood & Online
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05/27/2026

What Makes a Great Top?

A lot of gay men think it’s confidence, technique or (cough) size.

I think it’s something else.

The best tops create two feelings at the same time: Safety and excitement.

What do you guys think? Let me know your thoughts below :)

**ex

05/21/2026

A lot of gay men feel surprisingly anxious around other gay men.

Not just because of competitiveness or comparison
 but because gay men can often see through each other’s defenses.

We recognize the insecurity, validation-seeking, or emotional guardedness underneath the performance because many of us have built versions of those same defenses ourselves.

Over time, a lot of gay men learn how to socialize while still remaining emotionally hidden.

That’s one of the reasons I’m currently forming a new virtual group for gay men focused on authentic connection, vulnerability, and relational growth in real time.

Link in bio & below âŹ‡ïž
https://www.michaelpezzullo.com/groups





05/19/2026

Not every gay man wants to be called “q***r.“ And to be honest? I get it.

And I don’t think this is solely a generational divide. Even for us, gay millennials, the word “q***r“ was definitely used as a slur. And furthermore, gay is more specific.

Personally, I feel like “q***r” waters down my identity rather than allowing me to own it. But, as always, I’m all about free speech and letting folks choose the language that works best for them.

What do you guys think? Curious to hear your thoughts :)

***r

05/18/2026

Many gay men learn early that acceptance feels conditional — so they adapt by becoming high-functioning, polished, attractive, emotionally intelligent, or impressive.

And while those traits can absolutely become strengths
they can also become handicaps—especially in therapy.

Because therapy is not about performing insight. It’s about allowing yourself to be fully seen.

And that requires vulnerability — not perfection.

Comment below if you relate :)

05/15/2026

A lot of straight men are just discovering ‘looksmaxxing.’

But for gay men? This is nothing new.

The idea that improving your appearance increases your social value, desirability, and status has been deeply embedded in gay culture for a long time.

But here’s the problem: at a certain point, men become so obsessed with optimizing their appearance
 that they actually lose the ability to evaluate it accurately.

How can you improve your appearance if you can no longer see yourself clearly?

That’s why some people keep chasing: more filler, more Botox, more enhancement, you name it.

Do you relate?

05/13/2026

Are Gay Jews Welcome in Therapy?

I’ve stayed relatively quiet on this topic publicly, but as a therapist, I think we need to have a serious conversation about what’s happening inside certain q***r mental health spaces.

When helping professions start sounding comfortable with exclusion, ideological purity tests, and conditional empathy, we should all probably pause and pay attention.

This isn’t about debating geopolitics. It’s about psychological safety, human dignity, and whether marginalized people still feel welcome in the very spaces that claim to protect them.

05/11/2026

Today I taught a graduate course for future therapists on chem s3x in the gay community.

One of the biggest misconceptions is that these patterns are only about drugs or s3x. More often, they’re connected to trauma, shame, loneliness, attachment, validation, and identity.

Future therapists need to understand the psychology underneath the behavior — not just the behavior itself.

Check out free resources on my website đŸ™đŸ»đŸ”—

05/10/2026

Are you “spiritually gay”?

Not to be confused with gay . . . and spiritual.

This homophobic word salad has me confused đŸ˜”â€đŸ’«đŸ˜‚.

What do you guys think?

05/04/2026

Is gay monogamy making a comeback?

For a long time, gay men have been told: Freedom = openness. Limits = restriction. But what if that framing is incomplete?

Some gay men thrive in openness. Others don’t.

My take, as a gay Mens therapist, is to find what works for you.

Download my free “Gay Man’s Monogamy Alignment Test” to see what relationship structure suits you best ↓
ïżœsubscribepage.io/syvdvd

(Link in bio 🔗)

05/02/2026

Most gay men think they’re struggling with a relationship.

But they’re actually struggling with not fully knowing themselves.

And if you don’t understand yourself—
you’ll keep building relationships that don’t work for you.

Do you relate? Let me know in the comments :)

04/27/2026

Why do gay men chase rejection?

What feels like chemistry is often something deeper: a drive to be chosen by someone who reminds you of who didn’t choose you before.

Do you relate? Let me know, in the comments ;)

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