09/06/2025
If money was NO issue, how often would you line up massage therapy for yourself?
This topic around worth and value has been coming up lately with other parents, mostly mothers, how we often fall to the bottom of the list of things to take care of. Your inner narrative that often tells a subconscious story that sounds something like
-“I dont *need* it”,
- “we should pay for XYZ first”,
-“i dont have the time in the middle of the day to do something that feels so luxurious”
-”what will others think of me if they find out i do something perceived to be frivolous, even if I know it will help me”
“Does spending my money and my time on myself, make me a bad/selfish person, mother, wife, etc”
“I feel guilty doing a good thing for myself when my husband cant/wont”
There's so much shame around money, around self care, and around investing in ourselves. Perhaps you have, yourself, judged another for unapologetically replenishing her energy and prioritizing her WANTS.
You tend to be modest about what you DO allow yourself to receive and then feel guilt or shame later.
BUT WHAT IF..you gave yourself permission to take up space within your familys budget? What if you didnt see that money as going to “waste” but rather saw it as a vital part of upholding the health of the epicenter of your family… YOU. Can you see how that mindset shift would reverberate through your family? Can you see how prioritizing your health, joy, desires, autonomy, (through massage, a hobby, down time, a trip, you name the thing that fills you up) would set an example for your children that adulthood doesnt have to be miserable and relentlessly sacrificial? They are watching you as you set the bar for what youre worth in this life.
Most of the input over on instagram was saying weekly for massage therapy, if money was NO issue. I challenge you to try to meet that ¼ of the way. If you are only receiving bodywork 4 times per year, make it 8 times per year. If you receive once every 8 weeks, try it once per month.
Or maybe its scheduling a monthly lunch out with the bestie you havent seen in ages.
Perhaps its putting your weekly workout in the calendar as a non negotiable. See how it shifts you to be firm with what you want.
As for me, Yes, I'm right there with you…. I would have one 60 min session per week.. And once every 4 weeks, I would bump it up to a 90 min. I think I'll hop on this challenge as well and start scheduling myself on the table as a client more often.
So... it's your turn, if money were NO issue, how often would to seek out massage therapy?
