Insightful Minds

Insightful Minds Providing individual, couples and family counseling. I believe everyone has an inner potential for healing. Feel free to know more about me in this website.

I work on the holistic principle that our mind, body and energy fields are interconnected. I am trained in energy psychology (AIT) and Transactional Analysis (TA). As a Transactional Analysis Practitioner, I follow the philosophy of TA:

People are OK. Everyone has the capacity to think
People decide their own destiny, and these decisions CAN be changed. I offer a nonjudgmental and safe environm

ent in which we build our therapeutic relationship, an important element for healing. I feel rewarded by witnessing my clients inner journey towards wholeness, overcoming fragmentations that prevented them to be the original being we were all born to be. Trauma prevents people to experience the full potential they were born to be. With the resource of energy psychology AIT, I will help you in an efficient, effective yet very gentle way to treat a range of the effects of emotional trauma. I am trilingual (English, Portuguese, Spanish) and have many interests such as the correlation between trauma and illnesses and the interface of culture and psychosocial influences in people's emotional blocks. In my accumulated experience with different cultures, I developed an extreme sense of respect, sensitiveness and appreciation for the distinctiveness of all my clients. I am always looking forward to meet new clients that are motivated and willing to heal.

08/26/2023

It can be frightening to express our deepest feelings, which is why we often need to practice. Part of this may include developing new ways to soothe ourselves when we notice that we are feeling unreasonably anxious about communicating with our partner. insightfulmindsnc.com

08/23/2023

If your partner is fearful of connection because of things that have happened to them in the past, that's not a problem you can fix for them. But you can help them to change by building up your own communication skills. insightfulmindsnc.com

08/18/2023

When someone in a relationship has difficulty opening up, consistent gestures of affection are more effective for reaching out to them than a single, massive one. It's also helpful for them to do things that improve their own self-esteem. insightfulmindsnc.com

08/10/2023

When we feel attacked, it's often our instinct to attack back, flee, or appease. And while our partner shouldn't verbally attack us, we must also be attentive to ourselves to not automatically fall into one of these patterns. insightfulmindsnc.com

08/07/2023

An important part of communication is checking in with your partner to be sure you've understood them correctly. This could take the form of summarizing what you heard and explicitly asking if you got it right, while also validating their feelings. insightfulmindsnc.com

08/04/2023

Couples counseling is meant to help people become better at expressing their needs. But part of being a better communicator also means being more aware of what someone you're close to is trying to express when they're struggling. insightfulmindsnc.com

08/01/2023

You'll have feelings of your own when your partner opens up to you, and you don't have to lie about that. Sometimes we have to assert a boundary in order to recharge enough to be helpful. insightfulmindsnc.com

07/29/2023

When our partner has done something that upsets us, it's important to ask them why. Assuming that it was done in malice could make a problem much worse, as can covering up when we're upset. insightfulmindsnc.com

07/28/2023

Even when your partner has made a mistake, it will be better for your relationship to approach it with an attitude of cooperative problem-solving instead of shame. It isn't always easy to avoid acting out of anger in these moments, but it is a skill we can practice. insightfulmindsnc.com

07/14/2023

People can live together and still feel lonely. To maintain a strong relationship, we must actively communicate and express vulnerability. insightfulmindsnc.com

Since people are constantly growing and changing, we're never done getting to know someone else. Maintaining a sense of ...
07/11/2023

Since people are constantly growing and changing, we're never done getting to know someone else. Maintaining a sense of curiosity about our partners keeps us close.

Even if we think we know them, there's more to discover.

07/06/2023

A person's relationship with their spouse should be one of, if not the most important relationships they have. But it's impossible for one person to provide all of another person's social life, and to give ourselves to our partners, we must also cultivate other parts of ourselves to give. insightfulmindsnc.com

We hope everyone has a safe and happy 4th of July! Celebrate our nation's independence with friends and family.Share you...
07/04/2023

We hope everyone has a safe and happy 4th of July! Celebrate our nation's independence with friends and family.

Share your favorite Fourth of July memories in the comments below.

07/03/2023

There are all sorts of things a couple can do to deepen their connection. For some couples, regular marriage maintenance itself is one of those things. insightfulmindsnc.com

It takes active effort to keep a relationship strong. Ordinary life stressors take a toll, so you have to set aside time...
06/30/2023

It takes active effort to keep a relationship strong. Ordinary life stressors take a toll, so you have to set aside time and energy to replenish your commitment to each other.

Why neglect is a silent relationship killer and how to prevent it.

We tend to think that spontaneous statements are more authentic. But that doesn't mean we should dismiss what people say...
06/27/2023

We tend to think that spontaneous statements are more authentic. But that doesn't mean we should dismiss what people say when they've had more time to reflect, or that we should ignore the feedback we're getting from the other person.

A 3-step structure for strategizing effective communication of emotions.

06/24/2023

It's important to be open about things that bother you. But it will be more productive to talk about your own feelings instead of presuming to know what your partner thinks. insightfulmindsnc.com

06/21/2023

One of the most important ways to keep a marriage strong is for the couple to continue dating each other. Setting aside time for new activities will keep you excited to be with each other. insightfulmindsnc.com

We wish a happy Father's Day to all the great dads and father-figures out there!
06/18/2023

We wish a happy Father's Day to all the great dads and father-figures out there!

06/16/2023

When we're not communicating, we make up our own explanations for why our partner is doing something or feels a certain way. By making a point of communicating regularly, we can prevent this drift from happening. insightfulmindsnc.com

06/13/2023

It's hard to admit to a mistake when doing so causes us to feel threatened. However, when we develop greater awareness of our feelings, we often realize there is no real reason to fear. insightfulmindsnc.com

06/08/2023

When you get married, you gain your partner's family, as well. Your responsibility to any children they may already have is special, but we can also help you build the skills to have a loving relationship with your in-laws. insightfulmindsnc.com

06/05/2023

A new marriage is a new family. That should excite you, but if you're nervous, don't hesitate to ask us for help. We'll help you determine what values you base your new phase of life on, and how you and your partner will support each other. insightfulmindsnc.com

06/02/2023

Every marriage is different, but if we didn't have a positive example of one growing up, it may be hard to judge whether ours is going well. Call us, and we can help you and your partner to define success and build the skills you need to maintain it. insightfulmindsnc.com

05/30/2023

Do you seem to have trouble making yourself heard by your partner? Although communication is a two-way street, working with us allows both partners to become better communicators and listeners. insightfulmindsnc.com

Today, we pay tribute to the courageous men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice to protect our freedom and uphold ...
05/29/2023

Today, we pay tribute to the courageous men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice to protect our freedom and uphold the values we hold dear. On this Memorial Day, let us take a moment to remember and express our heartfelt gratitude to those who have selflessly served this great Nation.

Maintaining a strong relationship requires constant communication and setting aside time together. If you're struggling ...
05/27/2023

Maintaining a strong relationship requires constant communication and setting aside time together. If you're struggling to make a habit of this, call us for professional assistance.

Remember, regular check-ups and "vitamin V."

05/25/2023

Sometimes, we become extremely upset with our partner because something is reminding us of a bad experience in our past. This doesn't mean that we're wrong for wanting change, but it does mean we need to communicate about it fully and understand where our response is really coming from. insightfulmindsnc.com

05/19/2023

There's a difference between anger and resentment. Anger can be helpful, but resentment is destructive to relationships and something you can learn to actively guard against. insightfulmindsnc.com

05/16/2023

Affection has to be consciously maintained. That doesn't mean every gesture has to be something big, but they do require attention. insightfulmindsnc.com

Wishing a happy Mother's Day to all the great moms and mother-figures out there, from Insightful Minds!
05/14/2023

Wishing a happy Mother's Day to all the great moms and mother-figures out there, from Insightful Minds!

Keeping a relationship strong requires the couple to actively engage with each other regularly. Frequent small moments a...
05/12/2023

Keeping a relationship strong requires the couple to actively engage with each other regularly. Frequent small moments are more important than occasional grand ones.

5 ways to reignite interest and passion.

05/09/2023

Regular communication is essential for a relationship, but not every time is the right time. Agreeing to set aside time to talk will help keep those talks respectful and productive. insightfulmindsnc.com

Anger is among the things that we have to be able to express honestly for a relationship to thrive, but that doesn't alw...
05/05/2023

Anger is among the things that we have to be able to express honestly for a relationship to thrive, but that doesn't always mean that our anger is our partner's problem. Counseling can help us to express it in a way that can become the basis for productive negotiation.

Showing anger fosters distance, while discussing it can foster intimacy.

We wish you a festive Cinco de Mayo, from Insightful Minds!
05/05/2023

We wish you a festive Cinco de Mayo, from Insightful Minds!

05/02/2023

Just because people love each other doesn't mean everything will always be easy. Relationships must be regularly affirmed so they'll be strong enough to endure when conflicts arise. insightfulmindsnc.com

Protesting louder or escaping an argument by giving an insincere apology won't solve a problem. Instead, we must work to...
04/28/2023

Protesting louder or escaping an argument by giving an insincere apology won't solve a problem. Instead, we must work together to find what is underlying the conflict.

When couples make the same mistake again and again, they can stay locked in conflict and perpetual gridlock.

Even when couples are successful at co-parenting, their relationship with each other may be rocky. Although it makes sen...
04/25/2023

Even when couples are successful at co-parenting, their relationship with each other may be rocky. Although it makes sense to prioritize a baby, counseling can help you to maintain a better bond with your partner, as well.

Is your relationship ready for the transition to new parenthood?

Demonstrating that we're listening is key to effective communication. These don't have to be huge moments, they can just...
04/21/2023

Demonstrating that we're listening is key to effective communication. These don't have to be huge moments, they can just be small ones that are practiced regularly.

The gift of listening and showing appreciation.

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1017 Ashes Drive Suite 104
Wilmington, NC
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Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 5pm
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You have to know your partner well to build a strong relationship. Some things we would appreciate aren't as welcome to someone else, and that's okay. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/202203/5-subtle-signs-great-relationship
Since people are constantly growing and changing, we're never done getting to know someone else. Maintaining a sense of curiosity about our partners keeps us close. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/202204/how-keep-the-magic-alive-in-long-term-relationships
People will disagree with each other, and that's okay as long as we don't veer into contempt. We can reach more satisfying resolutions by focusing on the emotions that inform a need. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapists-education/202203/how-have-healthy-fights-your-partner
Couples Therapy has a lot of benefits, but it's a specialty with some particular challenges. Specialists can help you navigate what will best serve your goals. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/new-science-love-and-intimacy/202202/how-navigate-challenging-issues-in-couples-therapy
Proud to announce my book together with other colleagues about how to treat trauma with Energy Psychology.
When you feel hurt and want to repair the relationship, it's best to stick to describing your own experiences and being as honest as possible. Figuring out why something was so upsetting will help you avoid similar ruptures in the future. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/202202/how-handle-feeling-wronged-your-partner
Keeping score in a relationship is a recipe for resentment. But it is important for each person to maintain a high ratio of affection to demands. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-lies-and-conflict/202202/s-not-fair-why-relationships-must-be-equal
Mistakes are an opportunity to learn, but we aren't getting better from them if we allow them to remove our chance for future peace. Here are some ways to take care of yourself when you think you've made a bad decision. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hope-relationships/202202/10-ways-release-regret
We have to feel a basic level of safety in order to be open. But when we get comfortable with opening ourselves up, we create an opportunity for a partner to do likewise. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/openings/202202/how-do-you-get-special-person-open-you
People with insecure attachment styles often have difficulty building trust in romantic relationships. However, this can be mitigated by maintaining open communication and self-awareness. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/complicated-love/202202/5-ways-keep-jealousy-destroying-love
Maintaining a relationship takes work. But the skills you need will become habits if you're practicing them enough. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/202202/the-secret-making-love-last
Relationships are often measured in terms of closeness. But what is more important is whether each person feels that their needs are being met. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/202202/how-close-do-you-want-be-your-partner
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