12/02/2024
Frida
24"x24" acrylic on canvas, 2024
One of the ways the patriarchy stays in power is by convincing women we have none. By pitting us against each other & having us believe we are never good enough, strong enough, or smart enough. Misogyny is programmed into us from the time we are born. Our language-a man is assertive, a woman aggressive, etc. Beliefs ingrained: women are irrational and emotional, not as strong, can't lead, etc. slt shaming, even clothing. Boys clothes: comfy, practical, often depict strong, predator animals-lions, tigers, dogs. Girls: "pretty", rarely comfortable or practical, depict prey animals-bunnies, birds, mice.
Girls grow up and vote against their best interests, express disdain towards other women-especially those in power, & question their own ideas or needs unless co-signed by a male. Until & unless women reject misogyny, we can't expect men to & it won't go away.
We can start to fight this is by understanding so much of what we believe is just programming, & then by being unapologetically authentic & owning who we are. Loving ourselves, our bodies, our minds, our quirks, all of it. Realizing, and BELIEVING, our worth is not dependent on how "desirable" we are, how we are perceived by others, or by what we do or possess. When we get to a place of authenticity & self love, we can empower others to do the same. When we are all empowered there is no need to compete, or denigrate. There is no need, or allowing of another, to possess or control. Ideas about one group being superior to another are absurd because we know we are all an integral string in the fabric of humanity.
Frida gave us real portrayals of herself. She never painted herself different than she was. She didn't anglicize her features, make her skin or hair lighter, make herself taller, thinner, curvier or less so. She didn't hide herself or her pain to make her paintings more palatable. She didn't give up when she faced challenges, injury, illness, or loss. She showed us it's not just ok to be real, it is beautiful.
When feeling less than, or when stuck in a self pity spiral, when tempted to judge yourself or another, look to Frida.
What would Frida do?