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Conversation VS Confrontation 💛

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I Was Addicted to Helping People – Here’s Why It Made Me Miserable - Tiny Buddha

I Was Addicted to Helping People – Here’s Why It Made Me Miserable - Tiny Buddha Our feelings and needs matter as much as anyone else’s, but we can only honor them if we recognize this and prioritize them.

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We have the potential to be ANYTHING 🌟

The Art of Nurturing Self-Talk: How to Tell Yourself What You Need to Hear

How to tell yourself what you need to hear!

The Art of Nurturing Self-Talk: How to Tell Yourself What You Need to Hear By speaking to myself kindly, I am better able to practice unconditional self-love and make healthy choices for myself. Here's how I do it.

4 simple exercises to strengthen your attention and reduce distractibility

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4 simple exercises to strengthen your attention and reduce distractibility Our attention gets hijacked by everything from the stress in our lives to the ding of our phones. Neuroscientist Amishi Jha shows how we can cultivate the ability to focus on what really matters. “…

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Six ways to stay calm and centered 

How to Stop Losing Yourself and Giving Your Power Away in Dating - Tiny Buddha

How to Stop Losing Yourself and Giving Your Power Away in Dating - Tiny Buddha “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” ~Brené Brown

Why People-Pleasers Don’t Get the Love and Respect They Desire - Tiny Buddha

Why People-Pleasers Don’t Get the Love and Respect They Desire - Tiny Buddha People-pleasers, it's time to stop basing your sense of worthiness on other people’s approval and start getting the love and respect you desire.

Not everyone is meant to be in our lives to the end, so when someone brings pain, suffering, and disrespect to your life let them go, if you choose, you may wish them well from afar.

If it’s not possible to let them go completely, make sure you limit your energy and time spent in their presence.
Remember you are worthy of respect.
You matter. Your life matters. ❤️

(Don't beg anyone to be in your life. If you text, call, visit, and still get ignored, walk away. It's called self respect.-Steve Wentworth)

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How I’ve Stopped Attracting One-Sided Relationships That Leave Me Feeling Empty - Tiny Buddha

How I’ve Stopped Attracting One-Sided Relationships That Leave Me Feeling Empty - Tiny Buddha We have to decide that we deserve two-way relationships with people who cherish us for who we are, and we’re not willing to settle for less.

How to Authentically Apologize

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Wowzers! This little nugget of wisdom had me…🤯 So simple … yet SO true!

Guard Your Thoughts Accordingly🌞

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What happens to your body when you start exercising regularly

What happens to your body when you start exercising regularly Whether you’re trying to get fit, build muscle, or you’re just tired of the couch, leading a more active lifestyle takes time, effort and determination. Tech Insider explores why it’s ultimately worth the effort.

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Our feelings shift constantly throughout the day. Sometimes minute by minute. You’ll notice you feel so strongly and about something and then an hour later you feel completely differently.

Or how you have many feelings (usually conflicting) at once.

Feelings come from deeper emotions (typically unconscious)— they’re our interpretation of emotions. That interpretation is based on our past experiences. Then, re-enforced by thought patterns that create more emotional responses.

Many of us (myself included) struggle with emotional regulation. When we haven’t leaned to regulate, feelings become overwhelming. We want to avoid, self medicate, or cope in ways that allow us to escape the sensations and the thoughts that come with intense feelings.

In reality, feelings are simply experiences of the mind and body. They come, shift, and change. They’re temporary. And when we become conscious, we can witness the feeling while understanding we are *not* the feeling. The feeling is not a concrete fact. It’s a message.

We can choose how we respond to that message, rather than letting that message drive our choices and behaviors

Hope and Healing💛

10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Deep Woman

10 Reasons Why Most Men Can’t Handle A Deep Woman A deep woman only knows how to love deeply. If you can’t love her deeply, she will walk away. She doesn’t know how to casually date someone she’s really into or be friends with someone she has feel…

Exercise is TREMENDOUS for our Mental Health!! 💪🌞🌈

Let’s Pray 🌞

What do you prioritize??🌞

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Merry Christmas!!! 🎄✨

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