01/08/2025
Let’s Talk About It: Intimacy, Trauma & the Truth We Don’t Say Out Loud
Intimacy can be deeply affected by trauma especially s*xual abuse.
Yet it’s one of the least talked about, most misunderstood parts of healing.
For many survivors, being intimate with a partner isn’t just “hard” it can feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or even triggering. Flashbacks, PTSD symptoms, body shame, and fear can surface when vulnerability is expected.
👉🏽 For some, s*x drive may disappear.
👉🏽 For others, it may increase or fluctuate.
👉🏽 And for many it becomes a complex, emotional territory that requires care, trust, and open-hearted communication.
Healthy partners may become confused, withdrawn, or hurt especially if they misinterpret the shift in intimacy as rejection. That’s why talking about it matters.
💬 Saying:
“It’s not you. This is part of my healing journey.”
can prevent emotional distance and resentment from building.
These conversations are not easy, but they’re essential for connection and growth.
🌿 Let’s look at the facts:
🔹 81% of women and 35% of men who experience s*xual assault report long-term intimacy and s*xual functioning difficulties.
🔹 Survivors of s*xual trauma are significantly more likely to experience low self-esteem, trust issues, and fear of physical touch.
🔹 According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC), trauma survivors often report that open communication and a safe emotional space are what made recovery in relationships possible.
We don’t talk about s*x enough in truth-based ways.
Yes, society sells it but we rarely hear the real stories:
Survivors who can’t feel comfortable in their own bodies.
Couples who don’t know how to talk about triggers.
Partners who love each other but don’t know how to bridge the silence.
But here’s the truth:
💛 Healing conversations create healing relationships.
💛 Your story is valid.
💛 You deserve comfort, care, and connection at your pace.
Speak up. Be patient. Give grace.
This is how we grow. This is how we love. This is how we heal.
