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16/04/2022

So many experiences in my life were seeped in fear and trauma. My behaviors supported these fears and the cycle would play over and over.

Until I realized the only way to heal was by understand the integrity (wholeness) of my soul. My soul was fractured by the low integrity behaviors I continuously displayed. I felt broken in every way.

Until I recognized my soul as a living part of me. I decided to examine my emotions and behaviors associated with these emotions. I judged them on whether or not the output of my actions healed or tore apart my soul.

This work helped me to heal and I feel it’s a valuable tool for others. That’s why I’ve decided to be a coach and a therapist.

I have experience with
⚫️ addiction (overspending money and parenting a child who was addicted to drugs)
⚫️ denial of self
⚫️ manipulation
⚫️ self loathing and hatred of others
⚫️ depression
⚫️ escapism
…and many other forms of soul crushing behavior

I’m trying to figure out how to help others but in a way that is healthy for me - I can’t burn the candle at both ends.

I’m thinking workbooks, self paced online classes and a live workshop a couple times a year.

If you’ve read this far, may I ask that you go one step further and comment below (or DM me) on whether or not any of those opportunities to work with me would be of interest to you. a simple 👍 will do.

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11/04/2022

, how about you? It's much more accepting to acknowledge and share anxiety with others - thank goodness!

01/04/2022

An important message and lesson.

Nearly all of us wish to be known as 'nice' people. Yet our happiness may depend on a willingness to be — at points — strategically selfish. Sign up to our n...

30/03/2022

It's important to understand how you participate in your life. Are you actively involved in how your life plays out or do passively allow others to make the decisions.

I was the later up until two years ago. I stayed silent (while sometimes screaming on the inside) to not rock the boat and to make it "easier" on me - especially if the interaction was with someone who I considered difficult/a hot head/a bully/etc. My decision, although a type of coping mechanism, serving my soul and helping me heal. It was keeping me in the same exact place I always was.

Changing this pattern ended some relationships and allowed others to flourish. Most importantly, actively participating in my life gave me a voice, ideas, confidence and more joy.

24/03/2022

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what’s your chosen form of escapism? Let us know in the comments 👇

21/03/2022

Three things that are working for me right now: ⁣
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1️⃣ Mirrored Reflections - Maybe there is a formal name for this but I'm calling it Mirrored Reflections. Before I go to bed, with all the lights off, I go into the bathroom and stand in front of the mirror. I close my eyes and begin to breathe deeply, like I do when I start meditating. Then I open my eyes and I talk to the universe while looking in the mirror. I ask questions and requests like, "what am I suppose to be learning right now" and "I need support to keep up my motivation with exercise", plus other things that I'll share another time. I also receive a lot of information and clarity about my life. This is weird, I know. It's pitch black, I can't see my reflection but obviously I am there. Instead of being scared I feel free. When I'm done with the process, I close my eyes and meditate until I'm ready to go to bed. I've never slept more soundly and I feel more mental clarity the next day.⁣
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2️⃣ 90 minutes - Setting 90 minute blocks for "must do tasks". Most of the time I've found I can accomplish the task(s) quicker but 90 minutes allows a few minutes for the normal wandering of my mind. I set the timer and go...⁣
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3️⃣ Taking time to be proud of myself! I've come a long way in all areas of my life. I've verbally shared with others (or privately with myself) how proud I am of how my "new" self reacts to situations or the behavior of others. Just this week I found I felt HIGH ON LIFE because through my healing work I changed a previously low integrity behavior to a high integrity behavior. It felt so good!!!⁣
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I think it's important to try to understand concepts, people and behaviors with a curious mind. THere's a quote about doing things the same way produce the same results. If you're looking for change in your life take one small step in the opposite direction and see what comes up for you.⁣
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I'm always, always here for you. ⁣
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19/03/2022

having a plan is 💯 until it prevents you from realizing your dreams and goals. this has been happening lately but I finally snapped out of it by setting a time limit on my planning sessions and ensuring the session produced action items that are due within the next five days. ⁣
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I feel more organized and more importantly I feel accomplished - which gives me confidence.⁣

Does this resonate with you? What do you do to move beyond perfectionism and get to doing?
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08/03/2022

Three reasons to heal yourself: ⁣
1️⃣ You deserve to live a life that is true to you
2️⃣ You're worthy of loving yourself
3️⃣ You have the opportunity to live the rest of your life with a peaceful, loving, compassionate mind⁣
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Healing is a life long process but as you learn tools to help yourself overcome challenges, repetitive negative behaviors, and trauma you will begin to see the world around you a bit differently. The relationship you have with yourself changes and these changes seep into other parts of your life. It begins with a choice and desire to heal yourself, the "how to" comes later. ⁣
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Do you want to heal yourself? Start with this one thought.⁣
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"I have a desire for a more "enter your word" {peaceful/loving/positive/caring/compassionate} life"⁣
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Repeat your phase when you feel stressed, have anxiety, and in moments of struggle. Treat is like a mantra and manifestation.⁣

Part of my process is giving myself personal mantras around the areas of my life I want to investigate/understand/change. I say these mantras as I lay down to sleep. It's almost like giving myself the permission to be okay with where I am today but knowing that I'm open to possibilities. That gives me a lot of hope.
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08/03/2022

Giving yourself compassion, grace and empathy at all times will help you feel more connected to yourself. As you practice this more the feelings of not belonging and low self worth lessen...as do the negative behaviors associated with these doubt producing feelings.
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For me, showing myself more compassion, grace and love helped me to lessen 🟡 or stop 🛑 the following behaviors: ⁣⁣
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🛑 binge online purchases ⁣⁣
🛑 binge eating⁣⁣
🛑 hate looking in the mirror⁣⁣
🛑 changing my clothes multiple time before leaving the house⁣⁣
🛑 being defensive at perceived criticism ⁣⁣
🛑 the belief that I'm awkward and strange⁣⁣
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🟡 negative self talk after a mistake I perceive as a failure⁣⁣
🟡 perfection ideals⁣⁣
🟡 the idea that I must do it all to have self worth⁣⁣
🟡 that rest and recovery is believing I'm worth it⁣⁣
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22/02/2022

Always a treat when a plant is ready to bloom. 🌸. The anticipation of its full beauty reminds me of when I realize my own awakening. There’s a sense of hope, thankfulness and better life experiences.

Are you blooming with a sense of hope? How are you feeling about your own healing process?

17/02/2022

I held emotions in, denied them and also let them steer my behavior and actions in many negative ways. Even though the outcomes were not good I would repeated the process over and over again 🙃. I lived parts of my life this way due to insecurities, emotional immaturity, and fear. It continued until I couldn't stand it, or myself, anymore ⁣
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Through introspection I began to understand I could change how I cared for my emotions and work a process to train myself to consistently live with authenticity and integrity. ⁣
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It's a life long process that I gladly accept because there's something about choosing integrity, authenticity, love and care for myself first during challenging moments.⁣
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in·teg·ri·ty⁣
/inˈteɡrədē/
Integrity: the state of being whole and undivided.⁣
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16/02/2022

No one will ever convince me that a life well lived doesn't come from within ourselves.