18/04/2021
Real talk about chronic illness/invisible illness and 'Spoon Theory'.
(Ie Mental illness, Physical Illness,, Neurodivergent issues, Chronic Pain, etc Also remember that often people are dealing with one or more issues.)
I have Anxiety and Depression, Chronic Pain, Cancer Recovery issues to name a few.
Everyone has good days and bad days, that pendulum can swing greater for those living with chronic illnesses. To have a good hour/afternoon/day we often pay for it with hours/days/weeks of pain/depression/shutdown. Some may see people with chronic illness out having a good time, dancing the night away and think 'They must not be so bad'. In that moment they may not be, but they will hobble home, drug up and stand under a hot shower as 'payment'. Or have to recover from the social overload by shutting down and going reclusive. Or any other variations on the theme depending on what the person is dealing with.
Some refer to this as the spoon theory. Basically a person has a certain amount of 'Spoons' available on any given day. Activities take up certain amount of spoons and sometimes you need to 'save up spoons' to do something fun. They are used up getting dressed, making meals, transport, interactions with people, working etc. Then there are the spoons used in just pretending you are ok so you don't feel a burden on others or even yourself.
The hours of joy with friends are worth the payment when there are spoons to spend, even if have to borrow from the next day or the day before. Also remember to be kind when someone can't socialize as they may already be 'out of spoons' or saving up spoons for something else like work or school.
I know I usually post positivity on here, but I felt like it would be unfair to myself and other chronic illness warriors to not share the flip side.