Mandisa Avutia Online

18/09/2023

To my firstborn💕💕

I thought I loved you in every way and with every part of my heart when you first landed in this world...

I had no idea I wasn't even close... I'm blown away by how the heart can expand...

Every passing year, I adore you even more. I love the person you are. Your zest for life is a thing of wonder💫💫

That you're 12 today and haven't let the world taint you is a miracle you may only appreciate later in life.

You have the perfect blend between reality and magic... I love that you dream BIG you fully embrace the truth and essence of who you are.

I truly love that you do not shrink. That you boldy walk away from anything or anyone who wants you to shrink for their accommodation.

You have somehow figured out how to love people while holding onto your own boundaries.

I feel completely blessed that I get to witness you and your experiences.

I pray God, the universe and ancestors continue to guide you. That you always keep your ears open to your inner voice.

I love you and happiest birthday, Qhawe

10/09/2023

Mothering these two is one of my favorite things in the world!!!

Look, it's been tough 😅😅 but anyone who says conscious parenting doesn't work may need to get a clue...

It's still a looooooong way to go, but the work you put in in the early years sets a solid foundation.

I have soooo much fun with my humans. The almost 12 year old is pure GOLD! 👌🏽 What a fun human being💕

My almost 6 yr old is fierce and full of emotion he has zero issues expressing. He's the house general, and we love him for it...

This is a random love post to my boy band 😅

05/09/2023

I'll never be perfect, but at least now I'm brave 💕

04/09/2023

Personal coffee art ...

Guys, I don't even drink coffee anymore, but I made an exception to see what my coffee would look like 😅😅😅

This is so sweet... family tree 🥰

Barista's need to step it up and stop with just the hearts and leaves hle🤣 I'm here for this personal take👌🏽

03/09/2023

A solid guy💕🥰

02/09/2023

36 and feeling blessed!

It's been two years of grueling growth...I've learned and STILL learning so much about myself...

I am in a period of isolation. At first I felt sorry for myself but I get it now...

There are truths you can't hear in the thick of people. And boy, have I been working through some truth bombs!!!

Through all of it, I've been so grateful for my family 💕💕💕

Anyway, this boy band, as , just called them 😅 is taking me out to dinner and, like, I'm so tired... do they not get that it's a lil rough after 30👀👀🥺🥺

02/09/2023

My absolute favorite humans... I love how they love one another...

Sometimes, I like to believe I MAY have something to do with that 🤣🤣🤣

I've been brainwashing them since forever - "You are your brother's keeper"

30/07/2023

10/06/2023

My favorite second born... afternoon, hang out with this guy... he is out here moving around with a Prime bottled filled with Oros😳🥴🥴

Me: But Shaka, why?

Shaka: Because I want to...

07/06/2023

Winter can be pretty, too...

28/05/2023

Photo dump... a day with my little humans 💕

14/05/2023

Shaka is proud of their chocolate buy... of course, I had to share because...

Shaka: Mom, you can't eat all of these yourself. You have to share because you love us

Me: 🥴🥴🥴



Also, my kids had timing... this drip gifting makes the da full of surprises...

And with the help of dad, I wrap up with a night cap after an awesome lunch at the Swiss Club😅...

They really put in the effort & I didn't lift a finger today... Shaka is glad all is back to normal tomorrow ngoba he is not okay with not asking me to do things🤣🤣🤣

Hope all the mamas felt loved today...

14/05/2023

I'm not a flower girl, BUT if you MUST, it must be alive...

The kids know this, too...😳😳

And Qhawe remembered this fact😅😅

They are so proud of themselves...

I'm so proud of them, this is a HUGE step up from a TV bar last year👀👀🤣🤣🤣have you ever!!!

14/05/2023

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My kids are so excited... I was treated to a Mother's Day dance😅😅😅 I wish I knew it was coming so I could record it 😩

They have a drip gift system going...

My first gift is my favorite animal. I didn't even know that they knew what my fav animal is 🥺🥺🥺

So meet Hope (Qhawe named her)...

Shaka made it known that the elephant was his idea🤣🤣🤣

Happy Mother's Day, mamas... you're doing the MOST always 💕

11/05/2023

As a parent, you never really know how your parenting has an impact, if at all, really.

This year is my 12th year in this gig👀😅 and there's been self-doubt all the way🤣🤣🤣

What this boy has shown me is that up until this point, my intentions as a parent have landed... (may it always be the case!)

We have had and still have our moments! Because wow, Qhawe will talk his way in and out of things 🥴🥴

But, on the whole, in his pre-teen years...my son is still so kind, so gentle with kids younger than him... he's still funny and loves telling dad jokes! He still kisses his mom🥺🥺🥺 and on the lips when he doesn't have a girlfriend - I don't make the rules, I'm just as confused by this one😅- he loves his brother soooo loudly!!!

What this has taught me is that there truly is another way to parent. Gentle/Conscious parenting is HARD and WORTH it!

Being able to admit that I don't know what I'm doing and we are going to have to work together to co-create a life that helps him bloom was the real game changer💕

Promising that I will always be on his team& the best way to make it a winning team is through telling the truth has saved us A LOT OF HEADACHES!

So, to the mamas who are currently feeling like what they are doing isn't "landing," I promise you it is... it won't show up every day, but every now and then, your child WILL do or say something that embodies what you wish for them💕

Keep at it. Keep showing up. Keep loving them. Keep guiding. Keep listening to their stories & laugh at their dry jokes.

22/03/2023

Parenting and living can be hard! It sometimes feels like there should be a rule that once you become a parent, you are exempt from all the other life responsibilities!

Seriously, moms should be given 18 years of vacation 😅😅 you know, to just be with your kids so you don't miss a thing!

But ke, that's not the deal... and when life becomes hard, you can feel like you are missing out on your kids. So what do you do?

Schedule!!! What doesn't get scheduled has very little chance of happening...

Schedule time with your kids. Have it in your diary. And then make peace with the fact that there are things you will miss, but it won't be all of it!

As always, I wish you the courage to keep walking in the direction of the person you want to become ❤️

15/03/2023

A friendly reminder that, "no" is a full sentence!!!

Say it with your chest!!! It is where most of your peace of mind will come from😅