Therapy with Harry

12/11/2025

As the winter months roll in, many of us feel our mood shift along with the shorter days. The good news is that our home environment can play a big role in how we feel.

In my new blog, I explore five simple ways to turn your space into a source of comfort and happiness: using your senses, surrounding yourself with meaningful memories, and embracing calm through cozy routines.

If you’ve been feeling the winter blues, these ideas can help you reconnect with warmth and ease this season.

Struggling with Seasonal Affective Disorder? Discover 5 unique ways to create happiness triggers in your home and beat the winter blues.

11/09/2025

Fantasies aren’t just daydreams, they’re mirrors. They can show us the wounds we carry and the healing we’re craving. In this blog, I share how my own childhood fantasies shifted over time and how they reflected my journey through trauma, patriarchy, and self-forgiveness.
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep picturing yourself as the hero, the star, or the healer, this post can help you make sense of it, and maybe even use it as a tool for self-understanding.

Explore how your fantasies reveal insights into your trauma history, and learn more about what your fantasies mean for you.

13/08/2025

Self-care can be many different things, and sometimes, simple daily routines can make a big difference.
In my latest blog, I share 8 simple things I’ve been doing lately that have genuinely improved my mental health. From “fake buying” things online to being more intentional about who I spend time with, these are the small but impactful changes I’ve made.
If you want ideas for your own mental health toolkit, check it out here:

Discover effective self-care tips for mental health from a therapist. Explore 10 unique self-care tips to enhance your wellness journey today!

13/07/2025

Do you ever feel like you should be able to rest, but your body just…won’t let you?

That restless pacing. The guilt of not being productive. The itch to “use your time well.”
So many of my clients, especially 2nd gen Asians, struggle to actually rest without spiraling into anxiety or shame.

In this new blog, I unpack why rest feels so uncomfortable, why it’s so deeply tied to self-worth, and how we can start unlearning the Hustle&Grind mindset.

Read the full piece here 👇

A lot of us are really bad at resting. Learn how to embrace rest for better mental health and break free from productivity anxiety.

12/06/2025

I used to skip birthday parties because they felt embarrassing… until I threw four of them in one year.

Turns out, the real story wasn’t about the cake or the guests — it was about reclaiming agency after years of learned helplessness.

When you grow up in a family where trauma, control, or emotional shutdowns were the norm, even choosing to celebrate yourself can feel unfamiliar. But building self-determination doesn’t start with big declarations. It starts with small, doable acts that say: I matter.

This blog is for anyone who feels stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to prioritize their own joy.

💡 Read it here:

If you have trauma, you're also likely to feel helpless at times. Can a birthday party really help us feel empowered? Read to find out!

09/06/2025

Hi, I'm Harry (he/him)!

I know first-hand how hard it is to feel like you don't belong anywhere.

I'm a 1.5 generation immigrant who has learned to embrace my complicated identity and mix of cultures.

I hope to support you to do the same.

Imagine, the freedom to be all of who you are – every moment, every day.

Get more information on my website!
harryautherapy.com

14/05/2025

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the grief that comes with healing—especially the grief of lost time. The years we spent surviving instead of thriving.

This blog came out of a conversation at the gym, where I realized I might be in my second prime. It’s about what it means to reclaim the time we thought trauma took from us, and how we start to live on purpose again.

If you’ve ever felt anger or sadness about what you missed out on, this one’s for you.

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Do you feel like trauma stole your prime? Here's 3 tips to embrace your second prime, and live the life that you want.

22/04/2025

And here is me, getting some release for all my trauma and anxiety held in my neck and back.

For many of us, growing up with childhood trauma means our nervous system is always activated. Our bodies are always in fight/flight/freeze/fawn mode. Simply put, our bodies are always activated to try and protect us. And that takes a toll on our body.

An important aspect of trauma healing is to become aware of our activated nervous system, and training our bodies to de-activate. If you’re looking for a body-mind approach to therapy, you can find me at www.HarryAuTherapy.com.

If you’re looking for a holistic chiropractor, check out Dr. Adam Bletsoe.

10/04/2025

Ever been told you're "doing well for a minority"? Or felt pressure to succeed to make your family proud?

The Model Minority Myth seems flattering on the surface—but it’s rooted in anti-Blackness and white supremacy, and it’s messing with our mental health more than we realize.

In this blog, I break down the racist history behind the term, how it was weaponized to divide BIPOC communities, and why breaking free from it can feel both terrifying and freeing.

If you’ve ever felt invisible and under pressure at the same time, this one's for you.

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Uncover the insidious history behind model minority racism and its impact on Asian communities and your mental health.

10/03/2025

People-pleasers—have you ever felt trapped in a no-win situation? The kind where, no matter what, you either betray yourself or disappoint others? That inner battle can stir up a LOT of anger, especially when we’ve spent our whole lives learning that love is conditional.

In my latest blog, I share a real-life moment where my people-pleasing clashed with my core values—and how I handled it differently this time. If you struggle with people-pleasing, setting boundaries, or navigating anger, this one’s for you.

Discover the journey of healing anger and people-pleasing tendencies. Learn how to navigate inner rage and find authentic connections.

09/02/2025

I recently wrote about my top self-care practices, and it's not your typical list. I’m talking about things like giving up white T-shirts (seriously), accepting loneliness as part of the human experience, and throwing FOUR birthday parties just for fun. 🎂 It’s all about finding joy in ways that actually work for you—and letting go of stuff that doesn’t. Curious? Check it out here!

10 self-care practices that improved my mental health: from simplifying life and embracing contentment to fostering meaningful connections.

09/01/2025

🌟 New Year, New Goals? Let’s make it human. 🌟

Goal-setting doesn’t have to feel like a chore or an arbitrary checklist. In my latest blog, I share two transformative approaches—Identity-Guided Goals and Emotion-Guided Goals—that help you set intentions aligned with who you truly are and how you want to feel.

This year, let’s reflect, connect with our emotions, and make goals that actually mean something. Ready to explore? 👇

Make your goals HUMAN​You're not a robot. So your goal setting should not be robotic. Let's put the HUMAN back into your goals.​Why is this goal setting process different?​✔ It prioritizes your identities ✔ It centralizes your emotions ✔ It asks you to do less things ​Sign up below, to...