Therapy with Harry

13/07/2025

Do you ever feel like you should be able to rest, but your body just…won’t let you?

That restless pacing. The guilt of not being productive. The itch to “use your time well.”
So many of my clients, especially 2nd gen Asians, struggle to actually rest without spiraling into anxiety or shame.

In this new blog, I unpack why rest feels so uncomfortable, why it’s so deeply tied to self-worth, and how we can start unlearning the Hustle&Grind mindset.

Read the full piece here 👇

A lot of us are really bad at resting. Learn how to embrace rest for better mental health and break free from productivity anxiety.

12/06/2025

I used to skip birthday parties because they felt embarrassing… until I threw four of them in one year.

Turns out, the real story wasn’t about the cake or the guests — it was about reclaiming agency after years of learned helplessness.

When you grow up in a family where trauma, control, or emotional shutdowns were the norm, even choosing to celebrate yourself can feel unfamiliar. But building self-determination doesn’t start with big declarations. It starts with small, doable acts that say: I matter.

This blog is for anyone who feels stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to prioritize their own joy.

💡 Read it here:

If you have trauma, you're also likely to feel helpless at times. Can a birthday party really help us feel empowered? Read to find out!

09/06/2025

Hi, I'm Harry (he/him)!

I know first-hand how hard it is to feel like you don't belong anywhere.

I'm a 1.5 generation immigrant who has learned to embrace my complicated identity and mix of cultures.

I hope to support you to do the same.

Imagine, the freedom to be all of who you are – every moment, every day.

Get more information on my website!
harryautherapy.com

14/05/2025

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the grief that comes with healing—especially the grief of lost time. The years we spent surviving instead of thriving.

This blog came out of a conversation at the gym, where I realized I might be in my second prime. It’s about what it means to reclaim the time we thought trauma took from us, and how we start to live on purpose again.

If you’ve ever felt anger or sadness about what you missed out on, this one’s for you.

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Do you feel like trauma stole your prime? Here's 3 tips to embrace your second prime, and live the life that you want.

22/04/2025

And here is me, getting some release for all my trauma and anxiety held in my neck and back.

For many of us, growing up with childhood trauma means our nervous system is always activated. Our bodies are always in fight/flight/freeze/fawn mode. Simply put, our bodies are always activated to try and protect us. And that takes a toll on our body.

An important aspect of trauma healing is to become aware of our activated nervous system, and training our bodies to de-activate. If you’re looking for a body-mind approach to therapy, you can find me at www.HarryAuTherapy.com.

If you’re looking for a holistic chiropractor, check out Dr. Adam Bletsoe.

10/04/2025

Ever been told you're "doing well for a minority"? Or felt pressure to succeed to make your family proud?

The Model Minority Myth seems flattering on the surface—but it’s rooted in anti-Blackness and white supremacy, and it’s messing with our mental health more than we realize.

In this blog, I break down the racist history behind the term, how it was weaponized to divide BIPOC communities, and why breaking free from it can feel both terrifying and freeing.

If you’ve ever felt invisible and under pressure at the same time, this one's for you.

👉 Read here:

Uncover the insidious history behind model minority racism and its impact on Asian communities and your mental health.

10/03/2025

People-pleasers—have you ever felt trapped in a no-win situation? The kind where, no matter what, you either betray yourself or disappoint others? That inner battle can stir up a LOT of anger, especially when we’ve spent our whole lives learning that love is conditional.

In my latest blog, I share a real-life moment where my people-pleasing clashed with my core values—and how I handled it differently this time. If you struggle with people-pleasing, setting boundaries, or navigating anger, this one’s for you.

Discover the journey of healing anger and people-pleasing tendencies. Learn how to navigate inner rage and find authentic connections.

09/02/2025

I recently wrote about my top self-care practices, and it's not your typical list. I’m talking about things like giving up white T-shirts (seriously), accepting loneliness as part of the human experience, and throwing FOUR birthday parties just for fun. 🎂 It’s all about finding joy in ways that actually work for you—and letting go of stuff that doesn’t. Curious? Check it out here!

10 self-care practices that improved my mental health: from simplifying life and embracing contentment to fostering meaningful connections.

09/01/2025

🌟 New Year, New Goals? Let’s make it human. 🌟

Goal-setting doesn’t have to feel like a chore or an arbitrary checklist. In my latest blog, I share two transformative approaches—Identity-Guided Goals and Emotion-Guided Goals—that help you set intentions aligned with who you truly are and how you want to feel.

This year, let’s reflect, connect with our emotions, and make goals that actually mean something. Ready to explore? 👇

Make your goals HUMAN​You're not a robot. So your goal setting should not be robotic. Let's put the HUMAN back into your goals.​Why is this goal setting process different?​✔ It prioritizes your identities ✔ It centralizes your emotions ✔ It asks you to do less things ​Sign up below, to...

05/12/2024

🎄 Holidays with family can be tough, especially if your relationships are... complicated. If you're feeling a bit of dread about family gatherings, you're not alone.

I just wrote a blog sharing 10 practical tips to help you navigate the holidays while keeping your peace intact. From setting boundaries to managing expectations, it's all about making this season a little easier for you.

Take a read if this resonates, or share it with someone who might need it. 💛

Struggling with family during the holidays? Discover 10 practical tips to safeguard your mental health during the festive season.

07/11/2024

As the winter months settle in and daylight fades, it’s easy to feel the Winter Blues sneaking in. But what if our homes could actually boost our mood? 🌞 In my latest blog, I share five tips for creating a living space that brings happiness, comfort, and calm to the cold season. From tapping into cherished memories to creating cozy nooks and sensory experiences, these small changes can make a big difference. Ready to transform your home into a safe haven this winter? Check out the full blog to learn how!

Struggling with Seasonal Affective Disorder? Discover 5 unique ways to create happiness triggers in your home and beat the winter blues.

06/06/2024

Let's acknowledge the existence of racism, but also take steps towards healing. 🌱 Learn how understanding this process can positively impact your mental health and life. Join us on the journey towards trauma healing at https://wix.to/OdTPQxD