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21/09/2022

If you treat others as if they exist only for your pleasure, then you learn to be callous and exploitative, and that attitude will inevitably color even your perception of yourself.

15/09/2022

Face your fears.

Artwork by After Skool.

23/08/2022

It's all very well to think the meaning of life is happiness, but what happens when you're unhappy? Happiness is a great side effect. When it comes, accept it gratefully. But it's fleeting and unpredictable. It's not something to aim at – because it's not an aim. And if happiness is the purpose of life, what happens when you're unhappy? Then you're a failure. And perhaps a suicidal failure. Happiness is like cotton candy. It's just not going to do the job.

12/08/2022

You must determine where you have been in your life, so that you can know where you are now. If you don’t know where you are, precisely, then you could be anywhere.
Anywhere is too many places to be, and some of those places are very bad. You must determine where you have been in your life, because otherwise you can’t get to where you’re going.
You can’t get from point A to point B unless you are already at point A, and if you’re just “anywhere” the chances you are at point A are very small indeed.
Say what you mean, so that you can find out what you mean. Act out what you say, so you can find out what happens. Then pay attention. Note your errors. Articulate them. Strive to correct them. That is how you discover the meaning of your life. That will protect you from the tragedy of your life. How could it be otherwise
Confront the chaos of Being. Take aim against a sea of troubles. Specify your destination, and chart your course. Admit to what you want. Tell those around you who you are. Narrow, and gaze attentively, and move forward, forthrightly.

06/08/2022

A rabbit isn’t virtuous, it just can’t do anything except get eaten. It’s not virtuous.
If you’re a monster and you don’t act monstrously, then you’re virtuous.

if you’re harmless…you’re not virtuous. You’re just harmless; you’re like a rabbit.
A rabbit isn’t virtuous, it just can’t do anything except get eaten. It’s not virtuous.
If you’re a monster and you don’t act monstrously, then you’re virtuous.

But you also have to be a monster. Well, you see this all the time. Harry Potter is like that too.
It’s like he’s flawed, he’s hurt, he’s got evil in him, he can talk to snakes, man!
He breaks rules all the time. All the time. He’s not obedient at all, but you know he has a good reason for breaking rules. And if he couldn’t break the rules, him and his little clique of rule breaking, you know, trouble makers.
If they didn’t break the rules, they wouldn’t attain the highest goals.
So it’s very peculiar, but it’s very very very common mythological notion. You know the hero has to be a monster.
But a controlled monster, Batman is like that, and you know it’s everywhere.

05/08/2022

People are often loath to figure out precisely where they are. They don’t want to know because they’d rather be spread out, in a half-blind manner—in the fog—hoping that the place that they’re at is better than it is, and deluding themselves by remaining vague; Rather than trying to figure out, “I’m right here, right now, with these specific problems”.

But it’s better to do that because If you have a set of specific problems and you narrow them down and specify them, then you can start fixing them, and you can start fixing them incrementally.

Slay the dragon in his lair before he comes to your village.

30/07/2022

Andrew Tate on Jordan Peterson and Depression!

25/07/2022

Responsibility and Meaning (Dr Jordan b Peterson):
Everything that goes along with suffering is a challenge, and it’s the full challenge, because it takes everything you have. Part of the reason we disagree is because there are complex problems to solve, and then we also disagree because we’re wilfully blind and because we’re more ignorant than we should be, and we’re not everything we should be, and we tilt towards malevolence from time to time, and we betray each other and ourselves. So we take a bad lot, in many ways, and make it worse. Now, not always, obviously, and we don’t have to. But that’s sort of the baseline that we’re working against. I think people are most disappointed in life when they’re disappointed in themselves. They see that they’ve made things worse than they had to be, even though the baseline can be pretty brutal. So the book—and all my lectures, I suppose—are put forward in an attempt to take the high level philosophical abstractions and to make them into something that’s actionable.
And, hopefully, also so that people around you don’t have to either. So one of the things I’ve been talking to my audiences about is the relationship between responsibility and meaning, which is… What would you say… It’s a constant refrain in the book. It’s one of its underlying messages, let’s say—themes is a better way of thinking about it. If you start with the presumption that there is a baseline of suffering in life, and that that can be exaggerated as a consequence of human failing, as a consequence of malevolence and betrayal and self-betrayal and deceit, and all those things that we do to each other and ourselves that we know aren’t good, that amplifies the suffering. That’s sort of the baseline against which you have to work. It’s contemplation of that that often makes people hopeless and depressed and anxious and overwhelmed and all of that, and they have their reasons. But you need something to put up against that, and what you put up against that is meaning. Meaning is actually the instinct that helps you guide yourself through that catastrophe. Most of that meaning is to be found in the adoption of responsibility. So if you think, for example, about the people that you admire, well, you think about when you have a clear conscience, first, because that’s a good thing to aim at, which is something different than happiness.

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