Heni Glant at IntuKids

26/10/2021

Let me talk about the “Bed Situation” in your child’s room and I highly recommend you consider the same (changes) in your own bedroom as well.
As I told you in my last post, it is very rewarding to fight the hassle and put the bed into the corner which is the furthest from the door in the way that if anyone is lying in the bed has a full view of the person who comes in. You also make sure that the bed in this position is NOT under the window!
Here are the “Because”-s:
- The bed across the door with a solid wall behind is called the “commander” position in Feng Shui. It is a powerful position because you are protected from behind (it will make sense when I talk about the window) and you have a full view of what is happening in the room/who is coming in.

You may ask, like all my customers and students when it is about Feng Shui and the commander position, who should you be afraid of? Why is it this strong strategic caution in the bedroom in your own house? You are right; it does ‘t make sense for our modern conscious mind. But the main concept in Feng Shui is always “safety”. And when we were in the cave, we always needed to be alert and we always needed to be somewhere in the cave where we saw the mountain lion coming in and looking around for some late-night snack. This is your subconscious mind, which main focus is to make sure (your body) you are safe and your nervous system can turn off and relax.

Where can you catch it in our modern life? Do you remember when you went to a restaurant last time? Or before or before? Isn’t there always an under-the-surface light competition who would sit where at the table? Aren’t the seats with a wall (booth’s wall) behind and facing the kitchen or maybe the entrance are the most popular seats? Why? Because you want to be in control and you want to know what is going on from the corner of your eye, even though you are having fun and talking to the people at the table.

This is the same reason you need to try to put your child’s bed to the wall across the door so that she/he will be able to see the traffic in and out of the room. If you don’t believe me, move your bed and see how much better you sleep and then do it for your child and ask them.

- The difference between the bed position in your bedroom and your child’s bedroom is that in the master bedroom the bed should be in a position that either person can easily get up and or lay down from the side of the bed; in short, the bed is not pushed to the wall. It is not the case in your child’s room. Pushing the bed against the wall can make your child safe and more secure. It can also eliminate the sides/places they can fall off the bed while they are sleeping.

- Try to get a wooden bed and avoid metal as a material the bed is made of. There are several reasons, but one of the most important is that metal attracts electricity which is not good for the nervous system in a long way. Then, if we talk about the solid wall behind the bed, you can easily admit that there is no solid metal headboard for a bed. Besides the wall, the solid headboard (wood) is very important for the above-mentioned reasons. Next, wood is not making squeaky noises and if you have a light sleeper child with nightmares, the bed may be a reason. As your little one /or teenager moves around at night, the squeaky sound may crawl into the dream and become part of it. Will your child know when he/she wakes up that there were weird noises in the dream? Not necessarily, but it could be a practical reason.

- Make sure there is nothing (!), I repeat, nothing under the bed! There should be no toys, clutter, bedding sheets, anything under the bed. It is important for the energy flowing freely around in the room.
(I had many cases when people had back issues and sleeping problems until we removed swords, guns, and other items from under the bed. Then suddenly a miracle happened. Issues were gone and restful sleep moved into the room.)

My former customer's child could not and did not want to sleep in her bed. The parents really tried everything, even giving medication to the child, but she was just too cranky and tired every morning. Consequently, she could not pay attention in the first half of the day at school. Her tests were Ds and Cs. Once I pointed out that grandma’s old doll collection should be removed with along some of her own baby stuff (clothes, bibs, toys) and they should clean under the bed thoroughly, they could not wake her up the next morning. She was sleeping in; and for the first time, she was smiling and nice in the morning, which nobody remembered when it happened last time. She started to go to bed earlier because “I just LOVE sleeping”. Her tests were getting better and she was able to finish the tests in time and got grades of Bs and As. It is a big difference, isn’t it?

- Talking about toys, if you have a child from the age of toddler to low grades at school, and going to bed is a show every night, make sure you put the toys away from the bed out of reach… No comment, I think.:)

- Make sure you have a limited number of plush toys and animals in the bed. Even though they are soft and warm and your child LOVE all of them, they still represent fire (living energy) and they also have their own story of how they found their way to your child’s room and bed. It is just too much information, vibration; and your child needs the opposite at night.

- Do everything in your power to remove shelves above the bed or a build-in. These will hold toys and items, again symbolizing lively energies, plus you do not want a shelf to fall on your child! It happened!! Thanks, Good my childhood friend was not in the bed when it happened, but the bed was under a shelf and it was attached to the wall the way that nothing could make it fall and it did while he was at school. When he came home, he found the shelf on his bed. No comment, right?

- One more thing I need you to check out before we go on: What is on the other side of the wall where the bed is. I really have no space to detail the harm what a toilet, waterpipes, an AC unit, or a refrigerator can cause on anyone but especially on a child. If that is the case in your home, I highly recommend you to call out a Feng Shui expert or call me to help you to find the best spot for the bed. Infertility, dementia, cancer, stroke were the results in my clients’ life by sleeping in conditions I mentioned above.

But I am writing about your child's bedroom, so here is another example. My friend's son was sleeping on the other side of the wall where the fridge was in the kitchen. The boy looks and looks healthy, but he did not like to sleep in his bed, and even at the age of 9, he still snuggled into his parents’ bed early in the morning, and then he slept half of the morning through till he was able to really wake up. When he had a sleepover at a friend’s house, he reported how well he slept most of the time. What was very interesting to me was when his parents got him a new bed with a pull-out drawer which was another bed, so this bed was two in one. If he had a friend sleeping over, they just pulled out this “under the bed” bed and the guest had a good sleep. What I noticed was that the boy pulled out this extra bed and slept on it more and more times. The parents did not really understand why, but to me, it was the boy’s Feng Shui instinct/subconscious which made him pull out the extra bed to sleep on. This way, he got further away (one bed’s distance) from the fridge on the other side of the wall. He could not explain to me why he started to do it, but he said: “I don’t know. I just sleep better there”.

There are a few things to think about, right? Let me write to you next time about why you should not put any bed under the window.

If you have any comments or questions or you feel you need my help, please contact me! Please, let me know how it worked what you tried out.

Here is a photo of a good Feng Shui bedroom and ...

This image shows the best bed positions.
- In option 4: the orange line on the wall is the mirror. This is the only time or reason when I recommend having a mirror in a bedroom. its purpose is to reflect who is coming into the room
- In option 5: The blue line on the wall is a window and the blue star is a 40 mm crystal hanging from the ceiling and it is placed between the door and the bed. If you don't like this idea, put a red rug between the door and the bed.

17/10/2021

Continuing the holistic path in these blogs, I would like to talk more about your child’s bedroom. Last time I talked about how important the “Me time” is; when your child can just doze out really not doing anything. As much, we adults need our me time and we need our personal space, as much your child needs these features as well.

As a (many times) certified Feng Shui consultant, I see that designating a separate space for a child is very natural for the parents most of the time. Even young couples, who are just moving in together into a very small apartment but the baby is on the way…, find the baby’s place. What happens after the child is actually there, is a different thing. Many times, the child is not a baby anymore and he/she still sleeps with mom and dad. Many times, the whole house will turn into the child’s room. You walk in and you see toys, blankets, stuffed animals, and/or the child’s little table and chair to do art etc. all over the house.

As every room has its function in the house, and you have your own bedroom; plus there is a study where you do your admin work; a living room to get together and a dining room to eat together; your child needs to have his/ her corner or bedroom. That personal space means boundaries and it is required to be appreciated from either side. (There is a door for a reason and the walls are representing privacy).

If we are already talking about personal spaces and boundaries, let me ask you a few questions.
-What is the 1st thing you see when you go into your child’s room?
-What is the 1st thing you see when you open your eyes lying in the bed?
-Are these pretty, positive, inspiring yet calm and soothing images? If not, please change them. A Ninja warrior poster that looks like going to jump on you from the wall may not be the most welcoming image. Skulls (we will talk about them later), fast-running trains or race cars, huge crashing waves, or wild animals are not necessarily representations of peace, love and harmony, and or safety, right?
-Is your child's room organized, or does the design/decor follow the many times unpractical layout of the room? What I mean is: are there different sections in the room serving different functions, or toys, books, are all cluttered up on the shelves, next to the bed, or even under the bed?

If we think about the saying: ”as above so below” we can see the logic behind the concept that each room in the house has a designated purpose. Then we should follow this rule in our child's room as well: and each live area in our child’s room should be separated ideally.

I know that one room out of 100 is big enough to do so. But we could do something to make the room really cozy and supportive. Look at the first image! It would be an ideal setup for your child’s room. The image shows the ideal bed and desk position. The bed should not be under the window at all (!), and the desk is important where to face, but let me talk about these later! The thick red line represents a divider in the room. A bookshelf, a plant stand, a screen would do a good favor. Make sure you attach it to the wall and or the ceiling so it will be stable and secure. The blue zigzag where the red arrow points could be a curtain that you can draw in or out.

The toys should be away from the bed and or the desk. They should be stored neatly and certain kinds of toys hould be in a box with a lid. I would recommend doing this especially if you have a very energetic child. Put cars, trains, weapons, (ponies for the girls), or anything that can move fast into a covered box. Why? Because Feng Shui is all about energy, and it shocks me every single time how literal it works. Everything that moves fast represents restless energy and if your child is already always on the go, you may see a correlation between fast-moving toys and your restless child. Even if these are just toys and they move if someone makes them move, symbolically, they represent activity. Are you still doubting it? Give it a try and please let me know if you have noticed any change; please write your comments here, so others can learn as well.

Here is an example from real life: Once I Feng Shui-ed a house for a family and they had a lot of problems with the little boy. He was the odd one out in the family, he hated to stay in his room, he never slept in his room and everybody's energy was focused on him. This is what I found.:
-His room was in the family/ancestors area in the house. So he ruled the family... everything was about him.
-He had mildew in his room, so the air quality was not good, the room was polluted, it was very obvious that he did not want to stay in his room.
-Look at the pictures. the little cars made him move around all night and
-the box on the shelf was the very first thing for him to see when he woke up.

How can you cure this?
-Take down the cars,
-put mom's and dad's picture on the wall right across the bed, so the little one will feel happy, loved, and secure every single time when he/she looks up;
-and of course, get rid of mildew.
-Oh, and declutter the room, eliminate extra toys, and organize them neatly.

We know that children have tremendous energy. They talk loudly, they run, jump, they think crazy … To provide them a room/place where they can Zen out can be very helpful and healthy for everyone. Later, Teens need their personal space /cave. It matters a lot how you can balance their priority and design requests and a few “common sense/ tried out scientifically proved wisdom” from a few thousand-year-old tradition (Feng Shui).

04/10/2021

If your child has difficulty in learning and get discouraged easily when he/she makes a mistake, teach this rhyme to them: “It’s Ok to make mistakes, I will fix them, there’s no shake” meaning, there is no reason to shake or be afraid. We all make mistakes and we actually learn from our mistakes.

This little rhyme (of my own😊) helped me a lot when I had two kids in one of my previous classes. They both had a kind of panic attack (Pre-K class!!) when they saw a piece of paper and a pencil and they needed to sit down and write letters. They were crying and stared to shake. The girl got “hysterical” burst outs that she would not write. When the rhyme settled into her mind and she understood the meaning of it and she saw that it was really ok to make mistakes with me…., she eased up and she started to enjoy writing the letters. She was whispering this rhyme many times to herself while she was writing, until she truly believed it was really ok not to have perfect lines. The worst thing that might have had happened that I corrected the letter and she needed to trace it 2 or 3 times. Then, she was done and ready to go to play.

The little boy (the other child) was shaking quietly when it was time to write, so with some hugs and kisses on the top of his smart little head and whispering this rhyme into his ears, eventually he felt comfortable to start write letters. Very soon, instead of going to play in the afternoon, he got paper and a pencil or a marker and he was writing his letters one after the other. Then he asked me to tell him letters randomly, so he would write them down. It was a huge thing to him. His older sister was very, very smart and I don’t know how obvious it was for him that he was very far behind of his sister, but it must have caused some anxiety issues for him about school expectations. The sad thing is he was only 4.5…; so this little rhyme and another one, that I will tell you in my post after the next one, brought him a breakthrough and he felt so confident and proud of himself that he was catching up with his sister.

Good luck with this rhyme and let me know how it goes with your child.

27/09/2021

Let me share something about the other I path I am here for regarding children. I want to help you with small ideas how you can help your child.
I am sure you are aware how the young children of the now are different form their older siblings or buddies who are already in mid/high school or even in college. That group of kids are already very attached to technical devices, but these younger kids are even more. It is amazing how fast they can figure out things and then put into practice. One of the boys in my last class (6 yeas old) was telling me stories how he could open and use grandma’s, mom’s, his sister’s ect.’s phone. Then he got silent for a second and said: ”But I cannot open my dad’s phone. He is too fast!” 😊 I asked him a few months later if he could open his dad’s phone. He said with a big smile on his face: “oh, yeeee!!”
I am aware it is very hard to get children engaged and you need some time to make dinner, you have another child, or and a husband etc. The easiest way to make these kids calm down and quiet if we give them an electronic “toy”. I know you already know all the advantages and disadvantages of screen time. I don’t want to lecture you about it. But here is an idea to compromise with your child:
-Why don’t you try to teach your child about a short “me time” before bed. You turn off all the electronic devices (if it is possible even the TV next room; he/she can get a book (before you come into his room to read a night story-if it is still applicable), maybe you can light a candle if it is safe and you let your child be with his/her thoughts for a few minutes. Do not start it with 10 minutes. In the beginning start with 1 minute, saying: ”I will be back in a minute” and then really come in. Next time, extend it to 1.5 minutes. Yes, you will have rejection and withdrawal syndromes in the beginning, but if you are consistent… for a while, I promise it will work. Eventually they will get used to and they will want this “me time” later, you can send them outside during the day and just make them sit on the ground or lay down and look at the clouds…. So if you cannot shorten their “screen times”, then introduce/require some “Me time”. Yes, they will rebel in the beginning saying: they are bored and come up with all excuses. But keep this “Me time” remarkably shorter than screen time, so they will see how fair you are. Here is why:
Why it is really important that we need to teach these “kids of our time” to be with themselves, because these children are very sensitive in many ways. Their brain needs a few minutes to shut down the effect of the screen vibrating. Their energy field needs some time to ground those ions and vibes from the phone or tablet. Their need a few moments to reflect and think about their day/behavior. It is different from when they discuss their day with you. It is their time. Their time to look into themselves. Silence will turn on things which might be suppressed. Trust the process! When you were a child, you had time outs…; many times, nowadays, teachers are not allowed to make kids sit down, and many times you rather give him/her something to do rather than make them stay calm for 2-3 minutes. Your evenings are so short and everything is WIFI and vibrating around us all day long. Stillness can move things and they can move to the right direction!
Another tool that can help your child to go to sleep in a clam way is to give her/him a crystal. They can just hold it and look at it. They can do many things with that crystal, like “pretend it is my phone/your tablet” (incase of some rejection). The result of giving her a “magnetite crystal” may surprise both of you. Dim the room by lowering the lights, drawing in the curtains… etc.. help your child calm down mentally, emotionally and physically before sleeping. You will see surprising results at school, in behavior and the way they think. Let me know how it works for you.

26/09/2021

25/09/2021

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