Design Your Life - With Lucy Griffin-Stiff

22/02/2023

The advert alludes to the idea that Red Bull gives you wings… I can confirm that Brave Pants give you FREEDOM!

Just like in Braveheart, but without death and torture.

Finding your Brave Pants means switching up your mindset so you can go after what you want without holding yourself back.

Brave Pants also means:

🔥 Courage and confidence to go for it
🔥More Energy
🔥Motivation
🔥 Investing in yourself and your future
🔥 Better relationships
🔥 Loving yourself and your life

Now who doesn’t want that?

Want to find out more?

DM me the word Brave Pants. Simple as that.

20/02/2023

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10 THINGS TIME HAS TAUGHT ME

1. Most of our life is spent chasing false goals and worshipping false ideals. The day you realise that is the day you really start to live.

2. You really, truly cannot please all of the people all of the time. Please yourself first and your loved ones second, everyone else is busy pleasing themselves anyway, trust me.

3. Fighting the ageing process is like trying to catch the wind. Go with it, enjoy it. Your body is changing, but it always has been. Don’t waste time trying to reverse that, instead change your mindset to see the beauty in the new.

4. Nobody is perfect and nobody is truly happy with their lot. When that sinks in you are free of comparison and free of judgement. It’s truly liberating.

5. No one really sees what you do right, everyone sees what you do wrong. When that becomes clear to you, you will start doing things for the right reason and you will start having so much more fun.

6. You will regret the years you spent berating your looks, the sooner you can make peace with the vessel your soul lives in, the better. Your body is amazing and important but it does not define you.

7. Your health is obviously important but stress, fear and worry are far more damaging than any delicious food or drink you may deny yourself. Happiness and peace are the best medicine.

8. Who will remember you and for what, become important factors as you age. Your love and your wisdom will live on far longer than any material thing you can pass down. Tell your stories, they can travel farther than you can imagine.

9. We are not here for long but if you are living against the wind it can feel like a life-sentence. Life should not feel like a chore, it should feel like an adventure.

10. Always, always, drink the good champagne/ Cacao and use the things you keep for ‘best’. Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one. Today is a gift that’s why we call it the present. Eat, Drink & Be Merry.

Words: Donna Ashworth
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B095MZ3XFP/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6QX0Y2EW59QD6JXJ635M

Art by Linda Apple

10/02/2023

Everyone can benefit from Brave Pants... Do you want some?

When we’ve all got our Brave Pants on – this is the result:

🔥More Energy
🔥More Motivation
🔥More Harmonious relationships
🔥Falling back in love with your life / what you do
🔥Ready to grow into your next chapter

And here are some more specifics for Business Owners and for those re-thinking their career right now.

Whether you want to transition to something new, fall back in love with what you do, or set something up of your own - stepping into your Brave Pants will get you there.

Benefits of Brave Pants for a Business Owner:

✅ Courage and confidence to be visible and put yourself out there
✅Let go of the self-doubt and self-sabotage standing in the way of success
✅Absolute clarity on the best decisions for you based on your Values
✅Move past fears of public speaking or similar
✅ Get comfortable with stretching your comfort zone to meet ambitious goals
✅ Become the boss of your brain

Benefits of Brave Pants for a career transitioner /re-thinker:

💡 Get absolute clarity on who you are now, what you want, and why
💡 Understand what matters, what’s important and how to balance your boundaries
💡 Get to the root cause of what’s been blocking you so far
💡Move past self-sabotage to go for what you want
💡 Get the confidence to be a courageous change-maker
💡Become the boss of your brain. Calm, in control, liberated.

And there's plenty more where they came from.

Drop me a DM if you'd like to talk through what Brave Pants could do for you

09/02/2023

I hate the idea that someone else could dictate or rule my life. Do you?

I am the author of my life story and if I let someone else tell me what goes in it and how it turns out, I’d be giving away my power, my freedom, it would be like living in a prison.

Why would you let someone else decide your life for you?

It’s this that massively motivates me to keep doing what I care about.

To help people create and live
a life they love.

Yes, it can take putting your Brave Pants on to be able to do it, but it’s worth it.

You see there is a tendency as we grow up to not be the authors of our own life story.

First of all our parents are our guides and caretakers so they have an influence.

Then teachers, friends, culture, society.
They all put their ten pence in.

We pick up other peoples ideals, values and models of success and put our best foot forward to go after it. (Often without sitting down to question it)

There comes a time in life when we start to question the early decisions we made. Because a lot of these decisions were made using subconscious programming* that developed in the first half of our lives.

(*Drop me a message if you want to learn more about this)

Then there comes the time when we put our Brave Pants on, unpick that old conditioning, unlearn that old
stuff and figure out who we are now, what matters now, what do we really want. NOW and for the future.

That’s where we get to write our own story.

Decide on the next chapter. And go for it.

It’s SO empowering.

🔥 It’s Brave Pants in action. 🔥

We’re not all motivated by the same things.

Some are motivated by carrots or sticks, some are motivated by external reward, some by their values and what really matters to them. Like freedom!

I’m curious to know what motivates you into action?

05/02/2023

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NO WAITING ROOM

What if you didn’t wake up tomorrow and your soul is watching down thinking of all the things you didn’t get to do yet because you were too scared, or too shy, or too worried about money.
And all the things you told yourself you weren’t good enough for, swam in front of your eyes, fighting for a place in the line, beside the words you didn’t say and the joy you forgot to have.

My friend, there is absolutely no room for anything in your day, other than acceptance.
You will never have enough money, or time, and you will certainly never have that perfect body the world told you you need, to be happy.

And before you say it’s too late to embrace this thing we call life, no it is not.

You can do it right where you are. Right this minute.
Get outside, breathe, look at the trees, put your bare feet on the grass - hand on your heart to feel that pulse - and that’s it.

You’re living.

Keep that up.

Wait up for the moon sometimes or get up early to see a sunrise, just because you can.
Jump in the lake. Run, skip.
The things you need to feel alive are free and all around my friend.
You just have to see them.

Let in opportunity and say yes to the invitations that scare you a little, in a good way.
Say no to some of the things you force yourself to do, knowing they rinse you of your peace.

Life was never supposed to be a waiting room, it was supposed to be a hillside, with paths leading in every direction and mountains as far as the eye can see, hiding adventures and new friends behind them.

Don’t let yourself get to the end of this ride without having stopped to smell those beautiful roses.
That’s the only thing you need to fear in this life.
Everything else is all part of it.
It’s all just a messy, complicated, beautiful and terrifying part of it.

Chin up, throw your arms wide open
and let it be so.

Donna Ashworth

From my poetry book ‘LIFE’: https://amzn.eu/d/9Y6E6kz

Art by The Ronald West Gallery

25/01/2023

Every life story has a beginning, middle, and an end.

How's yours going?

The beginning is mostly out of our control and driven by other people, cultural conditioning,
meeting other people’s expectations and society's definition of success.

There comes a time in the middle where this no longer feels right.

Maybe you're approaching a milestone birthday, have had a health scare, or lost someone close to you that's made you realise life is too short.

Life is precious.

It sounds a bit grim but if you were to fast forward to the end of life and look back and give yourself a piece of advice for what to do NOW, what would it be?

> Deep down something needs to change. You know it.

> You're wondering if there's more for you

> You're wondering what's next

You want to make the most out of the middle.

It’s time for a chapter of your life where you play the leading role again, not only the support role.

Now is the time to support yourself.

You have permission.

(All you need is to give yourself permission to direct your story)

You are the author of your life story. You get to write the next chapter.

If you're stuck thinking NOW WHAT? but haven't got the clarity, motivation or tools (brave pants) to write the next chapter and dive right into it - I have the solution.

Comment or drop me a DM with "interested" and I'll keep you in the loop

12/01/2023

Are you brave enough?
>>Imagine you’re on an uncomfortable plastic sunbed looking across the huge pool to the deluxe section where they have those fabulous wooden quality 5-star sunbeds with luxurious mattresses on and huge soft towels.

You really want to be sitting on the deluxe sunbed.

You’ve been watching the people over there all week, having a wonderful time.

You wonder what it takes to go over to that section to enjoy the VIP comfort with the waiter who brings the cocktails round on demand.

You sit and wonder.

There’s a voice in your head telling you just go over there. What’s the worst that could happen? I deserve to be over there.

You’ve been thinking about asking the pool attendant how you get over to the deluxe section, but you’re too scared to ask in case he laughs at you and says you’re not allowed. You’re not worthy enough.

You notice a smart lady walking up to the pool attendant and you listen intently. She’s asking how you get over there!

Brave

The pool attendant smiles kindly and says you just have to get in the pool and swim over there.

Simple!

Why didn’t I ask that at the beginning of my holiday? Today is your last day.

But the pool is cold. You dipped your toe in earlier and thought, not for me thanks. Too cold.

But you know the thing about getting in the pool don’t you?

Once you get over the initial discomfort of the cold, you soon get used to the water and it’s lovely in there.

And then you can swim over to the other side. That’s where you really want to be.

**So what do you do? **

Do you stay on the sunbed you’ve got used to all week? Or do you take the plunge?

Step out of your comfort zone, brave the water, and journey through the pool of possibilities to the other side.

If you think you’ve been spending too long on the wrong side of the pool – DM me the word "swim"

I can help you put your brave pants on, take a swim in the pool of what’s possible and get to where you’ve dreamed of going, but haven’t dared yet!

12/01/2023

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TO THE WOMAN WHO IS SLOWLY FADING AWAY...

To the woman who has lost her spark.
To the woman whose get up and go, has well and truly gone.
This is for you.
This is to remind you whose daughter you are.
This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day.
You didn’t sign up for that.
Remember when you used to laugh? Sing? Throw caution to the wind?
Remember when you used to forgive yourself more quickly for not always being perfect.
You can get that back again.
You really can.
And that doesn’t have to mean letting people down or walking away.
It just means being kinder to you, feeling brave enough to say no sometimes.
Being brave enough to stop sometimes.
And rest.
It starts the moment you realise that you’re not quite who you used to be.
Some of that is good, some of that is not.
There are parts of you that need to be brought back.
And if anyone in your life is not okay with that... they are not your people.
Your people will be glad to see that spark starting to light up again.
So, if you have been slowly fading away my friend, this is the time to start saying yes to things that bring you joy and no to things that don’t.
It’s really pretty simple.

Donna Ashworth
From ‘to the women’

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08LRGWY74/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_QXYBP1XQNKBHB07D6QHC

Image by Kevin Carden

11/01/2023

If you’ve ever heard a voice inside your head tell you there must be more than this, I can do and be more than this, I can enjoy life more than this – I’m talking to you.

Let me tell you about a trick of the brain.

This trick makes you feel like being stuck in a “comfort zone” of certain misery feels more comfortable than all the possibilities of uncertainty.

But that’s crazy, right?

That makes no sense. Surely we want the world of possibilities to be open to us?

The good news is it’s a trick of the brain that we can overcome.

I have a specific set of tools I can share with you that will open a world of possibilities and potential for you. So the things you dream of don’t have to stay in the clouds.

I can help you move past the fear that’s keeping you stuck and that's making you ignore the wise, inside voice that wants to give you a chance to shine, to live your best life.

To feel fulfilled, happy, and alive.

All you need to do is comment me the word “yes”, and we can set up a call.

This is the first step on that journey to move away from a stuck, frustrated, unfulfilling life – and move towards your potential with purpose, freedom, and joy.

We only live once. And time is precious. You get to decide how to live it.

Change can be uncomfortable, but it can change your life.

And I’m really serious about helping you change your life.

Come on a journey with me and I’ll share with you the tools you can use to change your life.

Working with me will make moving through your comfort zone more comfortable. I won’t lie, there will be challenges, but I can show you how to navigate them and feel a sense of purpose and achievement as you overcome them.

The very wise Wayne Dyer once said “Don’t die with your music still inside you.” I think that powerfully sums up how we can live a life in a small box of our comfort zone without ever venturing out to see what’s possible for you. To hear the music.

I can get you unstuck from your small box with neuroscience-based tools and coaching that will change how you approach your life forever.

Are you gonna DM / comment the word "yes"?

Let's do this!

10/01/2023

⏱️If you could write the next chapter of your life story, what would you put in it?

Or are you not sure?

Would you want more of the same or in truth, would you like things to be different?

Do you feel scared of trying to change things?
You wouldn't be human if you didn't feel a bit of fear... 🤢

✋But don't let that stop you!

Your life is precious. It isn't a prison, the door is open, and you get to choose...

I have a particular set of skills that can help you:

> Figure out what you really want next in your life
> Understand what's important to you and how to align your life to it
> Support you through the change
> Move past fear and embrace the future you desire
> Feel alive like you've finally figured out your full potential
> Make that next chapter the best of your life

Do you know what you want next?

I'd love to hear your rambling thoughts on a virtual cuppa so we can make sense of them...

The link to book is the last picture below.
Or DM me, simples.

Let's make your next chapter the best of your life.

04/01/2023

Sing it with me...
"You gotta be strong enough to walk on through the night
There's another new day on the other side
You gotta hope in your soul just to keep on walkin'
Strong enough to walk on through the night
There's another new day on the other side
But I've got hope in my soul, I keep walkin'"

This is for you if you've lost your mojo, are creeping slowly into the new year, and are feeling the need to relight your fire!

Take three deep breaths in and out.
It's ok to ease yourself in.
There's a new day on the other side.

If you're feeling a bit lost with what you want for 2023, or the next chapter of your life, keep that hope in your soul, channel your inner LuLu, and book a free virtual cuppa with me. Drop me a DM to arrange.

We can look at where you are now, and where you want to be (even if you aren't sure yet).

Taking that one small action to relight your fire 🔥 will be the first step to reclaiming your mojo and discovering what's next for you...

Happy New Year my friends. Let's make it a great one 😊❤️

So do you fancy that virtual cuppa to relight your fire?
Drop me a DM and we can set it up

13/12/2022

Do you scroll past and panic when you see another goal-setting post? 🏃‍♂️ One that asks you to visualise 2023, and make it your best year yet?

I have the antidote…

You’re not alone in avoiding this task and there can be several reasons why.

Ø You’re not someone who finds it easy to visualise

Ø You’ve got too many options and possibilities. It all feels too much (so you don’t do it

Ø It’s too f-ing hard to think as there’s too much going on

Ø You’re busy surviving one day to the next, NO TIME to stop and think about what’s next

When it comes down to it, the main reason is that you haven’t got clear on what’s important to you first. You’re in a recurring cycle and you can’t change it alone.

I hear you:

“I don’t know what the hell I want – so how the heck am I supposed to visualise it… 🤷‍♀️
I know I don’t want more of this. 😡
🤔 But I don’t know what I want instead.
So P*ss off with your 2023 goal-setting posts”

Is this you?

Do you know what happens in this scenario?

NOTHING 😟🤯

Unless of course, you reach out to me!
I can help.

If you’d like the antidote to not knowing what you want – so you can figure out what you really want for next year, in a much deeper and more liberating process than goal setting, drop me a DM.

It might just change your life...