Shay Rees-Davies Counselling

04/11/2024

I think we underestimate the power of the earth and all its elements, in our search for peace, and healing and truth.

Wherever you are today, do whatever you can do to connect with the earth. Step outside, feel the breeze, feel the sun on your skin, breathe, listen to the birds, take off your shoes and walk on the grass.

" And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair" - Khalil Gibran

01/10/2024

27/09/2024

*Respect Children's Boundaries: STOP Forced Affection*

As caregivers, we want children to feel loved and valued. However, forced affection can harm their emotional well-being and undermine their autonomy.

*Why Forced Affection is Harmful:*

1. Violates personal boundaries
2. Confuses consent and affection
3. Fosters unhealthy relationships
4. Increases anxiety and stress
5. Undermines self-worth

*Signs of Forced Affection:*

1. Insisting on hugs/kisses when they're not wanted
2. Ignoring "no" or "stop"
3. Using guilt or manipulation
4. Physical touch without consent
5. Disregarding body language

*Respecting Children's Boundaries:*

1. Ask permission before physical touch
2. Honor their "no" or "stop"
3. Offer alternatives (e.g., high-fives, fist bumps)
4. Model healthy boundaries yourself
5. Teach consent and self-advocacy

*Healthy Affection Tips:*

1. Ask children how they prefer to show affection
2. Respect their preferences
3. Offer choices (e.g., hug, handshake, or wave)
4. Prioritize quality time and verbal affection
5. Validate their feelings and emotions

*Break the Cycle:*

Let's create a culture where children's boundaries are respected.

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Let's empower children to establish healthy relationships and self-love!

11/08/2024

"It takes two bab-ay..." 🎶🎵🎶🎵 (or three or four or whatever, just as long as everyone is moving steadily in the same direction toward a shared goal.)

And for that to happen, it's going to take some real,honest self-reflection FIRST.

09/08/2024

Relationship therapy does not work if one person feels like they are doing the other partner/s a favor by showing up to therapy.

# marriage

10/07/2024

I usually stay away from the word "normal" but I'll make an exception..

Being screamed at in a relationship is not normal.

Being criticized is not normal.

Being belittled is not normal.

Being controlled is not normal.

Being manipulated or coerced is not normal.

When abuse is all you’ve known, it feels normal.

But it is not.

You deserve normal.

Normal is feeling safe.

Normal is having autonomy

Normal is having security.

Normal is feeling strong.

Normal is experiencing mutual respect.

Normal is being loved to a degree that feeds your very soul.

Abuse, though devastatingly common, is not normal.

Once you experience normal, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it.

~ Emily Elizabeth Anderson

10/07/2024

Therapy for Sexual Dysfunction will help you to:
🌱Understand what you are experiencing
🌱Communicate your needs to your parter/s
🌱Manage and overcome the problem
🌱Make the most out of additional interventions

**sm

10/07/2024

Sexuality is about so much more than s3x!!

09/07/2024

I have a new address! How exciting!

06/06/2024

V**E SPIKING Info from Fight Like A Girl:

Last weekend there was a confirmed case of v**e spiking in Hillcrest, Durban.

This person was sitting have drinks with friends where a v**e was being passed around.

Their gut instinct was to NOT take it, but as everyone was saying "just try this one, it's such a nice flavour" peer pressure won.

They took one puff and a few moments later started having a severe reaction.

They managed to get home safely but were suffering from extreme paranoia and hallucinations.

The family rushed them off to hospital where they tested positive for Tik and THC.

One puff is all it takes.

They are shaken up but thankfully there's no long term physical damage.

This could have ended very badly if the person had lost consciousness or already consumed another drug of their own accord...

We all know not to accept drinks from strangers and to never leave a drink unattended because of the risk of having it spiked

Now we need to be just as cautious when it comes to v**es.

It's so easy to slip pretty much any kind of drug into a v**e which will go undetected until it's too late.

If you v**e or have family members that v**e please warn them not to try other people's v**es, even from people they know.

Rather safe than sorry.

Just in case, here are some physical symptoms of spiking:

confusion
nausea or vomiting
hallucinations and paranoia
disorientation or poor coordination
loss of ability to communicate properly
memory loss
feeling sick or throwing up
lowered inhibitions
loss of balance
unconsciousness
problems with vision
These symptoms usually start within 15 minutes of someone spiking you, depending on what you've been spiked with. They can last for several hours.

If you suspect you've been spiked, don't go off alone but stay with someone you trust and ask them to take you to your nearest hospital for a drug test.

And remember to avoid sharing v**es and always trust your instincts!

Fight Like A Girl Thank you for the information

05/05/2024

“If we were to get really honest with one another and ask what’s the best way to avoid a hangover, it would be to not drink in the first place … The best amount of alcohol to drink would be zero glasses/ounces per week.” — Andrew Huberman

☝️What he said

18/03/2024

To the person who commented about gender on one of my previous posts, and used religion as 'backup' :

1. Thank you for making me aware of your presence.
2. A reminder to you: *Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.(Matthew 22 Verse 39)*
3. Your post was removed. I welcome healthy debate, always, but I will not tolerate bigotry in my space.
4. You are not welcome to share your biased, unscientific, opinions here.

I hope one day that you will have enough compassion to understand and celebrate people who are different to you.

✌️

11/03/2024

If your answer to this question is no, then that's where the work begins.