My TMS Journey - your stress illness survival guide

02/02/2026

You may have been told or assumed you should feel calm, peaceful and regulated in order to heal.

So when anger starts rising, hot, messy, out of nowhere, it feels like proof you're doing something wrong.

But here's what no one told you: The rage isn't the problem. Suppressing it was.

For years, you kept the peace. Swallowed your fire. Made yourself small so you wouldn't be "too much."

Your body held it all. Until it couldn't.

I bet you also used to think you weren’t an angry person (yeah, me too), but suppressing for years, plus the state of the world right now has got you feeling some kind of way more recently.

Now you're doing the work and thawing decades of emotion frozen in the memory of your body. And everything you buried is finally finding its way out because you're finally safe enough to feel the unfeelable.

This is healing. The real kind. Messy. Ugly. Loud. Uncomfortable. And oh so VERY valid.

Your intensity was never the problem; it was just never given space to be heard and held. But it’s OK to let yourself be messy. Let yourself finally feel what you were never allowed to feel before. You're not falling apart. You're coming back to life.

💫 Ready to hold yourself through this? I just launched another FREE tool for you. It's called the Emotional Exploration Tool, with over 400 prompts to help you access and unpack the emotions that lie beneath your dysregulation. I’ve gotten some great feedback from it so far, so I hope it helps you.

❤️ Comment "emote" to get the link to your inbox. No sign-up required, and anything you use it for is completely anonymous. It comes with my free Emotional Attunement Guide E-Book and free meditations too.

🫴 Follow for daily prompts from the tool.

Rage is sacred, give it the space it deserves! Safely of course 🙂.

Always with love,

Dani ❤️
mytmsjourney.com

01/02/2026

This retreat is an invitation to soften.

To deeply nourish your body and nervous system.

To create the conditions for long lasting change and restoration.

I’ll be co-hosting this 7-day body & mind reset in southern Spain with Holistika Kitchen - where I will be guiding emotional work, nervous system care, and varied somatic practices in an intimate and beautifully held group.

If you feel called to stop fixing, start listening and finally come home to yourself, this is for you.

Places are already filling up and Danielle will be keeping the group small in order for us to be able to serve each of the participants fully.

I am thrilled to have been invited into this collaboration, especially with someone I trust, love and admire so much. And the opportunity to finally meet some of you in person, where, as you might imagine, real lasting change can take place is mindblowingly exciting.

💫 If you would like more information, comment 'retreat' and we'll send you the details.

Always with love,

Dani 😍❤️
mytmsjourney.com

31/01/2026

Clip from my recent interview with Whitney on her podcast Designed to Heal watch the full episode on YouTube here 👇👇
https://youtu.be/2wXofdgoa0w?si=ah7-DfAFjL1hpPQS

28/01/2026

Can we talk about it? It’s nothing to be ashamed of or even necessarily afraid of, but it can feel terrifying at the time.

That deeply uncomfortable, disorienting space where everything feels like it's falling apart.

Where your symptoms run riot.

Where you question if you're doing this wrong, or why you even started this in the first place.

Where you’ve come too far to turn back.

There’s a new kind of pain that comes with finally feeling your feelings, setting important boundaries and dealing with the consequences.

It’s what I like to refer to as the gooey cocoon.

Think of a chrysalis, where the caterpillar doesn't simply grow wings, it completely liquefies. Every cell dissolves into formless mush before it can reorganise into something new.

Your nervous system is doing a similar thing. When you've spent decades braced, hypervigilant, trying to fight away a tidal wave with a teaspoon, healing work and the changes that it brings (even though safe) can feel deeply destabilising.

Your body doesn't know what to do with permission to rest. Your system doesn't recognise softness as safe. Old survival patterns are releasing their grip, and that release can feel like chaos.

This is why healing often feels worse before it feels better. Not because you're failing. Because you're dissollllllving.

The gooey middle doesn't really make good social media content though, there's no aesthetic to this stage, there’s no cute before-and-after here and I sure wasn’t taking selfies during those days.

Everything’s changing, everything’s in flux and s**t, it can be a full-on cellular recalibration.

But this is where the real transformation happens.

So if everything feels messier than when you started, if you're wondering whether to give up. You're in the eye of the storm and you can't really rush through this. Let yourself be goo for a while, it's important, and it's temporary.

The old parts of you that are worn out are shedding, the old narratives, good girl conditioning, staying small and silent days are over. No s**t, it feels like a death because in a way it absolutely is.

It's time we brought this dark piece into the light, it's human and its important.

Dani ❤️🙏

28/01/2026

27/01/2026

27/01/2026

I had a really insightful call with a client yesterday, where we discovered sneaky pressurising tactics and perfectionistic energy driving her exposure therapy work. So, I wanted to share some thoughts on that 👇👇👇👇

What if the thing keeping you stuck isn't a lack of effort, but the energy behind the effort itself?

I see it constantly: brilliant, driven people who've become full-time students of their own suffering.

Folks that can explain their nervous system in clinical detail. They've optimised every protocol in military detail. And yet their bodies remain locked in high alert.

The cruel irony? That relentless drive to get better is often the very signal telling your system to stay on guard.

When every symptom triggers a search for solutions, when rest feels like laziness, when you grade yourself on how well you're healing, your body receives one consistent message: danger. Not safety.

Research confirms that perfectionism is significantly linked to heightened pain experiences (not that we needed proof, but it does help I I know some of you love proof pieces 😀).

The internal pressure to do everything right doesn't just live in your mind, it reverberates through your tissues, your breath, your ability to settle.

The path forward isn't trying harder with softer language. It's recognising that your worth was never contingent on mastering your own recovery. Some of us need permission to stop earning our healing.

This is yours 🫴🌹🌹🌹

Comment 'toolkit' and I'll send you the link to my free 14 day self compassion journey 💫 to start to uncover these covert drivers at the wheel of our lives.

Study reference: murdoch.edu.au (dm me if you'd like the links I have many, as you might have noticed this is my hyperfixation subject 😅❤️).

Always with love,

Dani ❤️🙏
mytmsjourney.com

26/01/2026

✨New FREE Emotional Exploration Tool✨

A digital sanctuary designed to help you bypass the resistance of the emotional part of mind-body work. Think of it like the digital equivalent of screaming into a pillow!

Instead of trying to think of what to feel, you can choose from over 400 curated prompts to help you locate your truth. You simply type out your unedited thoughts, or just sit with the prompt as a cue to the feelings and feel the emotions in your body, and then use the ritual button to "Burn It" or start over. This digital release signals to your nervous system that the threat has passed, allowing the emotion to complete its cycle without you needing to hold onto the story. It is the perfect place to start if you are feeling blocked or unsafe.

✨No registration necessary
✨Completely anonymous practice, nothing is saved
✨No paywall, completely free
✨PLUS - free e-book on Emotional Attunement
✨PLUS - free meditation to complete your practice

Follow Emotional Exploration page for daily prompt posts, also on instagram here https://instagram.com/an_emotional_exploration

More info and links here: https://mytmsjourney.com/resources/free-emotional-exploration-tool/

With love and admiration, every day.

Dani & Steve (coz he built it and is the brains behind the tech in here!) ♥♥

15/01/2026

If your symptoms show up as pain, fatigue, or anything to do with fear around movement, this is for you.

I created The Mind-Body Yoga School for that tender, messy in-between space - when you don’t know how much is too much, but you’re longing for a way to come back into your body safely.

Inside my monthly membership you’ll find all of my (VERY gentle) yoga practices along with simplified educational videos and masterclasses designed to support nervous-system-led healing.

Click here for more info https://mytmsjourney.com/membership and click here: https://app.arketa.co/danifagan/videos for a free preview so you can browse the whole library before you decide if it feels right for you. It's £42/month, everything is online and on-demand. You can cancel anytime and it's the absolute best value offering I have available as you get access to absolutely everything I've ever created in one place.

I'm always here for any questions you have around this, it's such an important topic and step in recovery, let me know where you're stuck because this part doesn't have to be hard work.

Always with love,

Dani ❤️🙏
Mind-Body Mastery
Mytmsjourney.com

13/01/2026

Crazy, but not surprising when you realise the system was never built for us.

So many women are still being ignored or dismissed or made to look crazy while living in bodies that are exhausted, inflamed, screaming and shutting down.

We’re assessed using models built on male biology.
We’re prescribed meds to dull us down that ignore hormones, trauma, and the role of connection.

We’re perpetually let down and gaslit by a system that doesn’t even realise it’s missing half the data.

This isn’t just about misdiagnosis, it's about a complete misreading of what female bodies need to feel well, safe, seen, and supported.

Your symptoms aren’t just symptoms.
They’re signals.
They’re intelligence.
And they likely make more sense than you realise, given the experiences you've been through and circumstances you continue to face.

You're not broken, the HEALTHCARE SYSTEM is.

My book is minutes away from being finished, I'M currently finishing the front cover and the familiar dread of putting something out into the world and exposing myself is here with a vengeance! I can't wait to share it with you, presale will be available soon.

Always with love,

Dani ❤️
mytmsjourney.com

07/01/2026

It is not often mainstream TV aligns so perfectly with the work we do, but tomorrow is different. Dr Chatterjee will be exploring drug-free pain relief on Channel 4, featuring real recovery stories facilitated by our friends at SIRPA. Here is my take on why this is a huge moment for the chronic pain community 👇👇👇

https://mytmsjourney.com/resources/live-well-with-the-drug-free-doctor-with-rangan-chaterjee-on-channel-4/

Will you be watching? ♥