My TMS Journey - your stress illness survival guide

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My TMS Journey - your stress illness survival guide Hi I'm Dani, mytmsjourney.com is my story out of chronic pain and anxiety, caused by the Mindbody Syndrome (TMS) also known as stress illness.

I help folks recover using nervous system tools, emotional work, yoga, breathwork, meditation and 121 coaching.

When we suppress our emotions, we send a direct danger signal to our nervous system which locks our body in a state of h...
26/07/2025

When we suppress our emotions, we send a direct danger signal to our nervous system which locks our body in a state of high alert. An overwhelmed system then communicates this distress in the only language it has: physical sensation.

This is the root of so many chronic symptoms, the persistent pain, the deep fatigue, the digestive upset. And it's important to understand that they are not random, but profound, misunderstood messages from a body that feels unheard.
Allowing is the practice that unwinds this cycle. It’s the permission you give yourself to stop analysing why you feel a certain way and instead, witness the emotion as pure sensation. The tightness in your chest, the knot in your stomach. These feelings aren't the enemy, they are the emotion itself, asking to be acknowledged.

When you can safely witness these sensations without judgment, you send a powerful message of safety back to your nervous system. The alarm can finally turn off, creating space for the body to regulate, heal, and for symptoms to recede.

Do you resist emotions? You're not alone! We all do to one expect or another. Gently noticing that is the first step to true, lasting relief.

My next free resource is something I'm really proud of, it's a complete Emotional Attunement Blueprint 😍 make sure you're on my mailing list to be the first to find out when it's ready to download and we can explore this essential piece of recovery together. Sign up here: https://mytmsjourney.com/quick-links/

Dani ❤️🙏

I know this may sound awfully dramatic, but I need you to hear this.Our internal dialogue isn't just fleeting thoughts. ...
23/07/2025

I know this may sound awfully dramatic, but I need you to hear this.

Our internal dialogue isn't just fleeting thoughts. Our nervous system is always listening, and it perceives what's going on inside as gospel truth, as a potential threat to our very lives.👂

Self-compassion can feel fluffy, unimportant, or even weak, but it has a profound influence on our physiology. It's one of the biggest factors our brain uses to decipher threat from safety.

Harsh self-criticism genuinely activates and sustains your body's threat response. It can keep you stuck in a high-alert survival state that fuels everything from your low self-worth to the fire that keeps your symptoms alive.

Learning to be kinder to yourself isn't just a "nice" thing to do, it's a fundamental part of feeling safe in your own body. It's a crucial, science-backed piece of self-healing.

The problem? We are so adept at treating ourselves badly that we don't even notice it. It's just a familiar gnawing from the inside.

That's why the first step is to start taking stock and building awareness of your inner dialogue. Only then can we switch the script to something more supportive.

I don’t expect you to know how to do this alone, nobody ever showed us how! Take the first step with me?

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Comment “toolkit” below, and I’ll send you the link to my free 14-day Self-Compassion Blueprint. You’ll get your e-book and access to the 14dats audio immediately and join hundreds of others on the same unfamiliar yet important part of the self-healers journey.

Zero pressure, zero cost. Just an invitation.

With love and admiration.

Dani ❤️🙏
mytmsjourney.com

Self-suppression isn't usually a conscious choice, typically it's a survival skill we learned to keep the peace, to feel...
21/07/2025

Self-suppression isn't usually a conscious choice, typically it's a survival skill we learned to keep the peace, to feel safe, or to be loved.

We learned to wear masks, say 'yes' when we meant 'no', swallow our feelings, and ignore our intuition. We might even have been praised for being so "easy-going" or "selfless”.

But this pattern of self-abandonment has a cost. It can keep our nervous system in a state of high alert, and over time, that constant internal stress can manifest as very real physical symptoms. Our body starts sending louder and louder signals, simply asking us to pay attention.

The first step to healing is awareness. It’s about looking at these patterns not with judgement, but with compassion and curiosity. Recognising that these behaviours once served you but are no longer helping you is key to finally letting them go.

It’s important to note that going looking for exact answers and reasons for symptoms can add more threat to the nervous system, so it’s not critical to figure out, the patterns will reveal themselves naturally the more you do this kind of recovery work. These are just some examples I see in myself and in my clients very often.

Learning the language of your body takes time, the key is staying curious to noticing these patterns without adding more stress to the pot already boiling over ❤️.

Dani 😍
mytmsjourney.com

These parts of you that you might struggle with as an adult are not flaws and they’re not your fault, they were likely c...
19/07/2025

These parts of you that you might struggle with as an adult are not flaws and they’re not your fault, they were likely carefully curated strategies likely forged in in your early years to fulfil very important self-protective needs.

Which reframe did you need to hear?

I realise there's tonnes of nuance in our patterns and experiences, but I also know there are many threads that connect us deeply, so I really hope lands in the way it was intended and it helps you see yourself in a brighter light today.

✨ Type “toolkit” in the comments to get my new FREE resource that takes these concepts to another level and teaches you how to build a bulletroof relationship with yourself, your inner child and your inner critic. And don't forget to join the free community, we're making some profoundly supportive connections there that will help you along this path.

With love and admiration,

Dani ❤️
mytmsjourney.com

I say this because I see it in everyone, including myself.Maybe you’ve been following the healing work protocols but you...
16/07/2025

I say this because I see it in everyone, including myself.

Maybe you’ve been following the healing work protocols but you’re completely unaware when your capacity is overloaded, your forcing nature and relentless critical inner narrative, urgency and frustration with yourself keep you stuck in survival mode. Or perhaps there's the military-style timelines, no space for your own needs and desires, downplaying your wins and best achievements, masking difficult emotions and have a compete inability to say no.

Chances are, you've been trying to direct your healing by focusing outside of yourself for instructions and completely missing the fundamental attunement to yourself.

You can research, study, journal, therapise, meditate, breathe, vagal tone and manifest to the moon all you want, but if you’re treating yourself like s**t and repeatedly pushing yourself beyond your limits, those tools won't give you the effect you desire.

Your nervous system needs YOU on board in order to feel safe and it cannot feel safe living in a warzone.

Self-attunement is essentially paying attention and tuning in to your feelings, thoughts, behaviours and bodily sensations and treating yourself with the same compassion and care you would offer your dearest friend. It's about getting to know yourself deeply and responding to your own needs in a loving and supportive way. It's like having an inner compass that guides you to make choices that are good for you, and it's not about being perfect or always feeling good, it's about being present with yourself, accepting yourself as you are, and taking care of yourself in a way that underpins your healing work.

No healing modality on it’s own comes close to the regulating effects of self-attunement and it's absolutely essential for your healing efforts to work long-term but overlooked or undervalued by pretty much everyone.

Are you missing this essential piece? You're not alone.

❤️ Get my FREE Self-Compassion Toolkit + 14-day Attunement Journey by typing ‘toolkit’ in the comments, as so many of us struggle with this piece I didn't want to limit it's accessibility with a pay wall 🎁

With love and admiration,

Dani
mytmsjourney.com

Hey friends, just a heads-up, I've just added in a FREE Kindle compatible (or any e-book reader) version of the Self-Com...
16/07/2025

Hey friends, just a heads-up, I've just added in a FREE Kindle compatible (or any e-book reader) version of the Self-Compassion Blueprint, which works with Kindle devices or Apps.

Get yours: https://mytmsjourney.com/toolkit

♥♥♥

In my experience this is most critical and overlooked piece of self-healing - realising you cannot heal a body you hate....
15/07/2025

In my experience this is most critical and overlooked piece of self-healing - realising you cannot heal a body you hate.

For years I was trapped in a cycle of self-criticism, anxiety and unexplained physical symptoms that made me feel like my body was fighting against me. And this internal battle wasn't quite the hunch I imagined, but it was keeping my nervous system stuck in a perpetual 'fight' response. It’s likely why so many of us feel stuck in a loop no matter tools or healing modalities we try, because the 'work' can't work if there's a warzone inside the house.

EVERYONE without fail who I recommend self-compassion work to has no idea how to do it. So, this new resource is the roadmap home you've been missing, the single most powerful tool we should have been modelled with. Designed to help you shift from battling yourself to becoming your own greatest support system, something more powerful than anything outside of you will ever feel.

✨I believe this foundational human skill should be available to everyone, we all deserve a break from the constant inner struggle, which is why I'm gifting it for FREE.

Consider this your invitation to discover how powerful your own attention and care can be. When there's no enemy within, everything else becomes far less harmful.

I've packaged this as a 14-day journey, but it isn't necessarily a quick fix, it's about patient, deep and long-lasting transformation, so take as long as you need. There's no expiry or time constraint on the various resources because going at a pace that suits you is important.

If you’re ready to lay down the weapons you've been carrying, finally meet your greatest ally and ultimate nervous system regulator, then this is for you!

👉 Here's the link to begin your journey home, with me as your guide https://mytmsjourney.com/toolkit 👈

I really hope you like it, if you do, maybe consider sharing it with someone who needs it, or budding-up with a friend to work on it together (many of these in my private community on Facebook, linked inside).

From my heart to yours 😘.

Dani ♥️🙏
mytmsjourney.com

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