All Things Mental Health

28/01/2025

For those who keep up with my mental health journey, I have my follow-up appointment on Friday to get my diagnosis’ confirmation. I am SO excited to finally get the answers that I have been waiting for for years. It has taken a long time to get here and we’ve gone through a lot of hoops to get here. I am also pending genesite testing to finally find medication that works for me and finally put a stop to the trial and error.

When I started my mental health journey back in 2023, I was in a really bad place. At that time, I was ready to give up and I remember sitting in the car with Valeria Peña and telling her that I wanted it all to end. I was tired of fighting and ready to quit after years and years of struggle. She told me that she couldn’t lose me and that I was the sister that she didn’t have; I took a picture of the moment so I could remember it if I made it (sorry babe 🥹❤️). I remember telling her and telling myself that I would give it one more try, one more try to get it right and if I didn’t, I would end it. And I meant it.

It’s now almost February 2025 and when I tell you I fought, I meant it. I fought for answers, I fought for myself, I fought for the little Alexis stuck inside of me, and I fought to HEAL. I stand here today as a changed person who still doesn’t have all the answers but I have the will and I have a reason.

If ANYBODY needs a sign that things do get better, here it is. But it doesn’t get better overnight, and it doesn’t get better on its own. You HAVE to work for it, and you HAVE to keep fighting no matter how many times you feel like giving up. You won’t get the answers you need by waiting for things to change, you have to be the one to make the changes.

Mental health is no joke and everybody needs to take it seriously. When your inside temple isn’t well, nothing in your external will be either - and it’s true. You deserve to be well physically, mentally, and emotionally everyday, not just when your mind wants you to be.

Is everyday the same? Absolutely not. Is everyday happy? Absolutely not. But there are good days that make the bad ones worth it.

If I can do it, you can too.

12/06/2024

Every single time 🤣🤪

12/06/2024

09/05/2024

Shout out to my newest followers! I am excited to have you all on board the fight for Mental Health. Please comment down below and share a fact about yourself, and what brought you to our page. Thank you for being here ❤️❤️

Lina Nichols, Bella Hase, Linda Shaye, Victoria Lloyd, Theresa Bailey, Kathryn Cheney, Lillie Bell Harriman, Jessica Ruiz, Shal Shewdat, Meghann Harris, Fatima Brilhante, Sue Wisecup, Robin L Phillips, Tim Slate, Erica Dyan Ball, Brandy Rigsby, ThatBae Jess, Dewey Powers, Margo Smith

01/04/2024

Boundaries are important. Boundaries are not an attack, nor are they threatening. Most people misinterpret boundaries as somebody "pushing them away," or "controlling them," but boundaries are a way to make one person safer, and to allow them to have a comfortable relationship with somebody they want to keep in their life.

Most adults grew up in a house where they weren't taught boundaries, or they were taught that their boundaries didn't matter, and were disrespected. Now when somebody tries to place a boundary, they feel triggered, angry, controlled.

But the truth is, boundaries are important for ALL relationships (intimate, friendly, family, etc) to be successful.

❤️❤️

29/03/2024

Maturing is realizing that these things are not healthy: 👎

1. Doing everything alone, feeling like you don't need anybody.
2. Avoiding people / conversations / situations that make you uncomfortable.
3. Spending your time doing pointless things with no happiness involved, only distraction.
4. Suppressing your childhood trauma and never addressing it.
5. Suppressing your feelings and never feeling them and/or blaming other people for how YOU feel.
6. Not taking accountability for your toxic behaviors / using your ego to avoid admitting you were wrong.
7. Holding grudges / not forgiving people.

Maturing is realizing that these things ARE healthy: ❤️

1. Understanding it's impossible to do everything alone, and it's okay to ask for help. Being vulnerable and accepting that some things require two or more people is okay. 💚
2. Having uncomfortable conversations with people and telling them that they themselves / a situation / conversation makes you uncomfortable and putting boundaries in place to protect yourself. 💁‍♀️
3. Spending your time doing things that bring you happiness, money, positive things, and relieving distraction. 😌
4. ‼️Addressing your childhood trauma and the negative effects it has on your adult life. ‼️
5. Understanding that nobody can make you FEEL a certain way, and working to figure out your triggers so you can work on them. FEELING your feelings and releasing them from your body so you can move forward in a positive way with yourself and others 🫶
6. Taking accountability for your toxic behaviors and APOLOGIZING and admitting when you are wrong (We are not always right 😉).
7. Forgiving people, because forgiveness is for YOU, not them. Not forcing yourself to carry the burden of having hard feelings/grudge for somebody else. Forgiving them and removing them from your life, or placing a boundary to protect yourself from their actions that hurt you.

And to believe that more than 40% of ADULTS (25+) never reach column #2 (healthy) is insane to me. 🫣

13/03/2024