01/05/2025
You are not emasculating him because you’re cruel.
You’re doing it because you’re afraid.
Afraid he won’t lead.
Afraid you’ll have to do it all.
Afraid your needs will go unmet again.
So you take over.
You correct.
You control.
You punish.
But what you think is protecting you
is actually pushing away the very devotion you long for.
Because when a man feels diminished,
he doesn’t try harder. He checks out.
He gives less. He disconnects.
And you end up doing everything on your own anyway.
The truth?
You don’t need to criticize to get results.
You don’t need to mother him to be taken care of.
You don’t need to harden in order to be safe.
You need to soften with standards.
Lead with your energy.
Ask with clarity.
And learn how to speak to the man in him, not the boy you’re afraid he might be.
This is the work we’re doing inside Lovergirl Collective.
It’s not about being perfect.
It’s about becoming the kind of woman who inspires leadership, invites protection, and creates the kind of love she used to pray for.
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PS: there’s no shame in this, as I spent my entire life emasculating & stilllll catch myself doing it. It takes time & consistent practice & being around other women doing this work to stop treating men this way 🙏🏽✨
