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29/06/2022

New episode out! Thanks for coming on and role modeling what being vulnerable looks like. What an awesome conversation about how the internalization of our upbringing affects how we cope in adulthood. Chelsea discusses how her experience of living in a chaotic household manifested over the years in chronic illness, hypervigilance, and seeking out chaos in relationships, jobs, and creating problems when sometimes there weren’t any. Chelsea also speaks to the positive skill sets she developed from her trauma but discussed how, ultimately, some of these no longer serve her and how she broke the cycle and developed new healthier coping and life skills. Find Chelsea on Instagram at and her website ChelseaTurnerWellness.com. Tune into the full podcast at your favorite podcast platform or at areyouafraidofthetalk.com.

01/06/2022

Many people struggle with Dyslexia, ADD, and other learning disabilities and find it hard to open up about. This is nothing to feel shame about and Jessica shines a light on her struggle with talking about her experience growing up with these diagnoses, but also discusses the benefits she’s found from having Dyslexia and ADD.

10/05/2022

It’s Lyme Awareness month and to raise awareness we have Amanda Dahl of Dahl Holistic Health on episode 4 of Are You Afraid of the Talk! This episode, Amanda talks about her experience with medical gaslighting concerning her heart condition and Lyme disease. Amanda discusses why it was hard to talk about, signs of gaslighting, and empowering yourself to use your voice and trust yourself.

27/04/2022

Episode 3 of Are You Afraid of the Talk™️ is out! Listen to Alex, 39 from Westchester, open up about the fear of talking about the grief of losing her mother in her twenties and how this still impacts her. Grief does not start and end with the death of a loved one. In this conversation we explore the long term grief process and how it shows up through out life, especially during milestone moments. Alex also highlights the fear of talking about feeling grief years after the passing of her mother and why the continual process feels like an off limits topic. Thanks Alex for coming on and talking about such an important and sensitive topic. You are not alone! braunstein

19/04/2022

Episode 2 of Are You Afraid of the Talk is out now! Listen to Lauren, 39 from Brooklyn, talk about the fear of losing herself to motherhood. This was a great conversation that voiced a lot of insecurity and worry that women feel in relation to being a mom. Women are often expected to be ready without hesitation to give up their lives and not have fear about how their day to day will change. Lauren courageously talks about what she is nervous about and what she will miss. Thank you Lauren for saying what I think many women and men feel heading into parenthood!

05/04/2022

We are and the first episode teaser is here! Check out the full episode on your favorite podcast platform, my website- areyouafraidofthetalk.com, or YouTube. Hope you enjoy and get something out of it!

11/10/2020

A day late, but honoring with destigmatizing mental health. Having issues with mental health health is normal and most people struggle with their mental health at some point. We all experience anxiety and the variety of emotions we were born with on a daily basis, but sometimes it’s just much harder to cope. It’s okay. It’s also okay to not be okay. None of this makes you crazy, weak, strange, inadequate, or any other negative term you want to label it. It just makes you human. Understanding that no one can handle things all on their own is strength and finding your own strength is part of your journey to good mental health and well being. Implementing self care, identifying and reaching out to your support system, finding hobbies, talking to a mental health professional, and seeking medication if you and a doctor feel you need it are some of the ways to work on yourself. You are worthy of love, care, empathy, and help. Taking the first step can be hard so appreciate where you’re at and celebrate even thinking about it as a win!

08/10/2020

This feels very appropriate right now and has been coming up in most of my sessions, with friends, and even in my personal life. Take time to stop and ask yourself, “What do I need in this moment?” to try and meet your needs immediately and get self care in. When you have more time, try and think more broadly about your needs in your relationships, at work, in the home, for your health, to feel safe, and any other reason you can think of so you can start communicating this to the people who need to hear it. Implementing needs can be hard because it might not be in the best interest of others but this is where you start putting yourself first so you actually can be there for others. Self care, boundaries, meet your needs, and repeat. You are worth it!

25/09/2020

Taking a self care day because I should practice what I preach. As I am sitting on a beautiful beach and reflecting, this post came to kind. Self care is not just about doing things for yourself but it’s how you feel about yourself and treat yourself. I agree with and #10 and am showing that by taking extra good care of myself today. I hope this inspires others to reflect and take action to do the same because you are worthy and deserve the same.

24/09/2020

Narcan literally saves lives. Good job Jersey City in not shaming opioid users and instead helping. We need this type of response if we want this epidemic to get better. Also, any health or mental health providers working with clients/patients who use/abuse opioids...this is something worth considering having on hand in case of an emergency.

07/09/2020

Seeking therapy doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. Breaking this stigma is the hard part and prevents people from seeking support that can help them help through difficult or confusing times or just in trying to know yourself better and becoming the best version you can be. Let’s normalize supportive therapy and see it as a strength not a weakness. Be proud if you have taken that step, are thinking about it, or want to. There’s no shame in working on yourself so you can fully be there for everyone else.

02/09/2020

As September is National Self Care Awareness Month, this is a good reminder that doing things for yourself, including healing, may not always make others happy. This does not mean it’s wrong, selfish, or something you shouldn’t be doing. It probably is exactly what is right for you and you are the only person who can determine that. It may be setting a boundary or making a change that feels uncomfortable for someone else but if the result is better mental or physical health, less stress, or any healing element for you then go for it!

19/08/2020

Change is an inevitable part of life that we must face. Right now is a great example of change we are being forced to go through whether we want to or not. But when it comes to change in our personal lives, this is where we can often get stuck in the familiar or comfortable. Familiar or comfortable does not mean healthy. Sometimes being uncomfortable is exactly where you need to be. In the wise words of a courageous legend, “Turn and face the strange”. David Bowie was all about change and adaptation and living in the uncomfortable. If you can tolerate it, you learn your strength and your resilience so blast some Bowie, step out of your comfort zone, and embrace the strange and the change.

11/08/2020

Boundaries are important in EVERY relationship but especially in your romantic ones. Sometimes it can feel hard because our insecurities prevent us from saying what we want to say or doing what we want to do out of fear of being rejected or abandoned. These feelings are valid but will only lead to unhealthy power dynamics and possible resentment. Being able to understand and voice your needs lets you know that you are heard, seen, and respected in the relationship and that your partner values you. This is also another form of self care for you and good practice for setting boundaries in other areas like family, work, and friendship. Try establishing some in your relationship today and see how it feels.

31/07/2020

Healing is a long process that can focus on different areas where trauma has left its scars. One of those scars may be in the form of low self worth.

To cope with trauma, we may have disconnected from ourself by distancing from our intuition, instinct, or even from our physical bodies. This might have been the only way to get through moments in the past because staying in the present moment was too painful or too intolerable.

While this may have served its purpose in the past, it may be hindering your growth in the present. It may come in the form of “social anxiety” because you learned to depend on others to determine what’s “good” or “bad” about you and then developed attachments or relationships based on what others believe(d) rather than your own beliefs. This is how we learn the behavior of seeking approval and betraying our true selves. As the .holistic.psychologist put it perfectly, “We [are] children, seeking parental approval, performing in adult bodies”.

The healing is unlearning these old coping mechanisms and learning new healthier ones that help to bring self trust, self worth, and eventually confidence.

Holding yourself accountable with daily promises, being able to say no when you want to, establishing boundaries, and figuring out your needs and then communicating them are great ways to accomplish these goals and gain back your self worth. Everyone deserves this.

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30/07/2020

I think many of us can relate to the picture above and think, “Yes!! That’s so me!”, especially in these trying times. It’s so common because we have so many roles from employee, to partner, to parent, to caregiver, to friend, to home keeper that we don’t see the burn out coming before it’s too late. We spread ourselves so thin and don’t schedule in “me” time because it doesn’t seem high on our “to do” list. But self care and putting yourself first may be more important than any of the other tasks you feel you HAVE to do. If you are burnt out and run down you won’t be able to work as efficiently, be as present for your family, and the effects take a toll on your mental and physical health. You are only as good as you feel so make time for yourself and get in that self care. Start to notice the signs of burn out before they become a problem.
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27/07/2020

We are in the thick of it folks! It’s not surprising if many people are feeling depressed. Some people may be feeling a lot of the feelings mentioned in the picture above and not realize they are symptoms of depression. Just because you experience one or two doesn’t mean you have depression but if it’s interfering with your life in a way that makes it hard to do your normal routine, concentrate, or feels like it’s getting in the way of life then it definitely can be. There’s no shame in this either. Half the battle sometimes is knowing what’s going on in your mind and body. Letting yourself get rest, doing self care, speaking to a health care professional like a therapist, and if it’s necessary taking medicine to help you function are all great ways to cope. The first step is awareness. You got this!

13/07/2020

We need more cultural humility because we need the learning to continue. Cultural competency assumes that the learning is complete. Let’s continue to grow, understand, and advocate.

19/06/2020

In honor of Juneteenth here is a little history about how the ending of slavery actually happened. Let’s take a moment to pause and reflect and see how we’ve contributed and are contributing to Black oppression and how we can do better. It’s not only the cops that need to be addressed but our justice system and access to resources like healthcare, education, childcare, jobs, housing and the list goes. This is why we need to fight for equality because the scales are not balanced. I’m so thankful for the lessons I’m learning and the growth that is happening even though it’s uncomfortable and can be painful. It’s just NECESSARY.

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09/06/2020

It’s a historic period of time in our country with racial injustice on the front lines. This can bring up a lot of feelings no matter what race you are or where you are on your journey of social justice, self awareness, and advocacy. Wherever you are and however you can help can be at varying levels but here and that’s okay. But it’s important to keep this move@ent going. Here is a guide that can help with maintaining momentum in the long run for Black Lives Matter.
Guide created by: .someson

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02/06/2020

More resources on how to take action. Educate yourself, share your knowledge with open discussion, stand up to racist comments and actions and don’t be complicit, report these actions, stay updated on current news, sign petitions like to hold the officers in case if George Floyd accountable, donate if you can, and get out and VOTE!
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02/06/2020

More resources for how to take action.

01/06/2020

The world has thrown a lot our way recently between the pandemic, murder hornets, and a spotlight on the injustice that has been plaguing this country. In addition this time has probably brought to the surface personal issues and trauma that have been buried away for a while to make things even harder to cope with. That’s why, understandably, there has been a spectrum of responses to what has been going on. We can only work with what we have and what we can give at any moment and it’s okay if you are feeling drained or if you are on the opposite end feeling enraged. This infographic is a great visualization of where you might be and the link in my bio has a link to an article that has resources for each stage of what you can do to contribute at each stage. Most important though is to be compassionate with yourself and others right now and remember that we are all trying the best we can right now and we don’t know what another person may be going through. Link with resources and the article in bio.

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06/05/2020

Here are what the emotions you are feeling might be telling you. When we don’t acknowledge what we feel they can come out in different ways. This is a great way to check in and see what our bodies may be telling us they need. What is your body saying right now?
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01/05/2020

Reposted from because this is so true. Whatever you are struggling with is valid. It doesn’t matter what someone else is going through it doesn’t mean it’s any easier to deal with or cope with your issues. Comparing also doesn’t take the problems away and can actually add on feelings like guilt which only exacerbate the situation. Opening up and sharing can give yourself an outlet so you’re not bottling things up and also help you to find support and possibly help someone else who might be dealing with something similar not feel so alone.

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23/04/2020

Coping during COVID-19 can feel overwhelming and self care can be confusing. Thanks to the women from the Columbia School of Social Work and Velocity Visions for a wonderful course on how to cope and take care of yourself during this pandemic. Some useful coping strategies were discussed including ones that you may already be doing that you are unaware are actually coping. Feeling your feelings is a powerful tool that can feel overwhelming but is key in processing everything you’re going through. Acknowledging these feelings and having compassion for yourself for having them is important because it’s a hard time and being hard on yourself for feeling guilty for not doing more or because you are feeling happy is okay. Recognize your feeling and then tell yourself that these are unprecedented times that don’t require a certain way to act or feel. Taking control or having choices and utilizing that freedom of choice is another coping skill. Choosing to feel your feelings, choosing to have compassion, choosing to clean your house, bake, or call a loved one, or choosing to stay informed rather than inundate yourself with information is a way of taking control. How do you want to use this time and choose to cope? Lastly, while we have to socially distance, it’s important to keep our emotional connections in tact. This is what helps to keep good mental health and spirits high. Write a letter, pick up the phone and call someone, text, FaceTime or do a Zoom chat. Don’t under estimate the power of connection. But also remember to listen to yourself and your needs. There are no “shoulds” right now other than meeting your basic needs. Keep staying strong!

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21/04/2020

Relationships may feel like extra hard work right now if you are together in isolation. The good news is that the ups and downs are normal especially due to the circumstances. What may be happening is that issues that are normally swept under the rug by busy schedules, ability to physically get out, and having more alone time help you to avoid confronting these. Now you are having to face these issues head on and this may be causing disruption in the relationship. Working through these is only beneficial for your relationship to grow together rather than apart. This can also help avoid huge blow out fights later on. The above suggestions may help both partners to feel appreciated and loved during this time and help ease the adjustment period of spending so much time together.

18/04/2020

Right now we are all in different phases of adjusting to this new lifestyle. It’s okay to be wherever you are at. But it would be great to evolve from a place of fear to a place of growth. If you aren’t quite sure where you’re at here is a great diagram which outlines stages of adjustment. Which zone are you in right now?

17/04/2020

Boredom is common right now as you are cooped up trying to abide to the new norms of pandemic life. To avoid leading to anxiety or depressive feelings staying active can help. posted an info graphic that gives great suggestions on what you can do to stay busy. If you are in the Jersey City/Hoboken area there are also activities listed on her site to join in virtually that will also support local businesses. You can have fun while doing something meaningful! Remember that just doing what you can is enough too.

08/04/2020

Your daily dose of cuteness! Archie knows the importance of working on yourself and how loving yourself will help you to be ale to love those around you. As I mentioned in a previous post, the most important and hardest relationship to work on is yourself. With all this time at home, it may be a good opportunity to start self work and self love by having some self reflection and thinking, “What are some feelings, thoughts, or behaviors that have been coming up for me recently and what could be behind them?”. If you can’t do that, then start with some self care and assess what that could be for you during this time? Some alone time reading a book, a bubble bath, yoga, watching your favorite tv show, cooking your favorite dish, etc. Start showing some self love today!

06/04/2020

Now is a great time to practice gratitude and what a great way to feel the community coming together. I urge you to do this wherever you live for the people working on the front lines and helping us to fight this pandemic! A huge THANK YOU!

04/04/2020

When you think of rest, sleep automatically comes to mind. While sleep is super important in maintaining good physical and mental health, it’s not the only way to get rest.

Another way to help our minds and bodies take a much needed break is by staying in tune with what we feel we need. That may be saying no to something that we might feel obligated or automatically just say yes to.
Listen to your gut and assess what you need in the moment.

Perfectionism can also take its toll so learning to let go of or reframe expectations of yourself and others might be the rest you need and are looking for.

Whatever your rest may look like, it’s okay to put yourself first and take that needed break. Be kind, be gentle, and be in tune with yourself.

01/04/2020

Uncertainty is part of the human experience. It can bring about many feelings but not knowing what is “right” or “wrong” is common and can cause anxiety and panic. Accepting the uncertainty, the “not knowing”, and being gentle with yourself can actually help alleviate the panic and anxiety. Try saying, “I don't know what the right thing to do is, and I still love & accept myself.” Self compassion is key to feeling a sense of stability. We can’t escape the uncertainty so why not give this a try?

31/03/2020

Relationships are hard work, but the most important and most difficult one to focus on is the one with yourself. Having to face your own issues can feel daunting, bring up unwanted feelings, and be uncomfortable. But learning to sit with the uncomfortable, face the difficult, and acknowledge issues/feelings will help self growth and how you interact in all your other relationships. When we don’t face our problems, we run the risk of projecting what we feel onto others, which can create issues within the relationship that are really things you are putting on another person that will not resolve until you start looking inward. Self reflection, journaling, working with a mental health professional, etc. will help to work on yourself. Remember, you can’t be good for anyone else until you are good with yourself.

28/03/2020

Just a quick note of gratitude and appreciation for everyone out there doing their part to keep us safe. Thank you!!

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New episode out! Thanks @chelseaturnerwellness for coming on and role modeling what being vulnerable looks like. What an awesome conversation about how the internalization of our upbringing affects how we cope in adulthood. Chelsea discusses how her experience of living in a chaotic household manifested over the years in chronic illness, hypervigilance, and seeking out chaos in relationships, jobs, and creating problems when sometimes there weren’t any. Chelsea also speaks to the positive skill sets she developed from her trauma but discussed how, ultimately, some of these no longer serve her and how she broke the cycle and developed new healthier coping and life skills. Find Chelsea on Instagram at @ChelseaTurnerWellness and her website ChelseaTurnerWellness.com. Tune into the full podcast at your favorite podcast platform or at areyouafraidofthetalk.com. #chaos #childhoodtrauma #trauma #centralnervoussystem #difficultconversations #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #wellness #podcast #wednesday #empowerment #trust #votd #resilience

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