Non-Toxic Mom

15/07/2025

Something I’ve been thinking about.

Almost 50% of women don’t have life insurance.

Not because they don’t care, but because no one’s had an honest conversation with them about it.

We’re so used to putting everyone else first—kids, partners, parents, work—that we forget how important it is to protect ourselves, too.

But what if something unexpected happens?
A serious illness. A diagnosis.
**Life changes fast.**
And when it does, it shouldn’t come with the added stress of “How will I afford this?”

Life insurance can help with:
• Critical or terminal illness costs
• Keeping bills paid during recovery
• Protecting what we’ve worked so hard for

It’s not about fear, it’s about peace of mind and I want more of us to have that.

If this hits home for you, I’m here. No pressure, no jargon, just real talk. 💬 Dm me

19/07/2022

🤗 I hear you, I love you, you're valid

12/04/2022

Love this. 💜
Thank you 💕

17/08/2021

Healing is tough

27/04/2021

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Imagine this:you had a HORRIBLE day,you come home upset & your partner yells at you to go sit alone in the next room.You're not allowed to come out until you've completely calmed yourself down, on your own.

Kinda effed up,right?

When we send our kids away during tantrums/times of distress:
👎 They don't learn to handle the situation better next time
👎 They don't actually reflect on behavior instead,they're flooded with feelings of anger/ abandonment
👎 We signal that big feelings aren't OK in our family

In their Time article,my mentor + colleague Dr. Dan Siegel + Dr. Tina Bryson:
"Decades of research in attachment demonstrate that particularly in times of distress, we need to be near and be soothed by the people who care for us.But when children lose emotional control,parents often put them in their room or by themselves in the “naughty chair,” meaning that in this moment of emotional distress they have to suffer alone.When the parental response is to isolate the child, an instinctual psychological need of the child goes unmet.In fact, brain imaging shows that the experience of relational pain like that caused by rejection looks very similar to the experience of physical pain in terms of brain activity.”

So instead,stay with them.Show them you won't leave them when they have big feelings or make a mistake:
✨You're really upset.I'm right here with you
✨You're feeling angry, it's OK to feel angry, it's not OK to hit.I'm moving baby to keep her safe

⁠All feelings are OK.All behavior is NOT.We can stay firm on boundaries,while still being there.
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"But how do we show them that the behavior is NOT OK?! We're supposed to be all rainbows? Kids need discipline!" Yes! The latin root for the word discipline is "disciple" which means, to teach.And fear is a terrible teacher.

When do kids learn best? During calm, collaborative moments. NOT during heightened tantrum moments.Later, at a calm moment,teach better behavior + coping skills.

✨Want to learn how to discipline in a way that WORKS + protects your child's self esteem?Want to end power struggles for good? Our course teaches you how.For parents with kids aged 1-6. Link in bio

19/04/2021

Source:

01/04/2021

08/03/2021

Respectful vs obedient
What's your take on this?

05/02/2021

Something we don't talk about too often when breaking generational abuse cycles is, how does your partner play a part? Are they aligned on the same path as you in these types of goals? Do they contribute positively? How do you talk to them about it? When setting boundaries for your children are you both on the same page? If not, how do you get on the same page?

18/12/2020

What a blessing to have a safe place to share your experiences during the holiday season.

Time spent with family isn’t always warm and comforting. Many people are forced to revisit traumatic memories and difficult relationships as they “go back home” each year. NOOL is here to offer you a place to process and heal. At NOOL, complicated feelings are okay. We accept you and your story.

22/11/2020

Yes.

04/11/2020

-OFFER TANGIBLE SUPPORT (meals, gifts, etc.): When a mother is pregnant, it’s normal for loved ones to shower her with gifts and support. Adoptive families often have similar needs, but because loved ones aren’t familiar with adoption, they shy away from helping. Be the one who isn’t afraid to step up and offer tangible support.
-DON’T CONFRONT THE CHILD WITH QUESTIONS ABOUT IF HE OR SHE LIKES THE NEW HOME/FAMILY: While adoption is a very good thing for children, it doesn’t always feel good in the beginning, and the child may feel awkward when he or she is put on the spot to share ambiguous feelings.
-TREAT THEM LIKE A NORMAL FAMILY: Different doesn’t mean weird or less than. Adoptive families love each other and build connections just as strong as biological families.
-DON’T COMPARE ADOPTIVE FAMILIES’ EXPERIENCES TO YOUR EXPERIENCES WITH BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN: Adoptive children often have trauma history and have the obstacle of forming a new secure attachment to new parents. The struggles aren’t necessarily harder than yours, but they’re different.
-RESPECT BOUNDARIES: The truth is no matter how well a child appears to be doing, there’s a lot you don’t see or understand. Respect the parents and give them space to learn their child.