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Here to help you improve your relationship with yourself. Coaching & courses for people who want to change with compassion, not shame.

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17/08/2025

When someone says ‘I need you to hold me accountable,’ what I hear underneath is:

• I don’t trust myself.
• I’m tired of failing.
• Part of me wishes someone could just do it for me.

No problem.

I know how to help clients grow through compassion instead of criticism.

But accountability in coaching isn’t one-way.

Becoming the coach I want to be has required me to be braver in my own life,

And my clients inspire me to keep growing.

What are you holding yourself accountable for?

12/08/2025

You don’t need to feel good in your body to treat it well.

Ignoring your body, pushing it to its limits, criticising it constantly… that’s self rejection.

Feeling comfortable in your body comes when you choose self respect.

That might look like cooking a nutritious meal,

Moving your body even when it’s hot and sweaty,

Or wearing some color instead of hiding away.

Comfort in your body comes after the action, not before.

So… what’s one act of respect you can choose today?

07/08/2025

What unspoken standards have you been living by?

Which one are you ready to question?

I’d love to know 👇🏼

04/08/2025

Motivation isn’t about forcing yourself to push through.

It’s shaped by what you’re attending to, how safe your nervous system feels, and how your emotion systems are interacting.

If you’re caught between the desire to change,
And the exhaustion of always trying...

It’s time to look deeper.

What’s driving your behaviour?
What’s getting in the way?

If you listen to the podcast, let me know what you learn!

02/08/2025

We often talk about body image pressure like it’s just about external ideals.

But threat doesn’t only come from outside.

It also comes from how we think, feel, and evaluate ourselves.

Many body image coping strategies,

Like body checking, dieting, compulsive exercise, body avoidance, self-criticism...

Are safety behaviours designed to reduce social threat.

They offer short term relief, but they don’t help us feel connected.

👉 Coaches and researchers: Are we focusing enough on social safeness in our body image work?

Where does this show up in your practice or research?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

P.S. This is why having regular calls with clients is so impactful. It’s an opportunity to offer a relationship of safeness, affiliation, and compassion, including the non-verbal cues that help downregulate threat and support emotional regulation (helping clients engage with the BI tools & techniques).

27/07/2025

Ever had a client who:
– Is scared to increase calories
– Panics when the scale goes up
– Cancels social plans if they feel unattractive
– Gets anxious about eating out, even when it’s part of the plan?

This isn’t a consistency problem.

It’s negative body image disrupting their ability to self-regulate.

And unless we know how to spot the patterns behind these behaviours, we’ll keep offering logic when what they really need is support.

So consider this your cue to start expanding your literacy around body image.

Here are 8 foundational terms every nutrition or health coach should understand,

Because if we want to help clients build a sustainable relationship with food, this is part of the job.

Bring to mind one client you’re struggling with and ask:

What might this client be thinking and feeling about their body - and how is that belief shaping their choices?

25/07/2025

Have you heard of the Two Arrows metaphor?

The first arrow represents the inevitable challenges we all face in life.

The second arrow represents the suffering we experience as a result of our reactions to those difficulties.

We can’t always control the first arrow, but we can control how we react to it.

In the CFT model, Paul Gilbert speaks of a third arrow:

The shame we feel as a result of struggling in the first place.

And this is what contributes to the fear and overwhelm that holds us back in the areas of life that are most important to us.

Your mind, and the support you have in your life, are the most powerful assets you have.

Nurture them accordingly, and you’ll be able to make the most of whatever hand you’ve been dealt.

If you had a steady mind, what would change for you?

22/07/2025

Ambulance thoughts x

Your resistance to compassion is learned, and it can be unlearned.

What would change for you if you no longer pretended you could handle it alone?

19/07/2025

Are you feeling brave?

I just did this exercise in a Functional Analytical Psychotherapy workshop and it was incredibly moving.

I felt sad and a little tired (context: it’s day 4 of presentations and workshops and the coffee here sucks 😂)

Most of all, I felt thankful that I can be honest with myself.

I’ve shared a few of my answers.

What’s one answer you’re willing to share?👇🏼

16/07/2025

Does self-weighing have negative psychological effects?

Depends on what we’re measuring.

Some people see a decrease in body dissatisfaction when they lose weight, which makes sense.

But body dissatisfaction is a measure of negative body image, not positive body image.

And is it really an improvement if they become more invested in how they look?

I’ve worked with plenty of clients who’ve lost weight, liked what they saw...
And still felt anxious around food.
Still worried what people thought.
Still trapped in all-or-nothing thinking.

Not really a win is it?

This isn’t about whether fat loss is good or bad.
(The irony is, many people respond to weight-related shame by eating more)

This is about effective, evidence-based coaching.

And the data?

It doesn’t support daily weighing for restrained eaters, which includes most fat loss clients.

But you’ve already seen that in your clients.

So the question is: are you going to help them?

14/07/2025

It’s very hard to dress well in the Spanish heat.

But lately, I’ve been having fun experimenting with colour combinations.

Why?

Because part of the STEADY Mind framework includes saying YES to joy.

And when I’m dressed as my creative, put-together, compassionate self,
That becomes a visual cue to embody those qualities.

Cultivating your personal style is a great way to improve your body image, by:

👚 Wearing clothes that reflect you, not just what hides you
🎨 Choosing colour, textures, or shapes that spark joy
🧠 Facing body avoidance instead of letting it silently shape your life
💛 Dressing as your compassionate self, not your fearful one

This isn’t about fixing your body through fashion.

And it’s not a substitute for the emotional work.

But for many of us, personal style is a powerful entry point.

It is a way to shift from control to expression.
From ‘what will they think?’ to ‘what do I feel drawn to today?’

👇 What colour will you experiment with this week?

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