26/01/2024
BIRTH DOULAS ARE FOR PARTNERS TOO. Yes, we have a lot to offer the person actually giving birth, but we actually support the whole family. Here are a few of the ways doula care can benefit your partner during your pregnancy and birth.
🌲EDUCATION: Your doula will meet with you both before the big day and will talk about what you need to know so that you feel prepared and know what to expect. Also how to be the most useful and supportive partner you can be.
🌲REASSURANCE: Your doula will give you added confidence as a partner just by being in the room. It's good to know you have someone else there who is experienced in birth, especially in the early part of labour before there are any medical professionals around.
🌲DIRECTION: A good doula will (in my opinion) show the partner different ways to help their partner who is giving birth. We can guide you on how to massage or use counter-pressure in a way that often works well. We can anticipate what they might need or find comforting and tell you how to do it. Occasionally we can also gently tell you if you're doing something that is probably not helpful too.😉 We'll do our best to keep you on the right track.
🌲BREAKS: If you are your birthing partner's sole supporter it might be hard to find moments to eat or sleep, and you are not going to be as helpful to them when hungry and exhausted. Your doula can stay with them so you can eat, shower, nap or even just go to the bathroom without having to worry about leaving them alone.
🌲LOGISTICS: Your doula will make your birth go smoother by handling all the little tasks so you don't have to think about them. Keeping the water filled, making cool or warm compresses, making snacks, reminding everyone to eat and hydrate, updating the midwives, cleaning up messes, keeping an eye on when it’s time to leave for the hospital, etc. Your doula will handle things you hadn't even thought of yet and free you up to focus on your important job: being your partner's main supporter.
Did you find doula care helpful as a partner or did your partner?