Mind Rewind (2026)

18/10/2023

The world will not end without a smile on the faces of the children of Palestine 🇵🇸. In Shaa Allah🤍☝️

“He will also give you˺ another favour that you long for: help from Allah and an imminent victory. ˹So˺ give good news ˹O Prophet˺ to the believers.”

-Al Qur’aan [61:13]

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consciousparenting

14/10/2023

If every single person who has liked you in your lifetime, were to light up on a map, it would create the most glitteringly beautiful network you could imagine. Throw in the strangers you've been kind to, the people you've made laugh, or inspired along the way and that star-bright network of you would be an impressive sight to behold.
You're so much more than you think you are. You have done so much more than you realise. You're trailing a bright pathway that you don't even know about. What a thing. What a thing indeed.
Donna Ashworth

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consciousparenting

11/09/2023

How Do I Know If I Need Help?

Deciding to seek help can take some time. It often feels like a big step to take, and so, we choose to wait in hope that our symptoms may subside. However, we invite you to consider therapy if you experience any of the below:

- Your ability to function is compromised in any area of life such as school, work, relationships or social settings.

- You notice an unhealthy change in your coping strategies.

- You feel like you have lost control over certain areas in your life.

- You don’t understand why you may be experiencing overwhelming emotions or changes in behaviour.

- You are experiencing consistently intrusive and distressing thoughts or emotions.

- Your relationships are affected and/or you are becoming more withdrawn.

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consciousparenting

02/09/2023

Imagine...
as a child you are 100% dependent on your parents but you are abused for being a child and for annoying them, then growing up as an adolescent in a world that's rapidly changing, you receive zero empathy and are constantly chasing your parents approval but are handed abuse instead. You live in a home full of landmines not knowing when the next time your parent will explode and release their rage on you. Day in and day out for years and decades and you receive zero empathy or acceptance. You can't connect with your caregivers, you don't even know who you really are to begin with because of the pressure of trying to think, feel, act, walk and breath how your parents want you to in hope you can gain a little bit of their approval, but never do. Plus all the social pressures to fit in to society you ask yourself where do you belong in this world? Then, as an adult you get married to a unhealed traumatised person who came from an abusive home and all this continues, no empathy or acceptance from your spouse. You just want to connect and feel heard and understood but you get nothing. I can't think of a worse form of torture for a human, being deprived from authentic connection all your life and being served with nothing but psychological and physical abuse instead. Then you have kids and it's handed down to the next generation, and the cycle continues.
This is sadly a hidden disaster in many homes of our community that most individual and societal problems stem from and it's not just effecting people in low socio-economical areas, addicts, or people with no education as many people would assume. In fact, in my experience, the upper working class are no different.
This is not an issue due to lack of academic education, career or religiosity. It is intergenerational trauma being passed down and its bi-products are mental illnesses, addictions, su***de, abuse, and personality disorders, with one main symptom being a lack of empathy to those closest which makes the lens that we view religion, culture and the world with to be distorted.

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31/08/2023

Choose Your Destiny

You can either be the victim...

Or you can be the hero.

But you can't be both.

Choose wisely.

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consciousparenting

23/08/2023

"Piglet?" said Pooh.
"Yes?" said Piglet.

"I'm scared," said Pooh.
For a moment, there was silence.

"Would you like to talk about it?" asked Piglet, when Pooh didn't appear to be saying anything further.

"I'm just so scared," blurted out Pooh.

"So anxious. Because I don't feel like things are getting any better. If anything, I feel like they might be getting worse. People are angry, because they're so scared, and they're turning on one another, and there seems to be no clear plan out of here, and I worry about my friends and the people I love, and I wish SO much that I could give them all a hug, and oh, Piglet! I am so scared, and I cannot tell you how much I wish it wasn't so."

Piglet was thoughtful, as he looked out at the blue of the skies, peeping between the branches of the trees in the Hundred Acre Wood, and listened to his friend.

"I'm here," he said, simply. "I hear you, Pooh. And I'm here."

For a moment, Pooh was perplexed.

"But... aren't you going to tell me not to be so silly? That I should stop getting myself into a state and pull myself together? That it's hard for everyone right now?"

"No," said Piglet, quite decisively. "No, I am very much not going to do any of those things."

"But-" said Pooh.

"I can't change the world right now," continued Piglet. "And I am not going to patronise you with platitudes about how everything will be okay, because I don't know that.

"What I can do, though, Pooh, is that I can make sure that you know that I am here. And tha be here, to listen; and to support you; and for you to know that you are heard.

"I can't make those Anxious Feelings go away, not really.

"But I can promise you that, all the time I have breath left in my body...you won't ever need to feel those Anxious Feelings alone."

And it was a strange thing, because even as Piglet said that, Pooh could feel some of those Anxious Feelings start to loosen their grip on him; could feel one or two of them start to slither away into the forest, cowed by his friend, who sat there stolidly next to him.

Pooh thought he had never been more grateful to have Piglet in his life.

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21/08/2023

Part of your healing journey is to realize you're the one who needs to say what you've been waiting to hear your entire life.
J.MIKE FIELDS

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consciousparenting

17/08/2023

Is it a sign of weakness or incompetence if therapists seek therapy?

This question seems to surface often, stemming from the idea that therapists, with their skills and knowledge, should lead perfect lives, be masters of emotional regulation, and handle every crisis single-handedly.

But let me tell you - that's far from the truth.

At the end of the day, therapists are human beings.

We face challenges, ups and downs, and even the occasional breakdown.

We carry our own baggage from childhood or other parts of our lives.

While our training equips us with skills to help others navigate their emotions and issues, there are times when we need help too.

Think about it this way: an oncologist can have cancer, a cardiologist can face heart problems, and that doesn't make them bad doctors.

Similarly, therapists can experience trauma or emotional blockages that need attention and healing.

Also, being in a therapeutic space, listening to clients' struggles and emotional turmoil day in and day out, can be overwhelming.

This isn't due to incompetence, but a simple reality of our profession. Like anyone else, we have a 'cup' of emotional energy that can be depleted, and it needs refilling.

Therapists need their own therapeutic space to manage and understand their feelings, ensuring they can offer their best selves to their clients.

That's why many therapists attend therapy themselves, and it's why we encourage our peers to do the same.

It is not a sign of weakness or incompetence - rather, it's an act of self-care, a testament to our commitment to offering the best service to our clients.

Therapeutic care with a flair....

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consciousparenting

15/08/2023

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of N**i Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit su***de. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?

"None of them", she told him.

What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?

Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s willingness to listen to her in the middle of the night. A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another's pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of listening is the greatest gift we can give.

Therapeutic care with a flair....

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consciousparenting

03/08/2023

I found the world to be
Woefully lacking
In safe places.
So I became one.

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zebadalvi@gmail.com

consciousparenting

22/07/2023

Therapeutic care with a flair....

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consciousparenting

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