27/05/2025
No one has a victim complex like a man who thinks he's not a narcissist. It's a twisted irony—he’ll weaponize the idea that he's been wronged, misunderstood, or unfairly accused, all while embodying the very traits he denies. He might say things like *"I’ve done everything for you,"* or *"You always blame me,"* as if he's the noble martyr enduring endless attacks. But behind those words is often a refusal to reflect, to take genuine responsibility, or to acknowledge the real pain he’s caused.
This type of man doesn’t just dodge accountability—he builds an entire identity around being the one who’s “been through so much.” He’ll recast every confrontation as an injustice against him. If you try to express your hurt, he’ll interrupt with his own suffering. If you try to leave, he’ll plead or rage, accusing you of betrayal. He’ll gather sympathy from others, painting himself as the wounded hero in a story where you’re cold, crazy, or ungrateful.
The most dangerous part? He genuinely believes it. His denial is so deeply rooted that any criticism feels like an attack on his very existence. He can’t see his own manipulation, his gaslighting, or his ego-driven control because in his mind, he’s the victim, never the villain.
This is what makes confronting covert narcissism so exhausting. You’re not just dealing with defensiveness—you’re up against a person who’s rewritten reality in a way that always protects their fragile ego and shifts blame to everyone else.