06/01/2021
′′ ANTHONY HOPKINS ′′
Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you'll have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop showing up for people who are not interested in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything you can to gain recognition of people around you, but it's the impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you start fighting for your life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you to this place. It doesn't mean you have to change who you are, it means you have to let go of people who aren't ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, offended, forgotten or ignored by those you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by offering them your energy and life. The truth is, you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.
It's what makes it so special when you find people you have a friendship with or love reciprocated. You know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not.
The more time you spend trying to make you love someone who isn't capable of it, the more time you waste depriving yourself of being able to connect with someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet you at your level of interest and commitment.
The more connected you are to people who use you as a pillow, a second plan option, or a therapist for their emotional healing, the longer you leave the community you desire.
Maybe if you stop showing up they won't look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will be dark for weeks.
That doesn't mean you destroyed a relationship, it means the only thing that held it was the energy that only gave you to keep it. It's not love, it's attachment. It's to want to give a chance to whoever doesn't deserve it! You deserve a lot, there are people who shouldn't be in your life, you'll realize.
The most precious thing you have in life is your time and energy because both are limited. Whatever you give your time and energy will determine your existence.
When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so concerned when you spend time with people, in actions, places or situations that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, they steal your energy.
You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven where only people ′′ compatible ′′ with you are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life!
Because if you feel unwell, if you feel obligated, you'll be the source of all your problems with insistence, afraid you won't get back the favors you've given. Your only duty is to realize that you are the master of your fate and accept the love you think you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, true commitment and full love for healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much things start to change and that will change that's for sure, with positive people and good energy, don't waste your time on people that aren't worth it, change will give you love, respect, happiness and protection that's for which you deserve it.
Anthony Hopkins
