Therapy Heals with Alia

19/07/2025

Know your hormones, know thyself!
Awareness of how thoughts get dictated by hormones can save many a heartache.
'I THINK THEREFORE I AM', is a good mantra.
One of such hormones is; Oxytocin - It also acts as a chemical messenger in your brain and has an important role in many human behaviors and social interactions, including:

Sexual arousal.

Recognition.

Trust.

Romantic attachment.

Parent-infant bonding.

05/07/2025

29/06/2025

True love to one's child is consistent support and understanding. Not things laid out according to the demands of the parent who operates from the place of an unhealed child themselves, for life.
Unhealed parents suffocate growth and peaceful development.
Nothing you do will make them happy. Choose yourself to grow and heal.

10/06/2025

Secure Attachment style. Way to go:
1. Understand Your Attachment Style:
* Self-Reflection: Explore your childhood experiences to see how they shaped your attachment style.
*Recognize Patterns: Identify any anxious or avoidant tendencies in your relationships.
2. Build Self-Esteem:
* Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself and acknowledge your worthiness.
*Challenge Negative Thoughts: Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
*Embrace Personal Growth: Focus on personal goals and achievements to build self-confidence.
3. Practice Emotional Regulation:
*Identify Triggers: Recognize situations or people that trigger strong emotional responses.
*Develop Coping Mechanisms: Find healthy ways to manage your emotions, such as exercise, meditation, or deep breathing.
*Communicate Feelings: Practice expressing your emotions in a calm and assertive manner.
4. Develop Healthy Boundaries:
*Define Limits: Clearly establish your boundaries in relationships.
*Communicate Assertively: Express your boundaries clearly and respectfully.
*Respect Others' Boundaries: Recognize and respect the boundaries of others in your relationships.
5. Build Trust and Reliability:
*Be reliable and follow Through on Commitments
*Be Transparent: Share your thoughts and feelings honestly with others.
*Show Up for Others: Be present and supportive in times of need.
6. Practice Emotional Availability:
*Be Present: Pay attention to the needs and feelings of others in your relationships.
*Listen Actively: Pay attention to what others are saying, both verbally and nonverbally.
*Offer Support and Empathy: Be there for others when they need it, offering comfort and understanding.
7. Seek Out Supportive Relationships:
*Build Positive Connections: Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe and supported.
*Cultivate Healthy Friendships: Prioritize relationships that are based on mutual respect, trust, and emotional connection.
*Consider Professional Support: Seek therapy or counseling if you are struggling to form healthy relationships.

10/06/2025

WAY TO GO:
1. Understand Your Attachment Style:
* Self-Reflection: Explore your childhood experiences to see how they shaped your attachment style.
*Recognize Patterns: Identify any anxious or avoidant tendencies in your relationships.
2. Build Self-Esteem:
* Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself and acknowledge your worthiness.
*Challenge Negative Thoughts: Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
*Embrace Personal Growth: Focus on personal goals and achievements to build self-confidence.
3. Practice Emotional Regulation:
*Identify Triggers: Recognize situations or people that trigger strong emotional responses.
*Develop Coping Mechanisms: Find healthy ways to manage your emotions, such as exercise, meditation, or deep breathing.
*Communicate Feelings: Practice expressing your emotions in a calm and assertive manner.
4. Develop Healthy Boundaries:
*Define Limits: Clearly establish your boundaries in relationships.
*Communicate Assertively: Express your boundaries clearly and respectfully.
*Respect Others' Boundaries: Recognize and respect the boundaries of others in your relationships.
5. Build Trust and Reliability:
*Be reliable and follow Through on Commitments
*Be Transparent: Share your thoughts and feelings honestly with others.
*Show Up for Others: Be present and supportive in times of need.
6. Practice Emotional Availability:
*Be Present: Pay attention to the needs and feelings of others in your relationships.
*Listen Actively: Pay attention to what others are saying, both verbally and nonverbally.
*Offer Support and Empathy: Be there for others when they need it, offering comfort and understanding.
7. Seek Out Supportive Relationships:
*Build Positive Connections: Surround yourself with people who make you feel safe and supported.
*Cultivate Healthy Friendships: Prioritize relationships that are based on mutual respect, trust, and emotional connection.
*Consider Professional Support: Seek therapy or counseling if you are struggling to form healthy relationships.

12/05/2025

Sometimes life doesn’t give you closure—
it gives you courage instead.

This wolf didn’t wait for the forest to part,
for the path to be clear,
for the pain to make sense.
He just walked forward—
with questions still unanswered,
and wounds still healing.

Because strength isn’t always loud.
Sometimes it looks like
waking up and choosing to keep going,
even when the weight of yesterday
still sits heavy on your back.

So when the past knocks,
don’t open the door—
open your chest,
breathe deep,
and remind yourself:

You are not what broke you.
You are what survived it.

( ✍️ Yellowstone Wolves )

30/03/2025

Knowing the abilities and limitations of people is essential to save yourself from disappointments and heart ache. To achieve this exploring and knowing oneself is the key.
With the baggage of traumas that we have from childhood it becomes impossible to achieve this self awareness. This is where a therapist is integral for facilitation in the process of evolving and becoming free of one's own limitations and awareness of your true self and strengths.

23/03/2025

Zeno of Cithium, a famous Greek philosopher spoke about the benefits of taking a bad step in walking rather than to say the wrong thing in talking. We can do a lot of damage when we say something by mistake.
👉Note from Alia: In my life journey learning from philosophers of the past really groomed my instincts to deal with life. I feel philosophy if studied thoroughly can definitely help heal your inner wounds and the recognition of the nature of the person who gave you that wound. Philosophy will surely set you free of your inner painful demons, planted in you through no fault of yours. It will help you heal your, "Inner Child," and let it work in harmony with your, "Inner Adult," and that's the goal a therapist wants to achieve with you and for you, for ensuring eternal calmness, joys and success in life.
A Tip: A good therapist is a good philosopher too. Seek this kind of a therapist who has a deep understanding of life and its challenges and your emotions.

28/02/2025

Getting to truly know yourself is the curve of growth. In small steps let's face the inner world, free it of its own diminishing damages and gain the hidden inner strength that lies behind them.
It is important to not do this alone. Humans are not geared for isolated growth.

04/02/2025

Choose wisely from among those who take healing as the most important part of their life journey.

02/02/2025

Choose healing, seek therapy.

02/02/2025

When life throws lemons, Be Stoic. Power of perseverance — the unwavering will to keep moving forward, even when the path gets tough. The development of self control as a means of overpowering destructive thoughts.
Stoic preserved