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Lullaby Sleep Advice A family sleep can be effected and effecting many different sides of our lives.

I’m here to check all aspects and find out what stands between you and a good family sleep and help you improve it through connection and trust.

What she said😊Pinky McKay
05/04/2024

What she said😊
Pinky McKay

The Real, Measurable, Important Milestones That Signal Your Baby’s Actual Development Can Influence Your Baby’s Sleep, Or Lack Of It. So, When Your Baby, Who Has Been Sleeping In Peaceful Blocks, Suddenly Starts Waking More Frequently, It Usually Means He Is Approaching A Real Developmental Milestone – He Is Not ‘Regressing’, He Is ‘Progressing.’

See my blog "The Myth of Baby Sleep Regressions"

https://pinkymckay.com/the-myth-of-baby-sleep-regressions-whats-really-happening-to-your-babys-sleep/

Thank you Pinky McKay for sharing!
29/03/2024

Thank you Pinky McKay for sharing!

20/03/2024

Exactly this!

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Check out this one. I know I’m going to order one
14/03/2024

Check out this one. I know I’m going to order one

⭐️EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT CLAXON!⭐️

I am thrilled to be sharing this next book with you - launching May 2024. Keep your eyes peeled for when the pre-order opens 👀

Pippa has been an avid breastfeeder since birth. We’ve always fed to sleep, contact napped and co-slept.

I’ve found plenty of mums following a similar path, but representation in children’s picture books has been non-existent, until nowwwwwwwww!!

I’m so excited to announce a first of a kind* children’s picture book celebrating the rollercoaster of breastfeeding into infanthood.

This is not a book about weaning - it is a supportive companion for breastfeeding mums to read to their children, with STUNNING illustrations from that represent the beauty (and frustrations!) of breastfeeding into the toddler years ❤️🤱🏼

So if you, or anyone else you know is interested, please share! I’d love to spread the word on this as far and wide as possible 🤗

*As far as I can see (I really hope this isn’t a Sam Smith moment 😂)

14/03/2024

Beautiful. I never thought of it that deeply. Did you?

05/03/2024

✨Safe(r) Sleep Week 2024 ✨

It's a really important week and one we are passionate about here at The Beyond Sleep Training Project - Safer Sleep Week!

This week is about raising awareness of how to reduce risk and create safer sleep situations for your baby.

🫛Day 1: Safer Shared Sleep 🫛

With upwards of 75% of parents falling asleep with their baby in the first few months of life – intentionally and unintentionally - EVERYONE needs to know how to PREPARE TO SHARE. Remember: Easy to breathe, safer to sleep.

If you think you might be about to fall asleep with your baby, you can do these things to reduce risk:

✨Move to a firm, flat mattress.
✨Ensure your baby sleeps on their back (it's fine to side-lie nurse, then roll bub on their back after they finish feeding)
✨Ensure the space around your baby's head is clear and that no blankets or pillows are anywhere near them. If you have long hair, tying it back can help keep baby's face clear.

🛑The risk of entrapment or suffocation is significantly increased by sleeping on a couch, recliner, or nursing chair.🛑

*If your family is navigating additional risk factors such as smoke exposure, premature or low-birth-weight bub or a non-sober person in the bed environment, a side-car cot/bassinet, a Pepi-Pod or wahakura may be helpful options to provide a separate space that keeps baby in proximity.

05/03/2024

✨ Safe(r) Sleep Week Day 2: Baby on Back + Roomsharing Night AND Day ✨

*Sleep position and room-sharing information from The Lullaby Trust

✨Sharing a room ✨

Babies should always be in the same room as you for at least the first six months for sleep, day and night.

This doesn't mean you can't leave the room to make a cup of tea or go to the toilet, but most of the time, when they are sleeping, they are safest if you are close by. Why? Between 0 and 1 year, but specifically before six months old, your baby's brain goes through a lot of development. This development includes changes in the processes that manage breathing and heart rate.

There are no devices on the market that will substitute a parent or carer being in the same room as your baby for safer sleep.

✨ The safest sleeping position for a baby is on their back ✨

It is safest to always place your baby on their back to sleep (unless your doctor has advised you of a medical reason not to do so, including the risks associated).

Sleeping a baby on their front or side significantly increases the risk of SIDS. The risk of SIDS is particularly high for babies who are *sometimes* placed on their front or side.

Once your baby can move from their back to their front and back again by themselves, they can find their own sleeping position. Give them time to play on their tummy while awake to help them develop their turning skills if they've mastered one way but not the other, but make sure you supervise them while they are on their front.

✨Keep your baby's sleep surface flat✨

Inclining, tilting or propping the mattress, cot, or baby increases their risk of SIDS. There is no evidence that it helps with reflux and is unlikely to improve cold symptoms, but there is evidence that it constitutes an added risk.

As always, ensuring you have enough information to manage your unique family situation and the associated risks is the safest way to go.

For more on the best sleeping position for a baby head over to The Lullaby Trust's Website.

What a beautiful illustration of why and how our children need our help to regulate their big feelings.Thank you Institu...
18/04/2023

What a beautiful illustration of why and how our children need our help to regulate their big feelings.
Thank you Institute of Child Psychology

08/07/2022

Not completely related to sleep, but a beautiful reminder to my past as a singer and how the name “Lullaby” came to mind.

05/07/2022

A parent who feels their role is self-sacrificing is more likely to raise children who feel like a burden.

Do you ever feel like “I give everything to my children and all they do is take! At least they could listen, for all I do for them!”

👆 This is conditional love. There is a mental transaction that only one person is aware of or part of. And let’s think about the logic here… it’s our job to meet our children’s basic needs, regardless of their behaviour. It’s not a transaction, it’s parenting. It’s love. It’s not conditional. But this can be hard to understand if love has always been transactional for you. In fact, if love has always been transactional, imagine how cheated you feel when you become a parent? You expect something in return for your love.

Do you want to see your child and your role as a parent from a Responsive Parenting lens?

Learn more in my latest E 📖

Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation

Link in bio or on the Website: responsiveparentinginspirations.com

Edited to add: A lot of people feeling called out and I know, this one is a bit of a gut punch. I do this sometimes… it’s not to make you feel guilty it’s for the purpose of reflection. My theory is, if this hits you in the gut, you are ALREADY feeling guilt and shame over this. It’s already an issue for you and this post is making it so you can’t ignore that feeling.

For the sake of clarity, this is not referring to every little sacrifice we make because we do make sacrifices (I don’t really see it that way but some do). It is more about whether you feel owed something for those sacrifices. That doesn’t make you a “bad parent.” It just means you found something that you can try to deconstruct. Deconstructing a belief such as this one can actually provide so much clarity and then it often leads to a release from the guilt. The purpose is to release you of guilt, not to cause more. Please I’m telling you that total self-sacrifice is not necessary… please believe me. I’m not saying this to make you feel guilty, I’m trying to help ❤️

Edit #2: Love how I can keep adding commentary with FB. I remember when I felt this way the most. It was when I had a baby who never slept more than 45 minutes and absolutely zero external support. At a certain point I realized I felt this way and started making small changes. I wasn’t relieved of it overnight but once I became aware that I didn’t want my experience to be one of self-sacrifice, I was able to start working towards making that a reality. Slow but intentional growth.

I can’t agree more.
03/07/2022

I can’t agree more.

There's so much I'd like to tell that tired face...

One day, you'll wonder if he's ok because he's slept for longer than two hours in a row.

One day, you'll stop posting in sleep forums for advice. You'll stop scouring the internet for solutions. Because you've found the answer within yourself.

One day, he'll let his dad rock him to sleep without screaming. You'll feel redundant but in a good, freeing way. You'll dance around the kitchen in celebration at your newfound sense of freedom, not quite knowing what to do with yourself.

One day, 2.5 years in, he will sleep through the night for the first time, and you'll be really chuffed. But it won't be the all-singing, all-dancing fanfare you've imagined all this time. Because the acceptance came sooner.

One day, you'll catch sight of yourself in the mirror and see a well-rested person staring back at you. The colour having slowly returned to your face.

One day, you'll no longer run on empty but rather a full (ish) tank. You'll start the day with a spring in your step rather than a tired trudge.

One day, you'll think back to those damning conversations and wonder why you ever let them fill your head with doubt.

One day, you'll look back with nothing but pride at the way you responded to your child's needs, in a world that still seems so strangely intent on denying them.

Thanks to Moomysmilk for the artwork.

Words: Karen McMillan (Mother Truths)

Taken from: 'Lessons: Reflections on Early Motherhood'
Available to buy worldwide: http://linktr.ee/mother_truths

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