04/01/2023
When people start New Year's Resolutions, they're basically hoping that the change of the calendar date will help them make a personality change in themselves.
For example, if their response to stress and anxiety is to over-eat, and they're a few pounds heavier than they'd like to be, their New Year's Resolution may be to lose a certain number of pounds.
But their personality trait... to over-eat when stressed isn't being addressed. So the change of the calendar and a bit of willpower is probably not going to achieve very much.
Only by changing thought patterns of decades will the underlying issue be tackled, and that can't be done until the thoughts and feelings and **reactions to those thoughts and feelings** are recognised.
This is what I try to do every day....
1: Increase the "awareness space" inside myself to inspect thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and attitudes and fully experience all feelings.
(this is mindfulness)
2: Choose which thoughts to accept and which to reject.
3: Choose how to best respond to feelings, not react.
What do you think? Do you do something similar?