Fleur Romano coaching

10/09/2024

𝐌𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐂𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐜 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬: 𝗪𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧'𝐬 𝐂𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞 - 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐎𝐜𝐭 𝟐𝟒

Are you living in a chronically stressed state? You might be taking care of others and getting through the day, but perhaps feel disconnected, numb or foggy.

If this sounds familiar, you might also be no stranger to ever-present anxiety, irritation and fatigue.

Holding tension all the time is not a fun way to live. And while we might be aware that it’s a one-way ticket to burnout, it can be really hard to pull ourselves out of it.

Because … life!

We’re busy, we’ve got obligations, maybe little mouths to feed, jobs to show up to, aging parents to care for …

𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘩𝘺𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘭𝘰𝘢𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘮𝘰𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘫𝘰𝘬𝘦. 𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭.

So how on Earth do we find a way to live peacefully? How can we feel truly calm, in control, and at home in our skin every day?

This is what we'll discover in our 4-week online Circle.

𝐓𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫, 𝐰𝐞’𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐞:

🌿 The dominant nervous system states of chronic stress - and why we’re reaching for a flexible nervous system.

🌿 How beautifully intelligent and capable your system is of adapting to change.

🌿 Somatic & self-relating practices to begin shaping a flexible nervous system that helps you handle life with more ease.

🌿 Beliefs, thought patterns and burdens that perpetuate stress and how to come into a different relationship with them.

𝐈'𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐂𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞. 𝐉𝐨𝐢𝐧 𝐮𝐬 𝐯𝐢𝐚 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬.

02/05/2023

Shadow work can seem really scary ... until we do it.

What can give us courage to even dip our toe in?

🌿 Doing it alongside like-minded others.
🌿 An environment that feels safe enough for our system.
🌿 Support and holding from an experienced guide.
🌿 Finding out it can actually be ... playful, connecting and fun!

This is what you'll experience in our 4-week Women's Circle starting May 8, along with:

❤️ Somatic practices
❤️ Parts work
❤️ Art therapy (creative play)
❤️ Guided meditations

A small group is already gathering - I hope you'll join us.

We meet weekly for 90 min, beginning 8 May.

4:30pm (PDT) / 6:30pm (CDT) / 7:30pm (EDT)

$222 USD - book your Circle seat at http://bit.ly/3zDrpir

Sessions will not be recorded - this is 100% live experience to cherish yourself in real time. 🥰

More info: www.fleurromano.com/events

27/04/2023

Join us for the 4-week Women's Circle to meet your shadow in the most fun way possible!

We'll play with art therapy, parts work, movement, breath and a whole lot more.

Meet, understand and heal the parts of you that you might not like so much. They have important messages for you to hear.

The group will be small, and we have a few spots left. I'd love to welcome you. ❤️

We circle up on May 8th
4:30pm (PDT) / 6:30pm (CDT) / 7:30pm (EDT)

Meeting for 90 mins each week across 4 weeks.

Book your spot here: http://bit.ly/3zDrpir

25/04/2023

Light helps us to pick up the shadows - their shapes, their edges, their size. We always bring the light to explore our inner shadow. This ensures that our healing 'work' is gentle, compassionate, even playful. Oh, and that it actually works. 🥰

Will you join us for the 4-week Women's Circle soon? We're going to be meeting our shadow and having fun doing it. (Yep, it's possible.)

💛 Somatic practices (movement, touch, breath)
💛 Parts work
💛 Art therapy
💛 Small group connection & sharing
💛 Loads of support.

Book your spot using the link in comments.

**Photo of my youngest playing with light and shadow.

22/04/2023

Archie-dog helping me prep for a very special Women’s Circle series - we begin on May 8th!

He’s a nervous system expert and my somatic practice partner and advisor.😅

I hope you’ll join our small group of courageous women … we’re journeying together over 4 weeks to gently meet and tend to our shadow. ❤️

22/04/2023

May 8 - 29, online Circle to tend to the parts of you needing deep care and nourishment. We can't heal what we can't see. Will you join us?

22/04/2023

Women's Circle series starts in 2 weeks! Will you join us for some connection, learning, creativity and self inquiry?

May 8 - 29, online Circle to tend to the parts of you needing deep care and nourishment. We can't heal what we can't see. Will you join us?

07/04/2023

𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧'𝐬 𝐂𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞 - 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝟖 𝐌𝐚𝐲!

Journey with a like-minded group into known and new territory as you welcome what’s ready to be seen and healed within you.

Together, we’ll explore our ‘shadow side’ - all those parts of us that we keep exiled and hidden - and shine a gentle, nourishing light.

Gather in circle to be supported, seen and free to gently explore your inner world.

This small guided group (max. 12) is a live 4-week online experience full of learning, connection and embodied experience.

We will play with somatic practices, art therapy, Internal Family Systems, and some ancient circling traditions.

$222 USD

More info: https://www.fleurromano.com/events

07/04/2023

𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐈𝐅𝐒 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐩 - 𝐀𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐥 𝟏𝟖 - 𝐀𝐥𝐥 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞!

For those wanting to (re)connect with their sensations and emotions, particularly when this usually feels difficult or elusive.

We’ll explore Susan McConnell’s brilliant approach to Somatic Internal Family Systems and play with embodiment, movement and mindfulness.

A refreshing detour from 'being in our heads'.

$47 USD

18 April 2023 @ 4:30pm (PDT) / 6:30pm (CDT) / 7:30pm (EDT)

More info: https://www.fleurromano.com/events

16/10/2022

𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧'𝐬 𝐂𝐢𝐫𝐜𝐥𝐞: 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫

If chronic anger or resentment is eating you alive and you'd like to work with this in a trauma-informed group setting, you are warmly invited to Women's Circle.

This is a (low cost) 5-week small group program beginning in November.

The group requires a minimum of six participants to go ahead, so please share with anyone in your life who you think would be interested in joining us.

Find more info at https://www.fleurromano.com/womenscircle

01/09/2022

Wildly cathartic release of anger - or any intense emotion - was once all the rage (see what I did there? 😅)

But now we know A LOT more about the human system and how to release big energy safely for effective trauma healing.

And it doesn't involve poking the bear until it detonates. (Sorry, not a great visual.)

Sadly, intense cathartic therapies are still facilitated by some practitioners.

Hello, re-traumatisation.

If you're ever encouraged to 'just ramp up intensity' on the promise that it'll be healing - especially without sufficient relational holding for your system - please run in the other direction.

20/08/2022

𝐈𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧'𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 ...

Most of us carry gifts and burdens that did not start with our individual experience of life. These energies, beliefs and identities can continue to influence our system in invisible ways.

Shining a light on what has passed down into your inner family helps you:

🌿 Distinguish between legacy burdens and personal burdens

🌿 Explore the parts of you that hold / protect legacy burdens and gifts

🌿 Open to the possibility of unburdening these parts and embracing legacy gifts.

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐬, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐲 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥. 𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐨:

💜Bring awareness to your own legacy story

💜Identify and connect with parts who carry legacy information

💜Experience a guided legacy unburdening process.

A basic understanding of the Internal Family Systems model is useful, but not mandatory.

Tickets: $30 AUD

Thursday September 8th

Duration: 2 hours

5:00pm PDT / 7:00pm CDT / 8:00pm EDT / 10:00am AEST (Friday September 9th)

Bookings at:

It didn't all start with you ... Most of us carry gifts and burdens that did not start with our individual experience of life. These energies, beliefs and identities can continue to influence our system in invisible ways. Shining a light on what has passed down into your inner family helps you: Dist...

28/07/2022

𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞-𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠?

In trauma speak, this is known as a 'somatic flashback'.

Your nervous system is triggered into a fight response that it coded way back when it first perceived a similar threat.

And it's completely NORMAL.

Of course, we need access to our fight response when it's warranted.

But when it's activated frequently in everyday life, cortisol flooding wears down our precious body, mind and spirit.

Learning how to unravel from an overactive threat response takes care, presence, loving attention and trauma-informed support.

Waiting for you on the other side:

** greater spaciousness in your whole system

** 'more' time ... you feel like there's enough time for everything you need and want to do

** an empowering sense of CHOICE (this one is rather thrilling actually!)

** a curious lessening of triggering events

** an urge to connect rather than avoid / attack / criticise your loved ones.

This is the deep work I can guide you through.

6 weeks / 6 x 90min sessions / between-session support

If this sounds like something you're ready for, DM me or comment below.

28/07/2022

For people living with trauma symptoms that keep them stuck in painful patterns (e.g. depression, anxiety, rage) this message is shaming and retraumatising.

Simplistic and judgmental messages like this can be so damaging because they lack nuance, context, and safe-enough relationship, which are all required for effective trauma healing.

Let's stop perpetuating trauma on social media or anywhere!

27/07/2022

I’ll never stop learning.

I gravitate to anything related to systems theory, fractals, psychology, nervous system health and the innate human potential for healing, connection and community.

Recently I revisited a book on the Enneagram and – yet again – was blown away by the description of my ‘type’ (4). I can geek out on this stuff all day.

Do you know your Enneagram type?

20/07/2022

If you've noticed you're feeling more irritable lately and giving yourself a hard time about it, consider there might be fairly simple reasons behind the crankiness.

Yes, there can be deep-seated root causes of chronic frustration and anger ...

BUT, before you dive into exploring that possibility, check in with your physical health first.

Hormone changes, sleep disruptions, dehydration and patchy eating habits can all send you straight to cranky-ville really fast.

When these aspects are a bit more in balance and you're still experiencing patterns of irritability that impact your relationships and happiness, then it's a good time to look for a supportive trauma-informed therapist.

16/07/2022

I'm creating a series of online workshops for people wanting to go deeper with their IFS practice. (These will likely be offered monthly depending on level of interest.)

Grounded in IFS and complementary Somatic Experiencing principles, these workshops are an opportunity to access the felt sense of your parts, learn more about the IFS model, and participate in group discussion.

I'm an IFSCA-trained practitioner, teacher, clinical supervisor and somatic psychotherapist.

We'll cover:

** Why we sometimes get 'stuck' when working with our parts and what to do about it

** Different ways to play with (and welcome) blended energy

** Parts mapping approaches that help externalise a cluster of parts to more easily work with them

** Discerning individual burdens from legacy burdens.

I'm also keen to hear which aspects of IFS you'd like to explore in this workshop program - so please comment below with your ideas!

Tickets: $15 USD
Thursday August 4th
Duration: 90 mins

5:00pm PDT / 7:00pm CDT / 8:00pm EDT / 10:00am AEST (Friday August 5th)

Future workshop dates TBC.

Tickets can be booked here: https://events.humanitix.com/ifs-workshop