Gabriela Pulido, AMFT

09/05/2023

Things to say instead:
“That rest was needed”
“Your body is thanking you”
“Your ability to carve out personal time is inspiring/motivating”

It’s amazing to have goals, dreams and ambitions that keep us self motivated and passionate. FOOD FOR THE SOUL ✨

However - forget hustle culture.
Let’s be honest rest is a privilege and not everyone can prioritize this the same way. Even finding 10 minutes in your day to focus solely on yourself is impactful.

For the mamas: maybe it’s not necessarily that’s you’re first right now but you’re at LEAST somewhere in the lineup 💕

09/12/2022

Anxiety can lead us to catastrophize a situation in order to prepare us for the “inevitable”

However, more often than not the worst possible outcome does not occur

Instead our sympathetic nervous system is activated assuming danger is on the horizon making it difficult to focus or feel safe in our bodies

As said best: our thoughts have POWER!

08/12/2022

🚩 Children of narcissistic parents

It is normal to undervalue yourself and pour your love into others as a means for validation.

This is because you were taught that love was conditional and you could only receive love or be loved by “doing right” by this parent. It was never about you. It was about THEM. Learning to undo this narrative can be difficult but not impossible 🤍

Seek out support and lean on healthy relationships to feel grounded.

08/12/2022

It is normal to align with multiple dysfunctional familial roles throughout your lifetime.

Unaddressed intergenerational trauma will lead children to become parentified, dismissed, abandoned and/or neglected. Children learn they must fill voids in their family and take on the necessary roles in order to maintain "the peace", protect siblings, protect themselves, deflect attention and support emotional needs of either parents.

You might notice feeling activated around family over the holidays as these roles become triggered again. Another reason knowing and implementing your boundaries are so important!

02/12/2022

I am SO excited to start this group!

Start date: January 6th
Meets: Virtually every Friday from 9:00am - 10:00am
(Group will be held virtually unless enough mamas would like to meet in person)

This group will provide a safe space to process/share/discuss and vent regarding all things motherhood. We will focus on the fourth trimester including.. what are the baby blues? How do I know if this is PPA or PPD? Will this ever end?! The short answer is yes, but you do not have to do this alone.

*We will have a guest speaker once a month who will speak on their expertise, offer guidance and answer questions!

Please email me at: gabrielapulidotherapy@gmail.com for more information.

I look forward to meeting and connecting with you mama!

08/11/2021

Why can setting boundaries feel so difficult?

Boundaries typically don’t feel good when we set them late in the game. Most often with our family, friends or a partner. We change the already set dynamic. We trigger insecure attachments and people react. We create distance from some behavior which might feel like we’re creating distance from that individual.

However, once boundaries are in place and they become normalized..room for secure attachments are created. Healthier relationships and communication styles are cultivated. That’s why it’s good to remember that they hurt before they work!

27/10/2021

Thankful to share my personal journey into the therapeutic space with .
I love their purpose. If you’re interested the link for the article is in my profile ✨✨✨

27/10/2021

I don’t know who needed to hear this today but..

YOU ARE ENOUGH.

Not before you get the job
Not before you get the house
Not before you’re in a relationship
Not before you meet all your goals

you are ENOUGH, right now ✨

06/10/2021

Some important differences between abusive behavior and common disagreements in a relationship.

Some signs of gaslighting:

Outrageous lies
Targeting your self-esteem and weaknesses
Their actions don’t align with their words
They mix lies with positive reinforcement
They project their behavior onto you

If you’re in an abusive relationship, know you’re not alone. Understanding what is happening, bringing awareness and consciousness to the abuse is the first step towards healing. Seeking help is an essential next step for emotional/physical safety

19/09/2021

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14/09/2021

she’s a work in progress but she’s live ✨🤌🏼

Go visit therapywithgabriela.com to learn more about the services I provide and to book a session!

10/09/2021

ANXIETY please kindly f*!< off.

I used to think I knew what anxiety was and I thought I was lucky because I never experienced it.

Turns out I lacked the knowledge or language to describe what I was experiencing - because your girl is anxious!

Once I was able to acknowledge years of anxiety, I felt relief. I find being intentional with my mornings, acknowledging things I have done during the day that deserve praise and letting my loved ones know when I’m overwhelmed works best for me.

08/09/2021

Su***de is not a choice. Most of the time a person doesn’t want to die but rather stop their endless pain.

Su***de is typically a last resort to end the pain.

When people feel little regard for their own life it’s hard for them to imagine people care about them.

Struggling from a physical medical condition is not selfish so why should suicidal ideation be?

Making someone feel guilty or selfish for suicidal ideation will not help; if anything it will prevent them from reaching out.

Normalize thoughts of death and dying - don’t be afraid of the conversations - this way your loved ones can reach out when they need help.