21/11/2023
The Unknown of Transition
I have many clients who fear the “unknowns” of life when they’re in transition whether that be transitioning out of a relationship into singleness, from employed to unemployed, from having a home to a new home. The space between what is known and unknown can reveal some of our deepest fears and insecurities that have been buried beneath the surface of comfort and what I call “false safety”. It exposes our human and God-given need to experience safety & security. While it may seem the resolve is to get external answers to gather “clarity/direction” it will simply put a bandaid on the actual wound that is crying out for healing and creating all of the subsequent emotions of anxiety, panic, exhaustion, agitation, unsettledness, etc.
There is an invitation in every one of these life experiences to understand that your response is simply programming from a moment in time you experienced “transition” and what you needed at a heart level wasn’t met. It’s here in this experience you learned safety is “inconsistent” in these moments and therefore this reality is “unsafe”. To deepen the wound, this experience was paired with you feeling alone & unstable inside of the pain of that circumstance. Maybe it happened inside the transition of gaining a sibling, changes schools, moving homes, fill in the blank…nonetheless you were a child perhaps not even aware you had needs to ask for inside of these transitions from the known to the unknown. The good news is as an adult, you are empowered to deprogram what you learned and reprogram a higher reality by leading yourself to Perfect Love, Jesus. A source that is always consistent, available, and capable to meet the need of your heart.