22/07/2025
SETTING BOUNDARIES 🛑🤚🏾🫷🏾
Boundaries simply put show others how you prefer to be treated.
They are a means of protecting you mind, body, and spirit and can be thought of like a stop sign. When someone isn't treating you with the care that you deserve it is okay and necessary to put up a stop sign. This stop sign lets the other person know that they have crossed a line in the relationship.
You have a voice and it is necessary and okay to use it when others aren't treating you with the level of care that you prefer. This holds true for friends, family (even parents and older family members), your children, significant others, associates, etc.
You have to show people how to treat you.
HOW DO YOU SET BOUNDARIES?
1. Start small and focus on one at a time. It can be uncomfortable initially, but you will get better with them with time.
2. Be clear with your needs and limits.
3. Practice what you will say in the mirror before you speak to the person.
4. KISS (keep it super simple). You don't need to say everything that bothers you at once. Start with one thing that bothers you the most and slowly progress from there.
WHAT IF SOMEONE DOESN'T HONOR MY BOUNDARY?
Sometimes boundaries are met with emotional manipulation such as guilt tripping, gaslighting, testing your limits, ignoring your feelings, or victim playing. If this happens don't back down. ALWAYS prioritize your well-being. Decide what actions you will take to protect yourself and stand firm in your boundaries, even if it means limiting or ending contact with the person.
I hope this is helpful to someone 💖!
Listen....I was going talk about eating healthy today, but God really put this on my heart to share. Be blessed!