28/02/2026
In school we’re trained to be very neutral, almost blank. Don’t share much, don’t react too strongly, don’t influence, don’t make it about you. The goal is to keep therapy safe. But in real life, people don’t open up to a wall. They open up to a person. The relationship itself is part of what supports healing, feeling seen, responded to, and understood by another nervous system in real time. Sometimes that means I answer a real question, show a genuine reaction, or say “yeah, that would’ve hurt me too.” Good therapy still has boundaries and intention, and it works because it’s human, not because it’s perfectly neutral or robotic.
