06/07/2025
Let's talk about the drift in friendship.
There wasn't a falling out.
Nothing terrible happened.
You're not mad, and you're fairly certain they aren't either, but there is a space between you. You've lost touch, you've grown apart, you've moved on.
Sometimes you feel guilty about it, and sometimes you wonder what exactly happened, but mostly you just hope they're doing good and that they know how much you will always care about them.
That's the drift.
There's nothing wrong with you for losing touch, there's nothing bad or disloyal about growing apart. It's a natural part of life. Your paths were side by side, and at some point the reached a fork in the road. They stayed in their lane, and you stayed in yours.
There's no hard feelings, no wishing of anything, but well, it's just life.
Shake off the guilt, let go of the shame, release the questions.
Let's normalize the drift. Let's normalize cheering on the friends we've lost touch with from a distance. Let's normalize being completely for someone with out being in their life anymore.
That friendship, it mattered, so much, and losing touch doesn't detract from that one tiny bit.
Some friendships are for seasons, and some are for the long haul. Both are precious. Celebrate the friendships you have now, and be open to the ones coming, life is full of surprises, and your path is exactly where you belong.
Love,
Jess
* Sister I am with you.
