29/12/2023
An Open Letter to the families of Organ Donors,
Thank you. I wish the English language had bigger words to express gratitude… Those two words seem far too small to hold the hundreds of emotions that accompany these circumstances.
In the hardest moment in your life, you made an extremely selfless choice. In the depths of your shock and grief, you actively chose to give hope to others. That legacy will impact the recipients and their families for the rest of their lives.
Recipients may never learn who you are and you may never know where your gift made an impact, but someday, we hope you feel peace. We hope you know that your choice has given a wonderful human a chance to continue living. We hope you know that the recipients have thought of you and your family member every day since they were told a donation is necessary to heal.
Loss is not unknown to the majority of humanity… the pain and grief that comes with losing someone you deeply love is visceral. Actor Andrew Garfield famously shared that grief is all the unexpressed love you have for who was lost. Along with that, I found the attached image concerning grief many years ago from a website called The Ralph Site, and it has stuck with me.
That pain of loss never really changes, it is an ever-present companion. But our ability to grow and change alongside this companion is when things become slightly more bearable. We hope the ebbs and flows of time allow this to happen for you and your unexpressed love.
Your family is now a part of the recipient’s family. Your family will be lifted up and thought about and mentioned in conversation as long as they live. Because of you and your loved one’s selfless choice, another family’s loved one has been able to remain earth-side. Despite wishing that pages and pages of meaningful and important words could be funneled into these two, they’re what we have…
Thank you.
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A dear friend and colleague shared her family’s experience as loved ones of an organ donor earlier this year. She said that, oftentimes, medical professionals won’t even think about looking at the organ donor status on your driver’s license. The best thing you can do, if you’re interested in being an organ donor, is to have that conversation with your family members. Let them know your wishes so, if the unimaginable happens, they know how to move forward. For all of you who have had those conversations and are willing to give the gift of life, we thank you, too.