28/07/2024
“It’s one of the hardest things: to release people without closure, to forgive people without apologies, to let go of memories that haunt you, but analyzing it doesn’t work all the time and there isn’t any benefit either.”
Sometimes it’s hard to get this. When I first started trying to practice it, the blends FORGIVE and CONSOLE on the heart space were my absolute best friends. It borders a miracle how much the frequency of these blends can support us. Got questions? Just send a dm and I’ll be happy to help!
Let me tell you something…
You’re never going to understand why they did what they did.
It’s never going to make sense to you. You’re never going to be able to fathom it or wrap your mind around it. You’re not built that way.
Stop trying to rationalize things that will never be reasonable. By all means give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they’re broken. Maybe they’re acting out of trauma or pain. You can always give grace.
But they still chose something you wouldn’t choose, and no matter how much you pick at it and turn it over and over in your mind, you’re never going to understand. Your core values just don’t align.
And thank goodness.
Because you don’t want to be them, and deep down you know that. You want to be you. You need to be you so try not to get stuck on asking yourself “but how could they?” “Where did I go wrong? Why would they do this?”
The actions of an unhealthy person will rarely make sense to a healthy one, so please don’t contort yourself, twist yourself or trip over yourself trying to understand their heart. Please don’t drop the things that truly matter because you’re grabbing at sand and most of all, please don’t waste one second of your precious time and energy trying to figure it out.
You’re not perfect and you know it, but you’re willing to clean up your side of the street. You’re willing to be humble and teachable. You’re willing to listen and do better going forward. Not everyone is built that way. They’re just not.
It’s one of the hardest things: to release people without closure, to forgive people without apologies, to let go of memories that haunt you, but analyzing it doesn’t work all the time and there isn’t any benefit either.
Sometimes it’s a difference of heart and as painful as it is, you’ve got to accept what is without ever receiving a “why.”
It’s their mess.
Leave it with them, prop your feet up and go live your life.
Love,
Amy & Jess