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Vanessa's Family Solutions Ideas to help improve relationships & family life. Step-by-step actions to heal relationships & turn wrong to feeling right. Utilise The Nurtured Heart Approach.

Develop wellbeing, attitude and actions to improve your day-to-day & their future. Down-to-earth ideas to cause good change in relationships. Understand how genders differ and how both can work together.

HOLD THEM IN SILENCE.
08/07/2025

HOLD THEM IN SILENCE.

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Our theme this week - Meltdowns and Tantrums








24/06/2025

This is the ethos and culture I would advocate now for an ideal way to bring a child into balance. It's about contact and community.

24/06/2025
10/06/2025

Don't Take It Personally When Your Teen Is Rude
One moment your teen is laughing with you, and the next, they’re slamming doors, rolling eyes, or offering one-word answers with a tone that stings.
It’s easy—almost automatic—to take these behaviors personally. But here’s the truth; their rudeness isn’t about you.
During adolescence, teens brains are still developing—especially the parts responsible for impulse control, empathy, and emotional regulation. They are also grappling with their growing need for independence, which often expresses itself through defiance or detachment.
Their pushback isn’t a rejection of you, but a normal, necessary step in their quest to form their own identity. While this doesn’t mean you have to tolerate disrespect, it helps to understand that much of their behavior is developmental, not deliberately cruelty.
Taking it personally can escalate conflict and damage the connection you’re ultimately trying to preserve.
So what can you do?
Breathe: When your teen lashes out, try not to match their intensity. A calm response models emotional regulation and keeps the door open for future communication.
Set Boundaries, Not Punishments: It's okay to set firm limits around how you expect to be treated. Explain clearly what is and isn’t acceptable—but do so from a place of calm authority, not anger.
Don’t Let Their Mood Dictate Yours: Teens are moody. It’s not your job to fix their feelings or absorb their bad day. Offer empathy, but don’t lose your footing in the process.
Focus on Connection: Even if they act like they don’t care, your presence matters. Keep showing up. A shared joke, a kind gesture, or just sitting beside them during a car ride can reinforce your bond, even when words fail.
Remember the Long Game: Your teen’s journey to adulthood is a marathon. Be patient, and trust that the respectful, loving relationship you’ve been building all along will emerge stronger with time.
In short, don’t confuse their struggle for autonomy with a personal betrayal. They are growing, changing, and learning—and your steady presence will make all the difference.
Grown and Flown staff writer

BE A GREAT MODEL
08/05/2025

BE A GREAT MODEL

KEY WORD - GUIDANCE
08/04/2025

KEY WORD - GUIDANCE

KEY WORDS- SETTING BOUNDARIES
08/04/2025

KEY WORDS- SETTING BOUNDARIES

ALWAYS! If it's practised, it's accessible when needed.
12/02/2025

ALWAYS! If it's practised, it's accessible when needed.

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08/02/2025

I like this graphic illustration.

Takers vs.Givers

29/01/2025

PERFECTO

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