A Modern Midwife

12/12/2025

05/12/2025

A little self care to help keep the girl happy:
• Think front to back, always — it’s the easiest way to keep the neighborhood peaceful.
• Keep the products simple: unscented, gentle, nothing perfume-y. Your v***a is not trying to smell like a tropical candle.
• No douching — your va**na is a self-cleaning queen and does not need power-washing.
• Wash the v***a only with warm water and a mild cleanser. The inside? Off limits.
• Let it breathe: cotton underwear, looser fabrics, and skip the underwear at night if that feels good.
• Change out of wet swimsuits or sweaty clothes sooner rather than later — moisture is yeast’s love language.
• Daily liners? Use sparingly. They can trap heat and throw off the ecosystem.
• After s*x, p*e and rinse externally. Quick, easy, protective.
• If you’re someone who gets yeast/BV easily, consider a probiotic (some studies suggest L. crispatus).
• On your period, change tampons or pads every 4–6 hours; clean cups well between uses.
• On antibiotics? Keep an eye out — they can make yeast feel a little too at home.

02/12/2025

Ok with a little juice, just not coffee.

22/11/2025

🧊 finding out in . Proud of my fellow Karens.

19/11/2025

✨Teamwork makes the dream work.✨

12/11/2025

Random thoughts from a midwife…

05/11/2025

My 30s: I need coffee.
My 40s: I need CoQ10, magnesium, and no caffeine after noon.

31/10/2025

Not sponsored, but a very good way to make the dollar stretch.

27/10/2020

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I woke up this morning to news being shared about a loss within our medical community.

Dr. Chaniece Wallace lost her life to pre-eclampsia this past weekend. She was the Chief Pediatrics Resident at Indiana School of Medicine.

On October 20th, 2020, Dr. Wallace gave birth to her daughter, Charlotte via c-section at 36 weeks.

Despite delivery of her daughter, Dr. Wallace continued to have complications related to pre-eclampsia, including a ruptured liver, impaired kidney function, and elevated blood pressure.

I am so saddened. My heart hurts for her family. For her husband. For her daughter that will never get to feel a hug from her mama. For her medical team that has to process the past several days.

How do we continue to fail black womxn? Dr. Wallace was educated. She had access to care. How did she become part of a statistic that black womxn are ~3-4x more likely to die in childbirth when compared to white womxn?

How, as a medical community do we do better? In a system that prides itself on protocol and process improvement, how do we continue to fail womxn?

If we, as womxn’s health care providers cannot understand how this occurs, then we need more attention on this. We need to understand how our protocols, and policies, and processes can improve.

We need transparent communication.

We need root cause analysis of US maternal deaths not for fear of litigation, but for maternal health improvement.

Rest in Power, Dr. Wallace.

18/10/2020

Post Call.

I’m often asked how I balance being a midwife with my life at home with my husband and two kids.

This morning, I walked out of the hospital to head home after a 24 hour call shift. Twenty-one of those hours I spent in and out of clients’ rooms.

Today I feel drained. Mentally and physically.

Midwifery is not for the weak. But neither is marriage or parenting.

The reality of being a midwife is there is always a blurred line between work and home.

There are times like today, I parent on autopilot until I can get a nap. Days I raced from the hospital to
get to an awards ceremony or arrived late to a game. We’ve said ‘goodnights’ by phone, spent family
dinners at the hospital, and late-night kisses long after bedtimes.

But kids are resilient, and a good partner is supportive. Many of the same traits we experience at a birth
are just a continuation of life at home.

Flexibility. Support. Patience.

We find balance knowing that just
as in life, we have easy days, and days we need to make easier by ordering some good take-out and a
nap!