Renee Yam - Counsellor & Sexologist (2025)

Has your past relational or sexual experiences left you emotionally hurting and in pain? Do you find it difficult navigating expectations, boundaries or communication in your relationships? Do you have concerns about intimacy or are unsatisfied in your sexual relationship? Is viewing pornography affecting your lifestyle, identity or relationships? Counselling provides a place for you to explore your values, hopes and dreams and process different areas of your life or experiences that may be impacting you from living a satisfied and healthy life. It is common for individuals and couples to have challenges and concerns around relationships, intimacy and sexuality. Every aspect of a person’s life is reflected in their sexuality: the past, present, beliefs, relationships, childhood experiences, self-esteem and identity, how we were taught about sex and many other things. Talking to a professional counsellor in a safe and confidential environment can be a way to explore and address any personal, relationship and sexual issues that may be impacting you from enjoying healthy and satisfying relationships. Renee provides counselling in the following areas:
• Self-esteem, confidence & identity
• Communication skills
• Coping with emotions
• Assertiveness & boundaries setting
• Relationship issues
• Lack of sexual enjoyment & intimacy
• Performance anxiety
• Female and male sexual dysfunctions
• Sexual abuse and its impacts on sexuality
• Pornography

04/05/2025

Why is pain the default expectation for Christian women when it comes to s..x?

Not desire.
Not joy.
Not exploration.
Pain.

And not just physical pain, but emotional disconnect, fear, and pressure.

Somewhere along the way, the message shifted:
That discomfort is spiritual.
That silence is maturity.
That “pushing through” is faithfulness.

But none of that reflects the heart of God for intimacy.

What if we told a different story?

✨ That your first time doesn’t have to be perfect, but it should be SAFE.
✨ That you can take your time, ask questions, and explore slowly TOGETHER.
✨ That s..x is not something you owe… it’s something you’re invited to ENJOY, too.

This isn’t about performance.
It’s about permission.

Permission to be curious.
To feel.
To learn.
To be fully present in the body God designed.

✨Want more of these conversations, the ones we never heard growing up?
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If you’ve been waiting for the right time to change the story… this is it.
You don’t need to figure this out on your own.
You need a roadmap.
You need language.
You need space to grow.

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29/04/2025

You can love God deeply and still feel disconnected from your own s..xuality.

You can have a beautiful Christian marriage and still wrestle with intimacy and desire.

Most Christian wives were taught how to stay “pure”...

But not how to embrace their God-designed s..xuality with confidence inside marriage.

Not how to nurture desire.
Not how to enjoy intimacy without guilt, duty, or shame.

Here’s what I wish every Christian woman knew about s..x, desire, and emotional connection:

👉 Desire often grows when we intentionally give ourselves permission to think about ourselves as a s..xual being.
👉 Curiosity (not criticism) is the starting place.
👉 God’s design for intimacy is about mutual joy, connection, and delight, not pressure or performance.

Drop a ❤️ if any of this resonates with you.

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26/04/2025

Drop a ❤️ if this resonates with you or challenges you.

Lately, I’ve been sitting with this simple truth:

If God loves me, I can love myself too.

It sounds obvious, but sometimes we live like it’s not.
We tell ourselves we’re not enough.
We carry shame for simple mistakes.
We put too high expectations on ourselves that we wouldn’t put on anyone else.
We second-guess if we’re worthy of being cared for, even by ourselves.

But when I stop and really let His love land in the depths of my heart, it changes how I see everything.

He calls me His beloved.

If God - in His kindness, His patience, His mercy - calls me His beloved,
then who am I not to love who He has made?

Learning to love yourself isn’t prideful.
It’s agreeing with the truth God has already spoken over you.

Maybe you needed that reminder today too.

I’m going to meditate on this a little longer….

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25/04/2025

Everyone says “marriage takes work”… but no one really tells you how to grow closer.

We hear:
“Don’t go to bed angry.”
“Always forgive.”
“Pray God changes you, not your spouse.”

But what if that advice isn’t helping you feel emotionally connected?

What if:
💭 You need space to calm down first?
💭 You grew up handling emotions totally differently?
💭 “Dying to self” has made you disappear instead of drawing you closer?

Here’s the truth:

Real intimacy in Christian marriage doesn’t come from doing everything right.
It comes from building trust.

And trust is built when:
• You give each other space when emotions run high
• You come back ready to listen
• You say what you need—without shame
• You understand that your spouse’s needs might look different than yours

It’s not selfish to want closeness.
It’s not shameful to express your emotional or physical needs.
It’s not weak to be vulnerable.

That’s why I write honest, faith-based marriage insights every week—to help couples grow in emotional intimacy, strengthen their communication, and build deeper connection.

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