Sarah-Jane Gomes

17/08/2024

I have been distant from socials for past few months and there has been many reasons. As I shared a reel from a night out with friends, I felt the pull to share more of what’s been happening and if this post helps or inspires one person then it’s a bonus.

I know being vulnerable is scary but also know there are more people that are feeling the same or dealing with struggles or situations and so my intention is by sharing it encourages them to know they are not alone and the more we stop hiding and pretending everything is ok and bring down the masks the more our soul can feel seen and acknowledged and safe to receive the help and support it needs. 💜

I had a fun night with friends last night.
From childhood I felt like I didn’t belong and different. Misunderstood- not cool or trendy and was bullied a lot for not thinking or acting like others.
This turned to years of mental torture and both emotional and physical abuse to the point I didn’t want to exist. But I learnt to keep this hidden as no one understood or was coming to save me.
Over the years I was always the joker and entertainer and came across very confident, but this was a mask to hide what I was truly feeling inside.

I’ve got high grades even though I always felt stupid and not good enough. I held various jobs, been successful and always pushed myself to work harder and be better and not take anything for granted.
As a result of what I experienced, I never wanted others to feel that way so without realising it from my pain I had a gift to know what to say or even be in silence but make those around me feel safe because that is the one thing I struggled with the most.

My life changed course 12 years ago after my daughter was born and has been the biggest blessing and what helped me wake from this nightmare and start to unpick life - ask questions and remember my soul mission as a healer and expand my consciousness.
I sunk deeper into more lessons and experienced further trauma and abuse but this has served me by facing levels of darkness that I have experienced and so been able to overcome and guide others through.
I wouldn’t wish this on anyone but also understand this is what my soul signed up for and we all have a purpose, mission and responsibility to fulfill during this lifetime.

💜Healing
I’ve completed lots of different healing modalities and courses and trained as a multiple practitioner and helped many people.

But, the truth is you are always a student and teacher in life.

Even after processing the deeper layers of trauma, more layers will emerge. And that’s ok. Everything we need comes to us in divine timing.
Because we are complex beings.
Because we carry teachings from this and past lives.
Because we have ancestral karma and limitations to acknowledge and heal.
Because we are here for a great reason and purpose ~ each and every single person to exist.
Life is not linear.

💜My Life is very different now.
I accept and live myself after a lifetime of rejection.
I understand the reason for all things and have expanded my knowledge and perspective to see the bigger picture.
I’ve unlocked and remembered lifetimes as a healer and wisdom keeper and all everything I thought I need to know learn and understand ~ has always been within.
I’ve unlocked the ability to quantum leap timelines and and heal at our core level and DNA.

This was all a process.
As we are energy I am now conscious of what I consume: food, quality of water, toothpaste and toxins. What I listen to (no msm) music, tv, people

When you realise everything is energy at its core and essence and what and WHO you interact with has a big effect.

——-Choose your company wisely because the people around you will either light you up or drain your energy 💜——-

Working with energy I often get overwhelmed at times feeling deeply others emotions and the intensity. I’ve always been a people pleaser (to help keep myself safe and loved) but at the cost of over giving. This has often led to a negative impact on myself of feeling drained without learning boundaries and putting others before myself; which I have now changed and instilled healthy boundaries in all areas of my life.

Recently this year my health has been deeply affected. I have experienced chronic fatigue and other health conditions which got fairly serious and was my body screaming for me to listen.
(Our bodies are so intelligent and constantly communicating, but often we fail to listen).
I use meditation to help clear the external noise and really tune in to receive messages and guidance.

Sometimes the universe will pull the rug and force you to listen or as I refer to as a ‘b*tchslap’ with love to get you to realign and evaluate life if you are going down the wrong path and failing to listen to the signs. Your higher-self and guardian angel are always guiding you. (I will leave this for another post as it’s a huge topic in itself - but let me know if you want to learn more).

💜Questions:
What is life without your health?
With all the money or material possessions cannot bring you comfort if you are unwell.
But all is not lost because this is where we have the ability to tap into our own power coupled with faith, trust and action to create and access endless possibilities in this life.

My recent health has forced me to take a deep look at what’s important and focus on what I really want and set new goals for my future, that are more aligned.

Often being of service to others you tend to forget yourself and probably can relate, you are no good to anyone. That’s why they say put on your own oxygen mask before helping your kids or others. Makes so much sense.

What I have remembered:
Don’t take life or time for granted.
You deserve the best, so don’t settle or compromise.
Live life, have fun and know you have the power to choose and reject anything that doesn’t feel in alignment or bring you peace.

IF YOU READ THIS FAR, THANK YOU. I DIDNT EXPECT FOR THIS POST TO BE THIS LONG.
We are all on our journey aswell as walking along side each other.
So be Kind to others (including yourself) and remember YOU matter and are here on this earth for a special reason.

Be your amazing self.
Love SJ x

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18/12/2023

I felt a bubble of energy in my the pit of my stomach building- like a volcano waiting to erupt; Irritated, frustrated and exhausted.

Grateful for self awareness to recognise my patterns and step into a place of observation and so stop Mount Etna 😂. I shared with a friend how I was feeling which immediately diffused the spark by acknowledging what I was feeling.
The domino effect had the potential of cascading was haulted...

Zoe’s Christmas pantomime and performance yesterday was cancelled by text an hour before the show 😵‍💫I was disappointed (for Zoe) and angry because we invited family members that travelled from far and I felt bad for them and guilty for the inconvenience.
YES this is what I was feeling.

Zoe called me from the ladies (could hear the upset in her trembling voice) to tell me it was postponed. I stayed calm (neutral voice) and let her know I was on my way to collect her.
So often we project our thoughts, beliefs, energy on others and our children especially absorb and take this on. All unconsciously ofcourse!
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How do you navigate such situations with your children?

Life is full of disappointments and situations that are often out of our control, so this not something that can be avoided.

Firstly, I had to deal with what I was feeling.
I communicated with her headteacher by text and in person. I was able to understand because of low attendance due to illness the decision was made but expressed how the short notice impacted others. By taking action and staying neutral it dissolved the negative energy, which more importantly I did not have when communicating with Zoe after.

This is what I’ve learnt:
💜Listening is key to understanding and allowing someone to express and release their emotions. Often it can be uncomfortable to witness, so it’s easier to offer a tissue when we see tears or tell them to stop shouting with fear of creating a scene but this does not help them!

No judgment- this was me also few years back.
However, on the awareness and healing journey, I have learnt the power of communication and embracing ALL emotions as they are part of us to be felt and given permission to be acknowledged.

It is when we suppress these that it’s leads to pain, trauma, illness locked in the bodies that manifests in different ways physically/mentally.
Children often learn from the behaviour of those around - and will adapt to keep others happy.

It is our responsibility to enable them to have a healthy relationship with their feelings and I’m passionate to lead awareness of emotional intelligence and create a safe space to express and understand themselves at a deeper level.

By doing so it leads to healthy, happy and compassionate children and what could have blown into hours of distress and frustration, dissolved. In this instance Zoe didn’t feel guilty for letting others down and knew it wasn’t her fault as it is common that as humans we all make things our fault and feel guilt, sadness even when it’s not ours to take on.

A basic yet essential need of ALL humans is to be seen and heard which creates a feeling of Safety.
This can then grow into confidence, trust and a sense of value and worth.
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We took the opportunity to have our post performance family lunch and celebration at Zoe’s favourite restaurant ’Ask Italian’ ~ where the staff know her by name. And like her mother, always the joker as pictured below.

It is important to feel and acknowledge your feelings and emotions but you don’t have to stay stuck in that unpleasant situation for longer than necessary.
Everyday is an opportunity to learn, grow and expand. To be more of your true essence ✨ Love✨

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